my mum has a real problem with arguing....my dad didn't make it clear earlier that he wanted to go to his parents house and now my mum is fighting because its too late to go. I know it sounds totally stupid but my mum has a problem...she is now going on and on and on and on about how 'powerless, stupid and idiotic' my dad is. Now my dad has started fighting and i hate it when this happens but my mum just wont shut up!!! how do i get her to stop saying things....she does this all the time, sometimes she can go on at someone for a whole weekend NON-STOP!
2007-06-17 01:31:51 · 3 answers · asked by le_miserable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She does this quite regularly and is tearing the family apart with her anger and verbal abuse...she can use every swear word under the sun in one sentence! Then she makes out like we're the ones in the wrong, and shes too intelligent for us to understand her.
2007-06-17 01:35:14 · update #1
she is not open to talking...if i say she is wrong then she says that i have no right to speak to her like that...apparantely i dnt know what my dad treated her like when i was younger...
2007-06-17 01:44:56 · update #2
Truthfully, I don't think there is a way to stop it. This is their fight. Maybe the best thing you can do is walk out. Take a walk. If they say anything to you, tell them that you should not be hearing this, it is bad for you. It is their fight--not yours. If your mother should criticize you for this, tell her she needs therapy in anger management. I don't know what to tell you. So many things seem so disrespectful to say to your mother. So sorry for your spoiled week-end. Tell your father "Happy father's day"--later. lol
2007-06-17 02:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviouslyyou are old enough to know and hear and see from a distance who is doing what. But you have to also remember -they are adults and you don't want to get in the middle of their argument while it is going on unless it gets physical - and then you should call the police. BUT, as their child, you do have the right to comment because their arguing does affect you in a negative way. Do this - after the storm is over, sit down with your mom over some ice cream or something and just talk to her. Let her know how you feel. Let her know that the name calling bothers you and make sure she knows that you love her and your Dad and you want things to be right. It's ok to fight, but people have not learned how to fight without name calling and throwing things - like little children. What does your dad do when she's going on the rampage? Perhaps you can also talk to him. Parents should pay attention when their children are hurting.
2007-06-17 01:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start by calling your mom to talk about it. Telling her what you think about her behaviour and asking her how she would feel if you did all the yelling? It may be hard to say this to your mom but open yourself, your feelings and ideas just to see what she will say.
2007-06-17 01:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋