im not letting my son see his dad on father's day?

Question

we broke up about 6mths ago but w stayed as friends and 3 weeks ago we had a big row and i dont want to see him and im stoping my son from seeing him cos i dont like him, is it right what im doing

RIGHT ONCE AGIAN I HAVE TO EXPLAIN THIS,,,, MY EX IS WHO IS ASKIN THIS QUESTION NOT ME, MY EX IS A VIOLENT AGRESSIVE MAN WHO ATTACKED ME WHILST I HAD MY BABY BOY IN MY ARMS!!! I HAVE A SOLICITOR DEALING WITH VISITATION RIGHTS FOR MY EX AS HE HAS MADE TREATS TO KIDNAP MY BOY AND TAKE HIM TO CYPRUS! SO NO I WONT ALLOW HIM TO SEE HIS SON UNTIL HE SORTS OUT A SOLICITOR! I AM NOT ASKING QUESTIONS ON HERE ABOUT MY EX. IT IS MY EX WHO IS MAKING OUT HE IS ME JUST TO MAKE ME LOOK BAD! THIS IS THE 2ND QUESTION HE HAS ASKED ABOUT ME, PRETENDING TO BE ME!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

change your password then. Problem solved

Answer 2

You will pay dearly in the end if you keep your son from his father Boys need there dads and dads need there boys Take that away a you will have to pay the repurcutions when he is older That is an important bond Which can make or break a kid Keep the battle between you two among youself Each parent should never talk badly about the other (The children never ask to be put in this situation) Be civil to each other it makes it easier on the children The only time this rule does not apply is if the father is phyciacally or sexually abusive

Answer 3

As a divorcee and a parent, i would say you definetly are wrong to disallow your son to see his father. Why do people get divorced or seperate, is'nt it cause they fight, have to many differences or just tire of each other. They say in every parting theres is always one who suffers for it. What about the kids, are they no-one. because you and your ex had a fight, why put this on their shoulders. How much does your ex love his child and how much does this child love his father. Being ther childs mother does not give you the right to stop their time together; unless you have reasons to suspect your ex is a danger to your child. my divorce unfortunetly was a bad time for both my ex and myself, but we kept it all good for the kids sake and done all we can to make sure OUR children never felt our dislike for each other, and more important we shared our commitments for them, that is we were able to sit down and work out what was best for them. You can break your ex's heart if thats what you would like to do, but please dont break your childs heart

Answer 4

sweetheart you can be as angry as you want with youre x but stopping youre son from seeing his dad on fathers day is not a good idea.,,......look youre son will more than likely be looking forward to seeing him on fathers day and you stopping him is not fair on youre son ,he is the one in the middle of you 2 and it isnt fair to play youre son like that no matter what is going on between you 2 dont use youre son as a pawn in the game he has had to sit there and watch his parents split up and move in in life and his world has been turned up side down with it you might well not have really noticed how much it affects kids as he wants both his mumand dad to be happy ,do youre self a favour and let youre son see his dad ,do it for him and say to youre son have a nice time with youre dad and i will see you later ,that way youre son is still seeing dad and you cant be made out to be somebody stopping him seeing dad ,,,im telling you as a mumhow is looking after youre wee boy if you stop him ,it could wellin time come back and bite you on the rear....ive seen it happen many a time .....and it is not fair ....i realise that youre really angry and hurt and you want to hit back .....well hit back by being a great mum and tell youre x that you wont stop him from seeing the wee boy as you love youre son and have no intention of upsetting him ....good luck this is nt an easy time take care xx

Answer 5

I know how emotional it can be with an ex and our child, but you have to be the bigger person and let your child see his father. The child shouldn't be punished because of your fight. And the father will see that you are the bigger person by putting your son first and that whatever happened will not effect you emotionally anymore. From now on, try to avoid highly charged topics or issues that could cause you to feel so upset. Putting the child first is ALWAYS the right thing to do.
Good Luck;-)

Answer 6

I know braking up is a difficult time to go through, but, whatever your differances with the father,and how much you don't want to see him,it is unfair to stop your child from seeing his father.children pick up on an atmosphere really well and are suseptable to bad feelings.put on a brave face for your son,and let him see his father,he has the right to grow up knowing both parents,and without resentment for not having that chance.

Answer 7

You should allow father and son to meet on fathers day.You arrange a happy day for them,this will help to bring down tension between both of you,and u can be atleast friends.This will be in my view best for you and ur son in the long run.Wish u all the best.

Answer 8

i think you will suffer in the long run. i am a divorced dad of 2 and know how it feels to be denied access to your children. YOU have fell out with your ex, not your son. no matter how much you dislike his dad, your son should.t be stopped from seeing him. your son may grow up to resent you for not allowing contact with his father. are you prepared for your son to fall out with you for that when he gets older.if your ex is a loving and caring father who wants to see his son then you have no right to stop him. as a parent you do not have "rights" you have responsibilities and as such you should stop being selfish and allow your son to grow up knowing his father. your son can then decide weather to see him when he is older based on his own opinion of him and not your (biased) opinion.

Answer 9

You should do what is best for your son and put aside your personal feelings in order to do that. Every child deserves to see both parents, they shouldn't be caught in the middle of any argument. Preventing your child from seeing his father can have damaging effects on your child and the father.

Answer 10

No it's not right. Unless your son is in any way at risk from any hurt from his dad then you shouldn't keep him from seeing him.
I don't get the chance to see my dad coz he's an a hole and doesn't care about his kids. If they want to see each other,they should.

Answer 11

No, your son should not suffer because of you and your ex's own problems,he could start to blame himself.
So if i was you i would get into your car right away go round to his house and drop your son off!
Good luck to ya!
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