We've been dating for 4 years. He hasn't propose to me yet. Today he told me he is planning to buy himself a new car next year. But when I asked when will he marry me, he said he doesn't know. He said he loves me, but he's not ready to marry. I'm 33 now and he's 34. He never take me to see his parents. Should I wait him or just break up with him? I feel that he just doésn't want to marry me. He just dare not to break up with me.
2007-06-17 06:24:02 · 10 answers · asked by Chad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people have commitment issues and dont' like the idea of being 'tied-down'. Some people believe once you get married the romance is gone in a relationship. I personally believe 4 years is just a short span of time, you can't really get to know someone in 4 years that well. Take a step back and reevaluate your situation, is your relationship nonstop steamy romance or does he treat you like a wifey? If I've been with someone for half a year I'd introduce them slowly to my family and I always go with what my family says. If my parents disaprove of the woman then I know to just back off and call it quits. Constantly bringing up and talking about marriage to me is the 'kiss of death', especially when I hear "when are we going to get married" on a daily basis.
2007-06-17 06:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by Experienced Male named Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have gone 4 years there is no need to break up. Just do what you think is right. Instead of breaking up just stay separated for a few weeks then see how you feel.
2007-06-17 06:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by metalshred95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's scared and afraid. Getting married is an enormus commitment and everyone is afraid of taking that step. He will come around eventually hopefully. It it seems that your day is never going to come start to drift and maybe just maybe he might relize he needs you and that he definetly should marry you. But don't think that will definetly work so follow your heart.
Why don't you propose to him?
2007-06-17 06:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Momo70707 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are not going in the same direction nor have the same priorities. I say you break up with him. 4 years of a relationship that has marriage up in the air is not good.
2007-06-17 06:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this sounds rather bad from what you've described to go on wasting your life with him. He sounds like a selfish user. Many men today are rather immature and not very responsible.
How many years of being somewhat young do you have left?
2007-06-17 06:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i'd break up with him first. not ready at 34? is he waiting for his pension or something? well..why marry you? he;s got you already and everything is just ok as it is. not for you tho.
leave him, maybe that will make him remember that you are not a given and his freedom means YOUR freedom as well.
also if he is ok with your leaving...then he wasn;t meant to be and he does not really love you.
2007-06-17 06:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Peach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for an alternative. Indicate to him that you are dating someone else and see his reaction.
I think you will get better answer than. He might tell you that he is also checking out with someone else.
2007-06-17 06:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by HGfM 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it really depends on how much u love him it's ur decision it comes down to two decisions is he worth waiting for or is he not worth waiting for
2007-06-17 06:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you he does not know then you have the answer in front of you.
2007-06-17 06:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by nyrican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest break!
2007-06-17 06:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋