She screams when she doesn't get her way, when she's upset, when she wants us, even when she's happy. She has different screams for each time. I know I should be happy that she's communicating, but it's just wearing on my nerves hearing a scream each time she wants something or is upset. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get her to stop?
2007-06-17 01:41:41 · 7 answers · asked by joshua_brooke01 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
stop responding to the screams(it will get worse b4 it gets better) but she will learn that she will have to come up with different ways to communicate with you...good luck
2007-06-17 01:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mylilmanm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion to you is to stop giving her what she wants, whenever she wants it!!!!
She knows nothing, I repeat nothing will be done about her behavior & she knows when I scream, people come to my aid!
It is evident, no one has ever introduced her to the word no, so she has grown accustomed to getting her way by screaming & throwing tantrums.
It is evident, she is a very smart toddler & she knows, if you all don't adhere to her demands, then she"ll go into fit mode.
She"ll have a fit and you all give in, just so you won't have to endure her ranting & raving!
Keep this in mind: You are the adult, she is the child!
Take back your authority, first & foremost by enlarging your vocabulary as well as hers, with the simple 2 letter word "NO"!!!!
Be firm when you say it! No, No, no!!!!
Okay, so you will have to see & hear her perform, eventually, she will stop, because she will get tired & fall asleep, or she'll just surrender to authority!
When she begins to perform, play some feel-good music & dance. Invite her to dance with you, not only will it soothe the beast in her, but it will be a way for you to release the tension in your body!
Find constructive things to do with her when you feel like she's gonna cut a rug!
Remember, it is your sanity at stake, not hers!
2007-06-17 09:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sustagurl2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, good answers from Catelyn and Shelleygail. Maybe cover your ears in response to her screams. Tell her "That hurts my ears. I don't understand when you scream. Use your words, and show me what you want." If she points to something, help her with the word by modeling it: "Oh, milk? You want milk! Milk." Then give it to her. Don't respond to just screams. Encourage other communication. And make sure you reward her attempts. Reward with a smile and positive attention. "Good, you said milk! Now I understand!"
2007-06-17 08:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by leslie b 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for one yeah it is good, but if you jump right to it she is going to think that thats what she is saposed to do to get what she wants and then you are going to have problems when she is older. she already understands you so tell her that she wont get it if she screams for it if she keeps screaming for it put her in a play pen in the other room when she dose it.till you break the habit, sounds mean. i know but as a father of three i do know a bit about this stuff
2007-06-17 08:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by slipout2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she ever speak? We had friends that their daughter always seemed to scream like that, but come to find out she is autistic. She never spoke. I certainly hope that's not the case with your daughter, but just that she is over-expressing herself.
2007-06-17 08:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by shelleygail76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her when she screams. My son is 20months and he would do the same. I stared ignoring him when he would go that. now when he wants something he calmly comes up to me and points or trys to say what he wants. Hes learned that being calm gets him what he wants alot faster than when he yells.
2007-06-17 08:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by Catelyn O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Smack her on the mouth and tell her "you do NOT scream - do you understand me? You ask - NOT scream!"
2007-06-17 12:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋