Me and my boyfriend of 6 years just broke up and I'm finding it hard to get over him. He was my world and he hit me from left field with the breakup. We have gone through stuff like this before, and in a month or whenever we were back together, but this kinda seems final and shady from my point of view. I need some help from people that have went through this experience. Most of what I think about is him and I need him to stop running through my brain!
2007-06-16 19:51:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, this took me a good year and a half. When i was at work, i did a lot of mindless work, it gave me basically all day to think about whatever i wanted. So i sort of meditated, i picked my brain, thought about every single event before, during, and after the pursuit, what i did, why i did it, and how it affected things. Just analyzed everything, it took a lot of work, but i found out that it was for the best, and it really was. If you can achieve this nirvana, it will make EVERYTHING better, i promise.
2007-06-16 19:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Gosh 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That whole "forgetting him" stuff isn't going to happen. But now "moving on" is a totally different story. You just gotta remember, the good times were good, its not like they were bad memories, its just not good anymore, so find someone that you enjoy being around again. Trust me, all you have to do is meet a guy you really connect with, and the depression thing wont be as severe.
I too have had this problem once and I felt like my world was turned upside down, I lost a lot of weight from depression and got sick very often. I kept it bottled up and its really true what they say about bottling things up, it can damage you. Talk about it with a very close friend and just get things off you chest.
2007-06-17 02:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was the break up totally out of the blue? You mentioned that you've broken up before. Maybe that was his way of tying to get out of the relationship, but lacking the confidence or the resolve to leave totally. Think about what made it different this time. Could he already be seeing someone else, or is he just tired of all the drama?
Sometimes when people break up with someone out of the blue there is some difficult problem they're going through and they just can't bring the other person into it. It could be anything from cancer to an STD, from emotional problems to drug addiction to owing people money.
Give him the space to work out his problems, if that's the case, or leave the relationship. Stay busy and force yourself to meet other people. If it's meant to be, he'll come back to you.
2007-06-17 02:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by artsy_lovely_lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, a large part of this depends on how old you are. I've found that as we get older we deal with heartache better. It seems to me that talking through the problem with a close friend or relative can help. Once you do that, I've found that time is the only thing that will heal that wound. Talk over the issue, then just do what you can to get on with your life.
Go out with your friends, get out and enjoy life. It's too short to piss it away on a lost love. This also helps because if he sees you and you're not depressed and missing him, it will bother the hell out of him.
2007-06-17 02:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by matcoach2382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to get over someone when you have been with them for that long. I have been married for 13 years and I felt like I could never get her out of my head and the memories will remain after the divorce . It will help if you could find someone else a friend or someone to take your mind off of him. It worked for me a little. I still think about the ex from time to time but that is a normal thing for someone who were intimate and spent that much time together. give yourself time to heal and remember to enjoy life.
2007-06-17 03:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that you are worth more than just sitting around moping for someone who didn't find you worth keeping. You have something better planned for you and in order to receive something good, you have to get rid of something bad. You can not receive that good thing until you let the bad thing go. Otherwise, you will take that feeling out on someone who is willing to be with you and treat you the way you want to be treated and you will miss the opportunity on the real prize.
2007-06-17 02:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by mojo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't. you'd never know how good your memory is until you try to forget something. Even time cannot erase what is left indelibly in your brain. What time can only do is diminish the pain and that's still a long way off..... live with it, deal with it, and go on with your life....
2007-06-17 02:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by rovendinoalui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either go back with him or let time help you forget. I still can't get over someone that I haven't seen for about 5 years. Might even take another 5. So yeah...it's quite difficult.
2007-06-17 02:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by triille 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. Just keep telling yourself you are worth far more than this and better awaits you. Don't ever lose hope and never give up belief in yourself to overcome difficulties like this in life.
2007-06-17 02:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question....I need help in this as well.....I gess time heals everything, but it's just hard to get someone you care for out of your mind....I wish my slef that it was easy
2007-06-17 02:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by fighterworldwarplanes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋