My freshman year i told myself that i would not have sex untill i was out of high school because i dont feel like right now in high school having sex is best so i want to wait till i am at least in college and more mature. My b/f since freshman year is saying he is going to end our relationship if we dont have sex. What should i do?
2007-06-16 17:44:47 · 23 answers · asked by southern belle <3 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that you all are saying dump him but its hard b/c we have been dating for 4 years and i really do love him im just not ready.
2007-06-16 17:51:08 · update #1
Tell him to kiss your damn butt. You go girl I am so happy to finally hear a young lady who knows what she wants and isn't willing to compromise that. You know you the best and you will know when the perfect time will be. Not only will future boyfriends of quality respect you...YOU will respect you. I am so proud of you. Let him go if he is trying to manipulate you.
2007-06-16 17:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by angelfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is tough to hear that your boyfriend is putting a condition on your relationship. A person should never say either have sex with me or the relationship is over. To me you should always listen to your morals and what you believe in. Never let anyone influence you or tell you what you should do or not do. Remember that if someone truly loves you he will wait for you and respects your decision to wait for the appropriate time. Never let anyone misguide you or put a condition on your relationship. That is truly not love at all. Listen to your heart. I rather find another person who accepts me for who I am. You never know if your boyfriend gets his sex and decides to leave you afterwards following this condition.
2007-06-17 00:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by ddominic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay true to what you believe. Don't change you're oppinion just because he wants to have sex with you. You have to stand up for yourself, and if he's not willing to respect your decision and wait, then he's not someone you should be with. Even if you really want to be with him. It just wont end well. Either you'll go back on you're decsision and regret it for the rest of youre life, or you'll lose him. It's a tough decision for u because you like him, but i really think that if hes not gonna wait, then you dont need him.
2007-06-17 00:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by yuppers. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let him make you change what you wanted. You are very smart to know that waiting to have sex is the best thing to do. If he would break up with you over sex then he does not love you or respect you or your morals. So let him go but you stick to what you wanted . If he will break up with you over sex then he is nothing but a loser so let him go.
2007-06-17 00:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by tami j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. End your relationship. You are being coerced into sex. Don't fall for this ploy. Tell him you are going to end the relationship unless he stops pressuring you.
Guys will use a variety of tactics - pressure, persuasion, lies, coercion, pouting, etc. to get sex. "If you really loved me, you'd prove it. . . " "I want to share this with you..." "If you don't, I'll leave you..."
Sex should be absolutely consensual - - you shouldn't be talked into it. If you aren't ready, and he insists - how much does he respect you and your desires? Answer: He doesn't - - and he's proving it by showing that his carnal needs mean more than your feelings. If that's true - he's not for you.
2007-06-17 00:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by MeinOH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should dump him before he dumps you. He only wants you for sex, and he's threatning to leave you if you dont have sex. I recommend you look for someone else as soon as possible! He's not worth it, I'm sure you deserve better! =]
2007-06-17 00:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by ♠lAUGhTERZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give into him! the biggest mistake of my life is giving it to my boyfriend cuz he didnt like it and he dumped me anyways
just go if you loved me you would wait...or do you want a kid? cuz that could always happen!!! even if you use protection!
2007-06-17 00:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Coles_Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like everyone else is saying dump him
he only wants sex and if he's so desperate to say if you don't give it up we're over with then forget him. there are plenty more fishes out there!!!
2007-06-17 00:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by krisonezero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to have sex with him, then don't. I don't think he is a good boyfriend if he is forcing you to have sex and threatening to break up with you if you don't. Just say no and break up with him first.
2007-06-17 00:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by xstaciixlovex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him. Obviously he only wants one thing...sex. So even after you did give it to him, how long do you think he 'd stick around. Not very. He isnt worth you.
2007-06-17 00:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Christina G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋