i feel like my boyfriend is never himself around me. he always plays his warcraft game on his computer (sometimes i try to switch the breaker off to get him to get off and it doesnt work), and never spends "quality time" with me. he wont just lie down and watch tv with me or talk to me about anything. when he comes to bed he wants to sleep not talk to me . he says im wrong all the time when we argue. he'll ditch me to go to the bar with his friends whom im not really fond of (i cant go with him cause im underage for a few months yet) regardless if i have plans for us or whatever it may be. he doesnt go to sleep when i do cause he's playing his game. when we're around people i feel like he agrees with negative things his friends or others say about me to be macho or something but it hurts me. we live together and when we meet new people his says its "his house, his bed, his phone" i dont like that either cause we live together its "ours".
2007-06-16 21:09:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just dont know why he is like that . why is he a jerk to me all the time? what should i do?
2007-06-16 21:10:48 · update #1
we're in a common law relationship (meaning the law recognises the relationship as a marriage because we cohabittate together) and my boyfriends does not like it when i reffer to him as my husband or call him my hubby. he says he doesnt want to get married or have kids in the future. if we dont see the same ways in our futures what should i do? i love him dearly but i dont want to sacrifice my ambitions of a family and marriage one day cause of him. please help. anything to help myself explain my relationship would be very helpfull.
2007-06-16 21:17:47 · update #2
Why are you still with him. Most girls would have already kicked his a*ss by now, and found themselves a better guy. Do you want a husband like this? I wouldn’t!
2007-06-16 21:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You live with him and he is never himself around you? Hmmm.... I don't know that I would be happy in a situation like that. If I had to beg for his attention or if I felt like I was living in HIS house, then I wouldn't stay. Life is too short. I would get my own place with my own things and I MIGHT invite him over once in a while. Granted I have only heard one side of the story, it sounds to me that you feel lonely in this relationship. There has to be two people in it. If he is not IN the relationship, then you need to get OUT. Don't live your life trying to change him or make him be what you want him to be. The only person you can change in this life is YOU. Focus on you. Find YOUR happiness. You are more important than some warcraft game. Just my opinion... Good luck!
2007-06-24 20:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by R.B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are really revengeful (like me) so this could be a problem. If you really hurt him in Sept then he will keep doing stuff to make you as mad as you did him. If you never showed him things got you mad then things just kept getting worse because he felt he didnt "do his job" to get you mad. Try to give him a chance and try to talk things out. You could've also told him when it bothered you instead of waiting so long to tell him that he is treating you differently. Tell him on the spot if you can or text him if people are around or just wait until the end of the day. It could be that he didn't notice but it could also mean that he's getting you back. Try to give him one more shot and talk things out. Good luck :)
2016-05-17 21:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys usually act different towards their girlfriends because there are things you can confide in or share with a women that you can't or feel weird doing with a guy or certain guys.
I think you should leave him, if he doesn't treat you how you think you should be treated walk out the door. I'll never understand why women stay with a guy they don't really like or think poorly of.
Most guys will try to be 'nice' to their girlfriend and are really 'mean' behind their back with their friends but here your describing a guy who's pretty much 'mean' all the time to your face.
2007-06-16 21:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by John96 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is taking you for granted because you are commonlaw. you have "granted" him permanent status and so he doesnt fell the need to earn it all th time.
HES WRONG OF COURSE
But tell us this, do you ever have to push him away from a sexual advance? Maybe you you just have a timing issue. He probably plays his games at the same time relative to food, work and sleep does he not? try giving him that timefor himself and taking it from another timeslot. like first thing in the morning is good for most guys.
Talk about it and make the time. Go on dates too
2007-06-23 23:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him babe, you are heading one way and it ain't forward, you still sound young. Believe me I was in one of those relationships for three years, and it went nowhere, if you guys are like this towards each other, get out or you gonna get hurt. Don't ever be scared of being alone, there is better guys out there. Your boyfriend has no respect for you!
If you leave him he'll open his eyes and come begging to take him back, as hard as it is going to be don't take him back! He'll say he'll change for you but it wont' last long (speaking from experience) they go back to being the way they were.......
My advise to you is GET OUT.
2007-06-24 20:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by zelda l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for me to see why you are still with him. What things which are nice can you say he does with / for you?
And not just because he treats you so badly but because you have completely different ideas of where you want your lives to go. (These things would have been good to establish BEFORE you moved in together.)
I think you know what to do - it's just hard to do it because it will be hard. You must leave him - believe me, it won't get better than it is right now with this guy.
(And just so you know, he treats you the way he does because you tolerate it.)
2007-06-24 19:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong question! You should be asking yourself how you want to be treated. And after you answer, find someone who treats you that way. You don't need to take this abuse.
The fact that he doesn't say "ours" is a clear message that you are ignoring. This person does not value you and does not expect you to be in his future. Move on.
2007-06-24 20:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend sounds like my ex.. even though my new boyfriend likes that stupid world of warcraft (dont ask me why guys like that so much) but anyways.. my ex of 3 years was like that.. he treated me like dog sh*t.. and always called me names.. and didnt love on me... and then he cheats on me.. which totally broke my heart.. cuz he was my first love and he took my virgintiy.. I got with him when I was 14.. and we also lived together.. until I was 17.. and he did that to me.. but now I have a great boyfriend.. that treats me really good.. and he gets off the warcraft game when I ask him 2.. but now my ex of 3 years wants me back.. and I still love him so much.. but I dont want to go through that again.. If you really love him.. tell him u want to work it out.. and if he dont change.. then dump him.. I know its hard to do.. trust me.. but there is someone better..
2007-06-22 03:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!
Sounds like this guy is not right for you. Don't let him belittle you. He sounds like a jerk, sorry. You deserve to be with someone kind and considerate. I think he led you to believe he was someone he's not, and now you're seeing the real him shining through. Good luck. Just don't compromise your values or beliefs for him.
2007-06-24 19:55:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may hurt to leave but it's the best thing for you. you can do soooo much better than that any girl can but if you don't feel thats the way you should be treated it's problly not so your mr. right is out there trust me and he's looking for you but i don't know why some girls are so dumb and stay with jerks have you ever heared that song brake apart her heart by good charolette? it's true
but ya know what i really don't know you or your bf soo... idk
good luck
2007-06-24 19:04:57 · answer #11 · answered by _ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋