2007-06-16 15:28:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
One thing to keep in mind is that, this is completely age appropriate behaviour. An 18 month old does NOT have the verbal skills to express emotions or tell what they want. They see that you do not understand them and it eliviates the issue as well. They turn to anything they can to get the point across or try to get you to understand. They get frustrated and this is all they know how to do. You must be consistant with whatever you choose to do in guiding her. Remove her from the situation "consistantly"...EVERYTIME she hits, she sits for a minute (should be 1 minute for every age of the child)... she will grow out of it if you deal with it appropriately and she will learn to trust you ONLY if you are consistant, otherwise you could have a real handful to deal with as she grows up!! Make the punishment fit the crime...you bite, you get a cold cloth to help the person feel better. Talk to her and give her the words to express how she is feeling and how the recipient feels after being hit, bit etc. If child needs to bite, give a teething ring, needs to hit, give a pillow...etc. We all need that time to vent with different behaviours, let her know "it's okay" to feel this way but there are other ways of dealing with it :) Good luck, it's a tough stage to deal with!
2007-06-16 15:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, please, please DO NOT ever bite her back as has been suggested. It is wise to get down to her level and calmly in a low toned voice very firmly say NO, THAT IS NOT OK! Then remove her from the situation. If you can put her in a playpen for a minute or two that would be great, of course, no toys. When you get her out, hug and kiss her and remind her not to bite. If she persists throughout the day I would consider giving her toys in the playpen and making her stay in it unless you can directly supervise her at arms length with the other children. When she cries to get out of the playpen gently tell her no, you bit __________ and name who all she has bitten.
I remember when my brother threw a temper tantrum...mom tossed about 1/2 c. ice water on him. That was the only temper tantrum any of us kids ever had!
I would question the cause for these behaviors. Is someone bullying her? Is there a younger baby on the scene? Is she in day care? Are you providing day care? Don't get me wrong - I am not accusing - just trying to help you look for recent changes that may have contributed to new behaviors.
Children usually have a reason for these aggresive behaviors, I do not believe that it is just a phase. One way or another, I believe that you can and will find a way to work with your daughter to solve these behavior problems and both of you will be happier for it.
You are obviously a good mother or you would not be seeking help to deal with the issue. Good luck, and God bless you both.
2007-06-19 16:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by marshfield_meme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you got a playpen or something she can not get out of. If so next time (excluding screaming tantrums) she bites hits or scratches then you look her in the eye then loudly say NO> NAUGHTY then put her in the playpen for 2 minutes then get her out (she is too young to understand time out starting when she is quiet, wait a few more months for that) does it again then straight back to time out. If it is a screaming tantrum just ignore her like she is not there. Treat her like she is invisible until she stops then look at her and say hi, would you like to ....and give an activity like nothing has happened
2007-06-16 23:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When she starts, stop what you are doing, grab her face firmly but gently, and say "Janie, no biting! That hurts Mommy/Daddy/etc"
Then put her in a safe area by herself, with no toys [ she's a little young for time out - maybe when she's three ].
Leave her there, until she calms down. You must ignore her if she cries, until she settles down. You can let her go back to playing when she settles.
Keep repeating this as often as you have to, and make sure all the other adults in her life do, too.
This will take a while, but needs to be done - you are smarter than a toddler, and she won't be able to socialize until she behaves.
2007-06-16 15:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is doing it cuz she is getting your attention. get down to her level and with a firm voice tell her to stop it, and to not hit and bite, that is not nice, when you are ready to calm down and be nice, let me know. then i would leave the room, of course stay somewhere where you can see her but she cant see you. this is what worked for me and my daughter. hope this helps.
2007-06-16 17:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Boostitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out for 2 minutes and explain to her what she is doing wrong, be consistent.
2007-06-16 15:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by fiona t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be firm...let her know that that is not polite and is a no no
and put her in a naughty place..we used a little tiny bench, and tell her she needs to stay...for like only 2 minutes, I kept a timer near by and set it, it did not take long for them to figure out once it rang they could get up
being consistant...every time.....helps
2007-06-16 15:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by trudi100 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She needs a spanking. NOT A BEATING but a swat on the bottom. Good luck
Toni Lynne
2007-06-16 15:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by tonilynne 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she does it to you, or her mother, do it right back.
Like, if she bites you, bite back just as hard, same with scratching.
She'll soon learn it hurts.
If she continues after that, bite back harder, or swat her bottom.
2007-06-17 06:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋