when is the best time to talk to my son about sex ???

Question

he is 6 years old and what exactly could i say to him??? and what age???

Answer 1

I'm not a parent...but I think when he's about...11-12, when he's about to hit puberty...that is a good time.

Answer 2

6 is a good age to start discussing the differences between girls and boys I.e. girls have a vagina boys have a penis.. When girls get older they get breasts... All visual physical differences.. Always use the correct terms for body parts while cute terms may make it seem less threatening to you, your child needs the correct information from you...

Once your child knows an accepts that there are physical differences it will lead to more questions on it's own..

All 3 of my children knew all the basics about sex by age 9-10 ish.. I can remembe the pivotal conversation with my son when he was 9.. He already knew about the body differences and we had discussed the sperm and egg etc. One night about 3 am I woke up to him shaking me gently and saying "Mom, I understand the sperm and I understand the egg... How exactly do they get together?" I got up and he and I went in to the kitchen and discussed intercourse over milk and cookies at 3 am...

In his words "No way, are you serious, people do THAT!!!."

I nodded my head and watched the next question form in his head..

"You and Dad did that 3 times?"

Again I nodded.. (At least 3 LOL)

To which he said "Gross, I am never gonna ever do that as long as I live."

All I could do was smile and say "Son, you may change your mind when you are older. If you do please come talk to me before you do anything so we can talk about disease and birth control"

My son is now 17 and has indeed changed his mind and it doesn't seem so gross anymore.. He has come to me and we have discussed disease and birth control as well as waiting being sure and not having one night stands..

Because I was always hoest and straight forward about sex all of my kids feel comfortable discussing the subject with me because they know I will not judge them but will answer all the questions they have..

The sex talk need not be one big official talk it can be spread over years... I think it's best to spread it out so the child can guide the conversation so they get only the info they want and in doses they can digest more easily..

Answer 3

My son is 11 and has asked questions periodically for the last year. Best to tell him as soon as he asks or even before if appropriate timing appears. It is better that he hears what is truth from you than information that may not be correct from fiends or older children. Make sure you make him feel comfortable talking about anything with you and don't over react when he asks questions of this nature. If you act like it is just natural facts of life, which it is, then he will be more likely to look at it the same way. Children like to investigate what they feel is forbidden. Not saying to say yes, go have sex, but if they know the affects of having sex and why one has sex, the interest of finding out by themselves lessens as they already know exactly what they are curious about.

Answer 4

at 10 years

Answer 5

It would be a little at a time as he grows and asks questions.
1. Start early.
2. Initiate conversations with your child.
3. ...Even about sex and sexuality.
4. Create an open environment.
5. Communicate your own values.
6. Listen to your child.
7. Try to be honest.
8. Be patient.
9. Use everyday opportunities to Talk.
10. Talk about it again. And, again.

Answer 6

IMHO, you should begin in subtle ways discussing sex candidly. Wait before anyone jumps all over me what I mean is that you should begin by calling his body parts by their real names not crap like poh poh and wee wee and you should just be candid about questions should they arise and perhaps share things about the birthing process or something like that - Maybe I am overly liberal but I just take it in stride and try not to get overly freaked about it and just answer questions honestly but not with too much information and for example showed my boys some pictures of me while pregnant and said things like here you were when you were a baby. I think the K.I.S.S. or (keep it simple sweetheart) is the best advice I could give and also try to be candid there is nothing shameful about the truth. Just incorporate little bits of it when the opportunity presents itself in daily living.

Another good segway into conversations about sex might take place at the zoo or aquarium or farm. There are numerous examples of the reproductive cycle that can be discussed less personally there but get the point across to your child that you are open to communicating with him about anything he is curious to know. For example, my boys and I discussed during an aquarium trip that male seahorses carry their young. Stuff like that and then how that is in contrast to what human beings do during the birthing process.

I hope this provides you with some insight. I personally think six is young for too much detail. Again, KISS and just be open in your attitude, you will do fine if you relax and just take it as it comes. Good luck and pat yourself on the back for being one step ahead of the masses by expressing your concern here.

Answer 7

I have always heard that you should start talking to them when they are around 8. I have learned that if you are open ( to their maturity level) and always talk to them about anything and everything, they are more apt to ask you when they have a question. My kids are 12 ( boy) and 10 (Girl) and they have always confided in me because I always answer them honestly and I hope that it stay that way even as they go into their teens. Here is some professional help....


Children have different levels of curiosity and understanding depending upon their age and level of maturity. As children grow older, they will often ask for more details about sex. Many children have their own words for body parts. It is important to find out words they know and are comfortable with to make talking with them easier. A 5-year-old may be happy with the simple answer that babies come from a seed that grows in a special place inside the mother. Dad helps when his seed combines with mom's seed which causes the baby to start to grow. An 8-year-old may want to know how dad's seed gets to mom's seed. Parents may want to talk about dad's seed (or sperm) coming from his penis and combining with mom's seed (or egg) in her uterus. Then the baby grows in the safety of mom's uterus for nine months until it is strong enough to be born. An 11-year-old may want to know even more and parents can help by talking about how a man and woman fall in love and then may decide to have sex.

Answer 8

when he starts to talk about things himself.

don't push things too fast, kids learn a lot these day just by listening.
make sure he is listening to constructive chat about sex so that it does not become confusing and cumbersome to talk about at any time.

health classes provide constructive and very informative curriculum for them at their level of maturity and age group.

No need to complicate it, they don't think it is such a big deal, just enforce if they are ready to experiment, to always use protection to prevent pregnancy and spread of diseases.

It is a commitment to another and it is not to be taken lightly as most young free will kids do these days. Make it understood that for the actions, there are consequenses for the actions. Pose the question "Are you ready to be a dad?"

Answer 9

At six he only needs to know that babies should come from the love of a mom and a dad. As he asks deeper questions give deeper answers.

He probably will not be ready for the facts of life until 10-12.Even then feel your way along as to what he seems ready for.

Answer 10

When he asks.
My son was 6 when I got pregnant, so he had a lot of questions. I told him daddy had half of the seed and mommy had half and they had to put it together to make a whole baby.
That was good enough for a while.
At age 10 or 11, I had to tell him more--like when he seen two guys kissing. So, I left all of the cats out of the bag before his friends had a chance to give their views. Honesty is really the best policy.
I explained different kinds of love: homo/heterosexual. What sex was in each relationship. How it was performed. Protection methods. STD's, HIV, pregnancy.
Funny thing, I remember taking the insert out of my tampon box to give him of visual of the female anatomy.

Answer 11

Wait to see if he starts asking you questions first since he's only six. If he doesn't then I was taught at 9 and 10. So anywhere from 10 - 12 might be best.