I am having a bit of trouble with my mum at the moment...i think she is jelous of me.my dad is smart and i love to be around him, i try to be with my mum as well but all she does is watch tely.we'll watch the t.v altogether talking about the programme then mum will say 'oh, are you talking to be?' making out that she is neglected and left out.i am sick of her and as time goes on i want to spend less and less time with her. my dad said that he will pay for me to go to university, so me being excited kept on chatting about uni and my mum was like, 'when i wanted plastic surgury, you(dad) didnt pay that for me!' i was shocked that she thinks her plastic surgery is more important than me getting a decent education...she does't work, spends money like there's no tomorrow and moans at me when i ask dad to buy me a new top. she says im spoilt but i get all my clothes from asda etc so that i dont spend too much.
can any1 give me some advice on how 2 cope?does any1 have same problem?
2007-06-17 02:27:09 · 4 answers · asked by retro cupcake 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a similar problem with my dad, I think he is jealous of my education. It is like he gets mad at me because I have to go to class, and I have to read and do papers. I dont understand it, however I have learned to just be kind. When I fought back, it only got worse, but when I pray for him, it gets better. My advice to you is try to be kind and understanding, towards your mom. She is acting like that because she misses you and wants you to spend time with her. Sometimes parents have a strange way of handling things. Just smile at her when she starts being ugly, and say I am sorry mum I love you. Maybe try to set some time aside just to be with her. Explain to her your frustration, but try to do it as lovingly as possible. It will get better as time goes on, just pray for her and yourself that God will work in your hearts. Bless you
2007-06-17 02:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by teenhelp911 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember years ago my children--especially my son, would say, "I love you mom, can I have "whatever" or "can I go somewhere. I love you mom" It usually brought a smile to my face although I knew he was just being silly. It usually worked. Could you jokeingly do this to your mother. "hey, mum, I know you wanted plastic surgery, but I love you the way you are" Yes, this can drive your mother farther away. Sometimes for a mother--around the age of 40-50 is a very hard time. She may be experiencing going through menopause and that can be a very rough time. Also, she can feel you slipping away and this hurts also. Just trust me, I know. lol
Good luck to you.
2007-06-17 10:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your mum out of the house and do things together if you can. Not much else to do unless she relizes the problem is hers and wants to do something herself.
2007-06-17 09:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a therapist and if Mom will go with you take her. Your Mom and you need to address this problem.
2007-06-17 09:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by K R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋