**This isn't a joke, Im being for real. Please help!*
My friend and this girl went to this old small building. It has a small bottom floor, and one top floor. It is a very very old building. (It is an old train place or something, and we found news papers and documents from the 40's in there before.) So anyways, they went up there and had sex on the top floor... As I mentioned the building was very old. The floor fell through and both of them were killed.
My friends girlfriend was devistated when she found out he was dead... And it became even worse when she found out that he was having sex with another girl when it happened. *We are all ages 14 - 16.) They were together 2 years, 2 days after this accident happened they would of been together for 3 years. I dont know how she can live with him gone, and espically since she found out he was having sex with another girl when it happened. I cant even begin to imagine it.
So what are some things that I could do to help her? Thanks.
2007-06-16 20:20:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her your sorry for her loss. tell her ias he was gheating on her she should forget about him and move on, because she was too good to be with him.
2007-06-16 20:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First that is seriously tragic that it happened. Not just the death but the death and being cheated on... wow that's a double whammy. Ok I think that first you should come to grips with the death of your friend ( sorry about your friend that's rough man). Second I would console her but push her as well because one of the two will bother her more than the other. Continuely point out his faults and one time she will turn to you with tears in her eyes and yell at you one of two things 'but he's dead' or 'but he cheated on me' and then you will have found what about the events bothers her more and console her on that. Either his death or his cheating hurts more and then just be there for her and listen to her while she crys it out.
2007-06-16 20:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by not_moes_cousin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is utterly terrible. It saddens me just thinking two young people lost their lives before they began to live it. Your friend has a lot of healing to do, just be there for her, listen to her be a shoulder that she can cry on. Help her move on with life by encouraging and motivating her to continue to press forward. Believe it or not, she'll have to forgive a dead guy and that one is hard in itself. You'll have to give her time but once you are there to support her always, she'll be ok.
2007-06-16 20:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been threw alot... mind you nothing that bad... but I would say pay attention when she talks... Take notice in her moods if she changes (ie gets really sad) try to do something to cheer her up... I get upset all of the time and the greatest thing to me is when my fiance comes up behind me and puts his arms around me and his head on my sholder. It just lets me know that someone is there for me when I need them. Past that just listen to what shes saying... do nice things for her. You cant make that pain go away but you can help ease it... Good luck hun you sound like my guy im sure youll come up with something
2007-06-16 20:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jimmys princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a very sad story, and i'm very sorry for what happened to the guy. i know he cheated, but its not a reason to just forget that the guy just died. to the girl, tell her not to think about the cheating part of the story, but all the wonderful mamories they had when he was alive. because
i would be like double pain if she thought about him cheating on her. tell her to be strong, and remind her that not only people who cheat die in that kind of situation. and all my best condoleances to the familly.
2007-06-16 20:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by rali b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really the only thing you can do is be there for her. Comfort her and just listen to her. Be her shoulder to cry on
2007-06-16 20:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by miss_chelsea_stone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen when she talks.
I mean really listen. Shut up, don't say a word and listen.
2007-06-16 20:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by internetnooborlyyarly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for her, tell her that life isn't always nice, and when she's in one of the moods that she's pissed at her boyfriend, tell her that she deserved better
2007-06-16 20:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that the scumbag and the slut got what they deserve and that in reality this jerk did her a huge favor.
2007-06-16 20:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you made this whole story up.
2007-06-16 20:33:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jon 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋