Hiya any advice???

Question

My mum and dad moved away last year to another country and i am 19 and decided to stay behind with my older brother 22 and my little sister 14. My lil sis was upset when they left but she did not want to go with her we all live together, and i recenlty noticed on my computer that she had been entering chat rooms and she has been talking to men like 19 year olds and people saying that they her age and there were some quite alarming comments that they had left her and one said they were going to meet up i am really worried i have tried taling to her but i just cant get through to her. any advice what i can do???

There is no way for my lil sis to go out to live with her mum and dad as her mum has fallen ill. My older brother is really not very responsible.

Answer 1

I am wondering why your parents left their 14 yr old..she needs her parents presence and guidance at this difficult age. Perhaps that is why she is looking for love and attention.
You should alert your parents, they need to know what is going on...are they available to speak with her even if over the phone? But to answer your question, you should put parental controls on her computer...even for the time being do not allow her access to the Internet. This is a very scary but real problem facing our children and most stem from lack of supervision.
You are a good and loving sister to be concerned for her and please continue to supervise her closely and, if possible, get your big brother actively involved..her safety and well being is at stake here.

Answer 2

ok, this is a little risky, but I think I might know a good trick. You need to get a free email account and start emailing her, pretending they are from a 20 yr old or some age. Tell her they should meet up somewhere close to you. If she agrees then thats bad, but the plan goes on for that purpose. Find a good friend of yours, that is older, that she's never met. It would be great if he was about 40. or just older. then when she sees him she will most likely be scared and try to leave the meeting place. thats when you show up. Then, explain to her that if you had not known that man it could have been someone that could've kidnapped her or worse, that will send a fright into her. and Will hopefully help the problem so she will not ever do that again.



best o' luck

.:*~Tara~*:.

Answer 3

You sound very responsible, and that is really sweet of you. Confront her, speak to your parents, better yet, speak to your older brother. Where is he in the picture ? I have seen hundreds of kids 12 - 15 asking questions on sx, and otherwise, which are alarming...i mean at that age. It is only but natural. She is growing up, she does not have her mom and dad around. So take this as your responsibility, confront her, but confront her sweetly. The moment you throw a tantrum, she may get rebellious or secretive. You yourself is a kid, at 19. I think you should speak to your bro, or someone really close to you, since you may not want to disturb or alarm your parents who are miles away from you. Take it calmly just the way your mom would have dealt with it. I am sure you can find some solution, like, keep timings, and tabs. Keep a timetable for her, where she uses the computer only when you are around (lock the computer with a password or something..or log into a net nanny), or someone responsible is around.....that way its really checked. Talk to her, how wicked pple can get around on the internet. She is naive, and be sweet to her...she is still a kid...she is curious, just like anyone of us at that age...

good luck

Answer 4

You need to notify your parents what is going on. I can't understand 2 adults that would move and leave children behind. There can be legal ramifications, especially where the 14-year old is concerned.

You need to explain to your younger sister about the dangers of communicating with predators and how people can misrepresent themselves so easily on the internet.

You also need to put a password on the computer and lock it up! When your sister is allowed on the computer, say to research homework or to play a game, it should be done under adult supervision.

You sound as though you are out of your depth. This requires an adult to handle. Notify BOTH your parents immediately.

Answer 5

Well i have been on chat rooms myself, i can see why u are worried. Maybe u should find out some information about what has happened to some of the unfortunate people that met up after going on chat rooms. Because she might see how much danger she is putting her self in.

Answer 6

oh my God!you should do something about this. this is a serious problem and better inform your parents about this and your older brother to stop this nonsense thing bec it might put your sis in a dangerous situation. she is too young for this. maybe your sister is just rebelling.talk to your sister calmly and in a nice way so that she will not panic.explain to her the dangers or the negative outcome of what she is doing

Answer 7

wow just 19 and so mature,i take my hat off to you.this is a huge problem can you share it with your older brother?i would seek professional advice on this one as its important for you to help your sister and you need back up.can you tell your parents?get family involved in this can you get some kinda lock on the computer,as i know very little about computers!hay i wish you and yours the best.good luck

Answer 8

talk to her about the predators and there are shows that show people catching these online predators. try to find on demand or something. they really help to show kids what could really be behind the other computer screen. and try to keep her out of the chat rooms. or monitor the conversations.
it could really help her for the future.

Answer 9

sabotage the computer or get a computer shop to block chat sites, I would be careful incase she is a computer expert and say it will get fixed.

I sure you are aware their are some sick people out there and will try and groom her into perhaps something she doesnt want to do..You 2 stick together, do something fun together and it will take her mind off the computer.

Good luck..Jamie 28yrs

Answer 10

Your parents' relationship seems as though it might be coming to an end, they are probably fighting alot and dealing with infidelity on both sides. Brace yourself, because there might be a divorce coming, be strong you're 19 and an adult.