my plan to leave him?

Question

after two days that he lie on me, i plan to leave and go back to my place, i go on half day and go to the church to ask god if its the right decision for me. after that i stay on my place until 4 hours and wating him to get my things to his place.after an hour we reach home and i packed my things and i left i didnt even say goodbye to him.when i was waiting for the taxi he saw me, and he told me dont be silly,i really want to go home... he told me ok i will take u,and when we are on the way,i cry so much,i cannot control myself,and i ask him can u pause for a while and give me your last hug... and then we pass by in the station and he told me to go back...i refuse and i told him it would get more worst if stay w/u.now im still w/ him but the doubt is still w/me.he told me before that he will not marry me.... im asking myself why i have to do everything for him...... if its nothing?

Answer 1

Why waste your time catering to someone who doesn't plan on marrying you & lies on you? You can do better & since you mentioned that you went to church, ask yourself, would God really want you, his daughter, to be with someone who does not value you for the queen you are? The answer is no..but if you choose to stay, that is your call but you really need to be strong. I'd cut my losses. If I'm doing all the wifely duties for a man who refuses to marry me, I'd leave. There is no sense in me being something to someone who doesn't even respect me enough to wife me..I'd be like, peace sucka! LOL! Honey, you can find you someone else. God will send you that man for you but you'll never be able to see as long as you're blinded by this one who means you no good.

Answer 2

You MUST get into a few groups. Cedependents Anonymous and Al Anon. Both of these 12 step groups deal with helping the individual to do what is in his or her best interest without guilt or shame. It helps setting boundaries, dealing with abusive people, etc.

Many of us have abandonment issues, and would rather stay in relationships that are destructive rather than move on.


After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul.
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
and company isn't security.
(Kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises.)

After awhile you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open,
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain
and the inevitable has a way of crumbling in mid-flight.

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
if you stand too long in one place.

So, you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone else to bring you flowers.
And you learn you really can endure,
that you really do have worth.
You learn that with every good-bye comes the dawn.

Answer 3

Then leave.