I've never had a good relationship with my father. We don't say I love you or anything. He has desensatived me. Maded me not show anyone love. Just respect. For just to respect him. He made me thing love is something unmanly. But how do you think my relationship with my earthly father, will effect my relationship with my heavenly father>
2007-06-16 15:59:32 · 12 answers · asked by 2nd Commander 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Do your best to honor your father on earth, that is what the commandment asks of you. It doesn't really affect God's love for you. Rather it is something that you need. To be in a right relationship with the important people in your life is for your mental health and spiritual growth.
The Ten Commandments are ways that God showed us that human beings work the best and stay the healthiest physically and emotionally. Forgiveness is very very important for mental health.
2007-06-16 16:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because Christianity started doesn't mean The Ten Commandments were pitched. Jesus only added one but it isn't numbered. Do unto others; treat people as you would have them treat you. It is NOT do unto others and run.
If you show the respect your father asks for, you are honoring him by doing what he asks. While he doesn't show love and I know it does hurt you, he is showing his love in a manner that might be the only way he knows how to love. In other words, he does love you. And, I think in time he will show you respect right back.
I realize you are desenitized but that is only because his father was the same to him; your father is also desensitized. He taught you the only way he knows. Because you know what love is, show it to other members of your family. Or friends. Stop the cycle so you can live life to the fullest.
I'm not going to sit here and say I know what God is thinking but I think its a pretty safe bet you'll be ok with Him.. No guarantees!
2007-06-16 16:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by dk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your earthly father is not the spiritual leader that God has called Him to be. I know how that is and it hurts. But God wants to be everything to you and I know from experience that it can make you feel the love and comfort from God so much deeper. If you can lay down your life completely and put your love in God's control, He will never break your heart. He will show you how to love His way.
I know this is hard, but if you'll seek His face now, you will have a closer relationship than you've ever known before. You'll feel His arms around you. Just cry out to Him.
2007-06-16 16:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by auburn_eyes2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the other way around. The more you come to know God, the closer you are in prayer and study of His word, the more God can transform your relationship with your earthly father. I did not have a good relationship with my Dad either. He died a few years ago, but God worked a miracle in his heart, before he died he said yes to Jesus Christ. Then, God worked another miracle. He reached back and transformed the past, so that I saw everything that had gone on between me and my Dad in a different light. I saw my entire life was about staying the course in order to be a witness to my Dad about Jesus Christ, no matter what came my way.
You have no idea the power of God. There is nothing impossible for Him if you trust Him. He can transform anything.
2007-06-16 16:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by Esther 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to break the cycle or it will pass on to future generations. When you serve the Lord, you are no longer doing your will but his will. This means you have to love instead of hate. Love your father, love your neighbor this means Asian people, black people, or whoever. The highest form of reality is when you realize that life is a special gift given to you because God loves you. Every thing you need is here for you and more. God knows whats inside your heart, he knows if you are good or not and you can not fool him. You will not be saved unless you purify yourself of unclean thoughts and behavior and try with all your soul to improve yourself. The bible and meditation are good ways to start. Say what you will about the bible, it's teaching will bring you closer to God. No more backbiting, no more hatred, no more hypocrisy, no more sin. Be positive. Action is the most important thing of all, God will notice when you make an effort to reach and understnd him to improve your life, but you will never understand God as a racist. I am Asian and I told you I don't hate you.
2007-06-16 16:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have your head on straight. God loves you and gave His Son to die for you and what you do with Christ is what is first with Him. God wants the best for you and working with Him you can overcome many obstacles in your life. Nothing is too difficult for God. He will help you work through the situation with your father. I would think your father must have gone through something similar to what you are experiencing. It might take you to take the first steps to change the situation, if you are a follower of Christ He wants you to reach out. What ever happens between you and your father don't let it effect your relationship with God, He is not sitting in judgment on you. Cheers mate!
2007-06-16 16:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by Steiner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you think God is like your father? If you can get a grip on the fact that your father is just a human like us all with failings and problems, in need of a God and Savior, then you can probably do ok.......Get to know all the attributes of God and that may help you some too...
2007-06-16 16:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should not affect you except make you realize how sorry you should feel for your earthly father. If he can not show love, then he has never felt love. How sad.
Ask God to soften his heart...and don't be afraid to tell your father that you love him. I can assure you, even if he does not respond, he will smile a little inside.
2007-06-16 16:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most psychologists say that the way we view our father is the way we view God and that the relationship will mirror.
2007-06-16 16:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by blizgamer333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should repair things with your father. the "forgiveness thing". it's best to get rid of all shackles as early as possible.
it affects you because it's harder to love others when you don't love your own family. you don't need to get love to give it, but you need to give it.
2007-06-16 16:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Hey, Ray 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋