So, I hooked back up with an ex. We've known each other for 22 YEARS, went out, had a strong emotional bond, broke up. He married the girl after me, I married the guy after him. His marriage didnt work out and I'm getting out of mine. We hooked up two weekends ago and he proclaimed to still like me. I told him I would never be his and we continued like we never missed a beat together (it had been four years). Now, he WONT talk to me and claims he has too much problems in his life and cant deal with this too. NOTE: This guy is a very stand up guy and genuine. Also, we have never slept with each other!
Please--all honesty IS appreciated! HELP!!! Why won't he talk to me!!!
2007-06-16 22:20:16 · 11 answers · asked by mayita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the more important question is, Do you want someone like this in your life, there is no satisfaction in having him around. You'd be better off learning your lesson from this and meeting someone new that you're more compatible with and more RELIABLE. Life is too short to be playing games and being miserable! Good Luck.
2007-06-16 22:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you doing? Do you want to be with him totally or not? That's it, that's the only question that matters to him.
If not, then he will be mad for a long time. He wants to be with you and you just want to be friends. He was hoping for romance with you, not friendship. He wants things with you to be easy, he is obviously very stressed.
Most guys just want to say "If you want a friend, get a dog." If some angry women follow this post don't listen to them. They are going to tell you some foo foo about emotions, respect, ect... BUT.... here comes the big secret..... men don't think that way! Trying to use female methods of communicating with a man is like me trying to speak to my pets. Yes they may look like they are paying attention, yes they may acknowledge me, and yes I may get a reaction out of them but in the end they are going to act like cats and I'm going to act like a human being.
So, relate to him like a guy would. Do talk try to talk to him but if you aren't going to provide what he needs then support him but leave him alone. "he can't deal with this too" means that he wants the romance of being with you and he can't deal with not having that fantasy too. He is obviously in pain emotionally.
Okay, well, maybe I did just talk about emotions and respect too??? Hmmm....
I really hope you'll let me know how this turns out.
BTW, big_fat_meerkat hit it right on the mark!! You go meerkat!!
2007-06-17 05:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - you " told him I would never be his "
So why should he talk to you? He has said he has feelings for you and you have made it clear you have no future - why would he put himself through the stress of chasing a girl who doesnt want him?
If you know you will never be together, as you told him, why would you want him to talk to you? Its not fair to play with his emotions if you are not really interested
2007-06-17 05:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds to me like he hasn't found what he searching for in life, he seems to keep moving. He has feelings for you, love but it may not be in the way that you want it, he loves you as a friend. He's playing with you when he's bored. He seems as though he has a lot on his plate. Do you want to be with a man like this. The person that loves you should not treat you like this (ignoring you/verbiage/negative energy) and maybe YOU should rid yourself of him before his negative energy affects you. Don't be his fool, move on with your life and do what you have to do. Empower yourself, be free!!:) You'll feel
better like your life is moving and be much happier with someone who caters to you!
2007-06-17 05:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Cherie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude is in his depress mode. I mean coming out of a marriage and maybe heartbroken? Who wouldn't want some peace and quiet.
2007-06-17 05:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to be burned again. He may care about you and fear rejection again.
Consider how you feel about your marriage and consider further that he might feel similarly about his.
Move on with your life. This might work out and might not, but it probably won't.
2007-06-17 05:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what he is not interrested with you and he may have found a new girlfriend that sleep with him so he can't not see you and get in trouble because of you.
2007-06-17 05:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by rosseforlove_gutar 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So what he is not interrested with you and he may have found a new girlfriend that sleep with him so he can't not see you and get in trouble because of you.
2007-06-17 05:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it could be many reasons the most likely reason why he is not talking to you is coz he really really wants you back and you turned him down so it hurts for him to talk to you
2007-06-17 05:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps his wife is extorting him, hence the behavior change.
2007-06-17 05:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋