i like an older man?

Question

at my job there is this guy who is 20 and i think i like him. i am 17 and i know it sounds weird but i mean when i am older a 3 year age difference wont even matter. right? i really got a strong connection from him and i don't know what to do. and i am not like most 17 year olds i act like a 40 year old. i need advice on what to do. as soon as i saw him i felt like i was attracted to him in a strong way. help me please

oh and i don't work with him. he always comes in to my work because its my coworkers brother... just thought i would let you know that i am not working with him

Answer 1

firs you have to decide yourself what you want if u want to be a Friend ask him if u wanna affair with him date him and enjoy your dates if u wanna sex go for it if u wanna marry him try to understand him

Answer 2

I don't think that age difference is bad at all. Granted I don't know how you were raised or how your parents would feel. My husband and I are 2 and a half years apart. I completely understand what you mean about acting older than what you are. I'm the same way. I think it just depends if you are mature enough to handle a real relationship or not.

Answer 3

In a lot of states it is illegal for a 20 year old guy to have sex with a 17 year old girl. You may want to take that into consideration.
Also, dating at work is almost never a good idea.

Answer 4

i get what ur saying.
just talk to him
a 3 year difference isnt that big, but right now it might
ur still under 18 so its not legal yet, and he might be in a totally different place in life (college, work, etc) where as u are prob still in high school.
i would say just hang out at work or outside of work, see if u have a lot in common, and get his number.
if he likes you and u like him, then go for it!! dont worry so much about the age difference than if you are compatible.
good luck

Answer 5

Slow down. You're moving at the speed of lightning. Take things slow because there will be many guys in life that you may feel that you may like a lot. Just be responsible, cautious, and remember that some guys will definitely take sheer advantage of you if they fell that they can. Always remember to put your proirtites in proper order, such as school / college should be a number one priority among anything else.

Answer 6

I struggled with this very thing and just resolved it. I am 19 and my guy is 25. Age is just a number and that's it. If you think you guys would be good together, AND he is on your same page I say go for it. Of course he is a guy and a lot of college aged guys want just one thing...I know, you've heard that before, but its true a lot. However, that is not a reason to not give anyone a chance. If you think he is worth it (and you will know) then just see how things turn out.

Answer 7

Now and in 5 years from now it won't make a big difference but, when he turns 21 and you're still underage he might want a girl that can go to nightclubs and bars with him. If he doesn't drink, then it'll be cool. Don't deny your heart something that will make you have regrets later in life because you didn't try and see if it would work

Answer 8

so what!! age isnt anything but a number--he isnt older,,maturity has no age,,you need to get rid of the age crap in your head (and half the population ) why is america so damn hung up on age? it drives me nuts!! if you like him --tell him,,if it works out then great!,,,it is the person you are that will determine how it goes (and him)---dont even know why you need someone elses opinion---you either want to go for it or you dont---

Answer 9

But you are 17. Its never a good idea to get involved with anyone you work with.

Answer 10

Try to become his friend, and hang out together whenever you can. Maybe he feels a strong connection to you too; once you guys start hanging out, he won't be afraid to ask you out once he's got to know you.

Answer 11

LOL! Go for it why don't you. honestly, three years is NOTHING compared to some people i've met. even i dated a 26 yr/old when i was 19 and it worked... =)