even though its years later...and you still can't forget what he did.!!!
God, says you should forgive EVERYONE...
HOW DO YOU DO THAT???!!!
2007-06-17 05:43:26 · 18 answers · asked by Kerilyn 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Love yourself first and start forgiving yourself beforehand if you ever attempt to initiate any form of forgiveness towards others.
2007-06-17 06:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is to ask yourself if you really want to or not. Is not forgiving him an alternative (bag of bricks) that you can live with? Have you gone to him about this? Do you want to forgive him?
Considering if what he did to you is any worse than what you're doing to yourself, should help you to understand that nothing you could do against him is ever going to change the fact that it happened. You can't "un-ding" a bell. For your own peace of mind, forgive him fully, and drop that bag of bricks.
The inner-release you experience will be lasting peace for doing sincerely what you know is really your only option. Don't sit around fretting with the thought that "he got one over on me". That is simply not the case. Everyone was born with a conscience, and sooner or later, his will find him out. Even if it doesn't, what is that to you?
The peace you will have is worth far more than his lack of conscience. You be the better person, and don't let what he did define you for the rest of your life.
Peace to you. If you want it.
2007-06-17 06:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by RIFF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have struggled with this very thing. I searched and searched for instructions - people just kept telling me to forgive and release, but no one could tell me how. I finally found out how and it worked very well:
Sit quietly for 3-5 minutes and get a clear picture of the person you are angry with in your mind - and see them smiling. Imagine them happy and at peace - that's all there is to it. The more clear the picture and the more often you do it, the faster you release your own damaging negative emotions.
It was very hard for me to do this with a few people. Don't chastise yourself, but be sure to try again the next day. I would do it as I lay in bed at night before sleeping - and just go through the list of folks, visualizing them each in their turn. 1 person took me almost 2 full weeks of trying before I could see it.
It is also recommended that while you take the time to do this for the people you are angry at, it is wonderful to do it with people you love as it fills you with love and strength as you try to forgive the others. It is also important to visualize yourself happy before you end any such session - see clearly being happy and that which makes you happy.
Peace!
2007-06-17 05:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are talking about because I am going through the exact thing myself. You should pray for forgiveness for that person even if you really don't mean it just yet. The mind is a powerful thing and you can, with God's help, actually start to forgive them and want them to be forgiven. God Bless!
2007-06-17 05:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Amy K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By realizing that someday, you too will also need forgiveness. If you can't forgive others, then why should you expect forgiveness for yourself.
Second, because as long as you don't forgive, you're letting the person hurt you and push your buttons. You can't control what other people do, but you can control how you react to what they've done.
2007-06-17 06:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Deof Movestofca 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is right..He forgives all of the hypocrites in the world. you know the people who praise Him in one breath and then do something else when they think His back is turned. the way to forgive others is to forgive yourself for being imperfect. you can forgive others because I'm sure, someone has forgiven you.
2007-06-17 05:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know for a fact it doesn't come with a snap of fingers. It is time, and patience. I have forgiven my parents for some crappy things they said and did to me through out my lifetime. But, it wasn't easy. It comes from inside of you. Whether or not you tell them. Saying to someone "I forgive you" is beneficial to you. Because it helps you forgive yourself for any negative thoughts and actions that might have happened in your lifetime.
It all boils down to you! And finding that extra love that your heart has to help you repair pain. It is time, because nothing will mend over night.
2007-06-17 05:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by SDC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same way you go about forgiving yourself. We always are able to forgive ourselves , and therefore we are also able to forgive those who trespass against us. Infact it is a requirement by Jesus himself!!
Mark 11:26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.
Cap'nArlo
2007-06-17 05:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get the book "The Sunflower", by Simon Weisenthal.
it is a book totally about the nature of forgiveness.
2007-06-17 05:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The key to everything in life is understanding. Whatever the person did to you dont judge it as good or bad. Go beyond judgement and into the realm of understanding. Put yourself in his shoes and try to understand the reasons for his actions. Once you identify them, then you must find the roots of the problem.
In this way you are not judging him for whatever wrong he did to you and by understanding him you have already begun to forgive.
2007-06-17 05:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by ANyone but you 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋