I sent a close relative a gift quite awhile ago for a special occasion. I mailed it to their home and I know they received it because my mom mentioned it. I don't expect to be thanked profusely but an acknowledgment might be nice... so at least I know they got it. Am I wrong in wanting to at least know they received it? (The only reason my mom knows is because she saw the gift in their home, not because they told her to tell me they got it.) I always make sure to let someone know I got their gift or thank them for the gift. Even if it's a few weeks later.
2007-06-17 06:50:41 · 11 answers · asked by two_kee_kees 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes they should let you know they received it, and a simple thank you is not an unreasonable request. I would call and casually mention that you had sent them a gift some time ago, and were wondering if they had actually received it.
2007-06-21 05:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also always let relatives or distant friends know that I have received a gift, either by writing or by calling within a day or so after receiving it. Such a courtesy is increasingly important since more and more consumers order items on line or send them via a shipping service.
For starters, if some one has sent a perishable item, such as a bouquet of flowers or a basket of fruit, and if it is less than perfect, the sender can have the purchase replaced or a percentage of the order taken off his or her charge card. Also, gift giving at special times, like high school graduations, helps family and friends keep in touch.
Then again, sometimes it's better not to know how the recipient used the gift. I sent two dozen assorted roses to my brother's family about three weeks ago since my brother and sister-in-law have birthdays a day apart, and my two nieces were graduating from high school and college, respectively. When the thank you note finally came this week, my sister-in-law noted that she had put the bouquet in the girls' bathroom.
2007-06-17 07:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie Evans-Thyme 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, you are not wrong. I am amazed at how people are so rude in not thanking and acknowledging a gift when it's received.
It's kind of up in the air as to if an email is acceptable as opposed to a written thank you, but, certainly you have every right to expect one of these.
I would not be sending any more gifts to this person.
2007-06-17 10:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I as quickly as observed the same question in a "costly Abby" style of etiquette column. She stated to no longer push it or hassle the relative, yet whilst it persisted, or if it develop into already easy for the kin to no longer convey thank you for presents, to easily end sending them. If this is the 1st time this is happend, you could gauge what to do when you deliver yet another present for a trip or birthday. That way, if it keeps, you be attentive to that there is not any way there develop into any style of mistake, that they are in simple terms unappreciative, and you're thoroughly interior the remarkable via no longer sending any extra. And who knows, maybe after a at the same time as they'll coach you that they have replaced.
2016-10-09 09:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. I always give special and meaningful gifts to people and they don't usually respond. I used to wait but I don't expect any more...I know that's very discouraging but some people just take for granted and are happy to get things from others. I know they should at least acknowledge and appreciate your thoughtfulness whether they like it or not... Don't get so discouraged. You are a blessed person who likes to give. That's your gift from God, so keep giving~
2007-06-17 07:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by only4zzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a call. And say it as it is:..... You know I sent you a present and I wondered if you got it, knowing what the postal service is like. oh, ok, right, no, just checking, because I have tried things going missing. And I hadn't heard anything from you. And leave it like that. Maybe they sent you a card you didn't receive. Being inquisitive and light will make it a small deal. You get rest for you mind, and leave it. Some people aren't bothered about saying thanks and mannered stuff like that.
I called my sister and asked her if she sent a present for my daughters birthday because we haven't had it and it could have been lost. Well she forgot the birthday. And I had worked myself up about it. But you got to check just to put your mind to rest.
2007-06-21 05:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong at all...They are....shows they were not raised with proper knowledge of ettiquette and manners....I would simply ask if they recieved the gift and never send them another.
2007-06-17 09:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by HouAnswerGuy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are rude. Don't send them gifts in the future.
2007-06-18 00:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is pretend you don't know they got it, call, and say that you sent them a little something, but since you haven't heard, you're afraid they never got it.
This should prompt the thanks that you should have gotten.
2007-06-17 10:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's totally o.k.!! i get annoyed even if my text message isn't replied to. Try to find out if they thank any one at all .
*If yes, they dont like you and u must get back at 'em
*If no, then they are simply screwed up :)
2007-06-17 07:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋