What do you think about this and has it worked? seems everyone has dated multiple times before getting married or in the right permanent relationship.
Does dating many times increase your security or self-esteem?
I am 19 and in my first ever relationship with an older girl who has also never dated. We've dated for about 1.5 years. When things are complicated, I wonder if its because we've never dated before. It brings out a possessive quality in us and makes us prone to insecurity. Yet, we want to marry no matter what when we can. Not jbecause we dont want to date another person but because we love each other. Any people out there besides me that want to date and marry one person in life?I hope I'm not messed up for thinking that even one relationship in the past can hurt the person u end up with and ur chastity. I waited for the right one. Am I a dreamer? idealist? idiot? I should also mention that how I was raised and my culture plays a part. Ex: Parents never had any baggage
2007-06-17 06:41:16 · 8 answers · asked by thepboy57 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No your not an idiot to want to be with the one person you've ever been with for the rest of your life. In fact, I wish more guys had the same idea on relationships that you had. Yes, most people do date alot before getting married, but the dating scene isn't for everyone. You need to stop worrying about what other people are doing and concentrate on what you feel is right and what is going to make you happy. Also,, you mentioned that not being in a realtionship beffore is the reason things get complicated, not true! All relationships get complicated at one point or another, No relationship is perfect and they all have there ups and downs. Do what's in your heart and you'll be happy in the long run.
2007-06-17 06:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been involved with a married man too and although it is true that there is no future in it and I only get to see him a few hours a week, for me that is as good as any single guy I have dated. I have never found a single man who had time for me or bought me stuff or pursued a future with me. I might be wasting my time but at least I am having fun and enjoyoing the time I have with him rather than sit home night after night waiting for the single guy I met to ask me out again.
2016-05-17 23:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The complications in your relationship are not arising from your own individual dating histories. Relationships are just complicated, period. You're just going to have to learn how to deal with them.
But you're 19 years old who has never dated before and is looking for your future spouse who suddenly finds an older woman who has the exact same moral/ideals as you and is deeply in love with you? Sorry, but I'm not seeing a problem here. You just lucked out BIG TIME, man. :)
2007-06-17 06:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that, if you choose not to date, then are in a relationship w/ no prior experience, you can't really know what to expect/not expect and such.
Personally, I don't think that you can truley know what romantic love is until you've experienced what love isn't. Plus, you learn things through dating, & it's pretty hard to meet someone when you don't look for them, right?
And just b/c you've dated in the past doesn't mean you're not faithful to your soul mate. If you remain a virgin until you are married, then i think you're fine.
2007-06-17 06:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Rockstar15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I agree with you. I think I'm very traditional. Anyways, yeah I want my first boyfriend to be my last. I was also brought up like that. My whole generation of family have done it like that and it's worked fine for them. My mum and dad were really happy, they got arranged marriage, but they were each other's first partners. Also my brother and two sisters got married to the first guy/girl they went out with. I think it works out great but the hard part is finding out if he's the one or not. But goodluck in your relationship though. I hope it works out fine.
2007-06-17 06:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents married at 18. They looked like they were 18 at their 50th wedding anniversary last year. I think it is how you feel with the person and not how many people you have gone through. There are many ways to "experience" the world. You two could travel through places instead of people... as long as you agree on where you are going....
2007-06-17 06:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
But as you know exceptions to the rule exist due to the Chaos Principle.
John Lucas
2007-06-17 06:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by johnlucas31320 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simple answer, NOPE.
2007-06-17 06:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋