My family doesn't support me in my marriage and his mom doesn't support him in marrying me. We've been together for almost 7 years and now they want to say something? Is there something that we don't know that they wont say. Either way we're getting married but why do you think they would have a problem now that we decide to be wed? We been through so much with them why ruin our specail day with their hateration?
2007-06-16 15:47:18 · 27 answers · asked by Mr and Mrs. Baten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
we started dating when we were obviosly 12/13 and my mom didn't meet him until a year or so before i had my first child. my mom had been the cause of all our disputes baecause she didn't want me with him, before she even got to know him. I met his mom a week after our baby was born becaz she probably wanted to see if the baby looked like him. i don't really know but to go to my mom about the relationship is off limits becuz she don't want to hear about him. i talked to my dad and he say becuz she can't be the only one anymore. as far as him he's sweet, he had my back trhough even the most tough to be at the age we are and he's a provider he does take up a lot of me and mom time so that could be it, but whatabout his mom thinking I'm probably some tramp. He barely know his mother what the hell?
2007-06-16 18:14:13 · update #1
First of all you started a serious relationship way too young. But now that you have been together for seven years and have a child together, I think your families should accept the fact that you both love one another and want to get married. I think you should get married. They are being headstrong and it is probably that they wanted better for you and they think that you are settling due to the fact that he is the father of your child.
Now this is hindsight, but you should have not gotten so serious so young. That was a mistake and you missed all the fun of your teen years, no dating, no dances, just with a guy you thought you loved. At 13 girls do not know what real love is.
But now, your parents should forgive and forget and accept the fact that you are getting married and support you and your husband to be. I wish you well.
2007-06-17 08:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They've had 7 years to watch you two together and have possibly formed the opinion that it's not a good match. Or perhaps they simply don't fancy each other for inlaws. Nobody can possibly answer this properly without knowing any details.
But generally-speaking, ask yourself the following questions:
Do the two families not get along?
Do you two argue regularly, and if you do argue, does everyone know about these disagreements?
Has either of you ever physically harmed the other?
Does one of you do drugs or any other illicit behaviour or have a criminal record?
Do either of you do anything considered unusual behaviour by the majority of 'ordinary' people in the world, eg: extreme tattoos, piercings, cults or religions that could seem wierd to boring people, etc.?
Use excessive profanities in your daily speech?
Huge age difference between you, or from entirely different demographic/social standing?
Is one of your unemployed with no future?
Does either of you have other children or were previously married?
Did either family ever have high hopes you'd be married to someone else they had in mind?, (eg: childhood sweetheart, mother's best friend's son, etc)
If you answered yes to any of the above, then you have your answer.
2007-06-16 16:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by A65 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a riddle where nobody can help you. You are asking and worrying about the impossible. Whether her marrriage ended lawfully? If not, you cannot do anything. As per Marriage Laws, she has to apply for divorce, she has to wait for the court orders and it may take several years or atleast six months if the divorce is by mutual consent. As the girl is also not showing any interest in you, better marry another girl of your choice with the consent of your Parents. When she is not interested, you cannot force her.
2016-05-17 14:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows.....I would need more information before speculating on why they dont support your decision to get married. It is a pretty sad situation and very mean of them.
YOu could sit them down and have a calm, adult chat about what their reasons are...but you might not like their reasoning. It sounds like your mind is made up and you are marrying your man regardless of what they say so just stick your nose in the air and carry on with trying to make your wedding day the happiest day of your life. They can either come around and be a part of it or miss out.
Ultimately it is your choice and they had 7 years to tell you if they didnt approve. Why they suddenly come out with it now I dont know. It seems so silly.
It is your day and your life. They just have to learn to respect your decision and choices.
Good luck with it.
2007-06-16 16:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off congrats on the wedding, how exciting!
And secondly, it is a little odd if they never said anything in the past 7 years but hey family is family. They only want the best for you and want to save you if they see danger ahead. Maybe they never said anything before because they didn't think it would go that far. I think you shouldn't stress...you're special day is coming and they're going to be there whether they like it or not. And this is just an opportunity for you 2 to prove to them that this is ehat both of you really want and hopefully they'll all respect that.
good luck!
2007-06-16 16:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well sorry to break it to you, But you say your 20 and a mother of 2 kids and religious. What is a christian Girl like you having 2 kids before your 20 and not being married. Maybe both of your parents fear for your future and your childrens future.
Darling your 20 and So am I. I am getting married next year. Do you have your crap together. Do you have an Eduaction and Good paying Job? I don't mean to sound like a jerk, but Seriously, You don' t need to marry the guy just because he is your Baby's daddy.
2007-06-16 16:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bride2Be 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I mean... you absolutely have no clue why they are against you getting married? Are you too young? Do they think you should date around some more? Do they think you are settling for the first guy that came around? Has either of you been unfaithful? Are different races, religions, or cultures a factor? Do your parents feel that he is not good enough for you or his parents feel you aren't good enough for him? It could be any number of things... you know your family. If they can't give you a good reason than forget them and go through with it. You are an adult and feel you are making the right choice
2007-06-16 16:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Cambrianna S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
okay, so you have been together seven years and you met when you were 12/13. i think the reason they are all upset that you are getting married is because you are both very very young. why be in a rush. if he is the one that is meant to be with you he will be there in a couple of years
2007-06-17 07:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it an age issue? You say that you and been dating your boyfriend for 7 years, but did you start dating when you were 10?
2007-06-16 16:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by diva_m3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are happy with the person i wouldnt even worry a bit about anyone else that tries to say something against a wedding. GOD BLESS
2007-06-16 16:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by Lilfrenchgurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋