whenever we have sex and i come close to orgasim he climaxs first and rolls off. he says he can't help it and is super turned on when i start to breath heavy. i am tired of masturbation AFTER sex.
what can i do to make him understand?
2007-06-17 04:19:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Climb on top, wait until he is almost there & roll off yourself... He'll soon learn!
2007-06-17 04:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Shaz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably already feels a little inadequate if you have voiced these concerns to him. Unfortunately for you, it seems that instead of trying to correct the problem he has decided to throw his hands up and say "I can't help it." The only advice I can give is; if you feel yourself reaching climax, try not to breathe hard so that he won't know you're close-seeing as how this is what really sets him off. Kind of like tricking him so that you can actually have an orgasm. I know that probably diminishes the intensity of the experience for you, but its worth a try in the short term. Eventually, it will have to be dealth with.
2007-06-17 04:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by cudancegirl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me a man is to be respectfull to a woman in bed and out of...I consider if a man will open a door for you, he will also let you have yours first and then have his because us women can keep going and going and men have one shot (at least for a little bit). I believe that it is rude to do that to you! I don't know the men creed or anything but somewhere every man (or at least they should know) should know to please their women first then please themselves. It is proper sex etiquette. He, on the other hand, climaxes, blames you for that climax and then tries to make it better afterwards...I am telling you what..if my husband tried to pull that ( and I mean numerous times), he would be sleeping on the couch. A man should have enough control of his body to keep from ejaculating first. If he can't do that...he is either a selfish man in bed, or really not a considerant man at all. I would tell him that unless he turns things around (a man that loves you will want to please you), that you would be out of the lovemaking department for a while, or during sex, you could try to be as quite as possibe (which never works for me anyway), or teach him to do this all over again...maybe he has a history or early climaxing and he just needs help with it. Teaching is fun anyway because you and him can have fun in the process...if he doesn't want to change, then it is time you have a change and find someone who will wait on you!
2007-06-17 04:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lyndsey H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to have foreplay BEFORE actual intercourse. Play games, oral sex(him on you, because obviously he doesn't need help LOL) That way you can build yourself up, then once your hot and ready, engage in intercourse!! Open yourselves up to new things, experiment with each other!! Also talk openly about it, if he doesn't try harder to pleasure you, then try letting him get close to orgasm and just flat out stop, roll over and pretend your done a couple times!! Then he'll get the picture, and believe me he won't like it either!! If after all that he still doesn't care about your pleasure, then you need to evaluate whats really going on in your relationship!! Sex isn't everything, but it's a big part of it!!!! Good luck!!
2007-06-17 04:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey darkie look, another admirable trait you fail at is PATIENCE. Stop thinking of yourself & focus on your attempts to please him sexually. Remember that sex is all about a Man's needs. Any pleasure you receive as a female is collateral pleasure or residual pleasure. Being female, you have no NEED to ejaculate or achieve orgasm. And remember Most, yes MOST females never, yes NEVER attain orgasm via sexual intercourse. As I said, it's all a bonus for you girls. So be greatful, thankful & satisfied you have a man that is there for the closeness & sexual pleasure you receive from him.
2007-06-17 05:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You try to make him tired once He'll come to know about that later
2007-06-17 04:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by visshpoison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach him what you like so that you don't take longer than he does.
2007-06-17 04:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him..tell him how you feel, and if he really cares for you, he will listen
2007-06-17 04:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by BWaldorf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him: lets do it again and.... get him into it and then you'll be able to have an orgasm...
2007-06-17 04:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by I Heart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure he's a man.
2007-06-17 04:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Babylove 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋