my boyfriend and i were going really well (we've been together 10 months now) but once we hit rough patches, he got panicked and broke it off. 2 or 3 times. each time he'd be telling me he wouldn't let me lose him as a friend and he'd always be there for me and he loved me and cared for me so much. which i knew was true. while all this was going on, he had major college and family problems, and his head just wasn't in a good place.
so he BEGGED for me back this time. i said no because i'm tough and proud, as much as i LOVE him i know i'm a survivor. he told me he's never been so serious about anything in his life, he said he'll go into counselling so that never happens again.
but i'm finding it hard to trust him again. i know he only cracked under the stress, but now i find it hard to believe him. i fabricate everything in my head, i'm dreaming that he's with other girls...stuff i never would have dreamed of him doing before.
2007-06-17 02:30:56 · 10 answers · asked by Chasey Lane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would continue being his friend but wouldn't get into anything serious with him. I don't understand what he is panicking about
2007-06-17 02:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be cautious of him. being in a bad place is no excuse to break up with you. I think you should tell him you need sometime. Wait until he has been in therapy for a while and see if his desires have changed. He might be a good friend but he doesn't sound like he's good bf material.
One of two things either he is just in a really bad place and wants someone to be there for him, in which case you can be there for him as a friend, or he really did "crack under the pressure" and after getting help he will be a good bf.
2007-06-17 02:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...
Well, I guess u make a right decision not to get back with him.
This shows to him that you're not easy to get.
He can't get you whenever he wants and then put you away whenever he wants.
Don't you feel a little bit used?
And it's obvious he don't take pressures well.
That's something he have to improve on.
Cause life is full of pressure.
He needs to learn how to manage it.
It's good to know he's going through counselling.
Hopefully this will improve his attitude.
And I think it's normal to dream that he's with other girls.
Guys are hard to trust.
But it all comes down to trust.
If you really trust him, you won't doubt him.
This shows you that you're losing your trust on him.
Which is kinda bad.
Cause without trust there will be alot of insecurities in the relationship in future.
You either have to learn to trust him back or don't trust him at all.
Goodluck
2007-06-17 02:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are meant to be, you will be. He has some issues that he needs to resolve. If he is serious about resolving them by going to counseling, then maybe you should go with him once or twice after he has gone a couple of times. This way, he can show you that he is really making an effort and his shrink can verify. If he wasn't with other women when you were broken up then I think you should give him another chance since you really love him and want to be with him.
2007-06-17 02:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by harleychic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue the relationship to give both peace of mind. Make a diary of the conversations, quotes, situations you experience, then judge from that as to whether you need to move on.
Date it and make sure you can go back for evidence to prove this is when you said .......Blah Blah Blah.
If he goes back on his word, the diary will prove the consistency in his actions and broken promises. Decide then! Don't be another burden on him, if you care, you stick by him no matter what...besides getting walked on!
2007-06-17 02:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by donna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if he is with other girls.
He can't take pressure.
There will always be pressure of some sort.
Babies make a lot of pressure, along with the enjoyment.
I question whether he has the perseverence a commitment will take.
2007-06-17 02:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like counseling would be best for both of you. Either way, you both can try to resolve your individual issues and then work on your relationship together. Best of luck
2007-06-17 02:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend. If he has family problems that is always hard on a relationship so just be friends.
2007-06-17 02:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, basically i think ur relationship need to work on trust?. but mayb he is tellin the truth. he wouldnt be chasin & BEGGING you to come back to him if he got all these other grls. && if he do got other grls they would be sideline hoes & u his main grl. to tell u forreal tho, i think this boi needs BIG TIME COUNSELIN!!, he sound a lil psycho
2007-06-17 02:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by justaHuman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry...
Be happy....
Dont's worry....
Be happy...
Don't worry, be happy now!
Dunno what else to say, soz. Men confuse me.
Also, what's the question?
2007-06-17 02:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋