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Question

Asalaam Alakium sisters,
i have a question for you that i really need some advice on. Here is the situation- i have been muslim for 8 years now and i am very weak in my knowledge of islam and my iman is very low i have a husband that is always saying we need to work on this that or the other but isnt when i tell him i need more knowledge i am told to seek it out which is fine but i live where there alot of muslim that treat american muslim like dirt and the woman arent allowed in the mosques around here for ego reasons what am i do if he is not helping me and i am lacking the understanding my heart is broken and my feelings are hurt but he is making it worse what do i do?

thank you and may Allah bless you

Answer 1

Waalaikum Asalaam,
It is great to see your effort in being faithfuL, living in America, in this generation. I can't really help you here, but always remember, it is also said in Hadith that, if you have the intention of going to the mosque merely to please Allah, and trouble comes in your way, and you can't go, still you will get the same sawab as you would get if you were able to go, because you had the intention to please Allah and to go. Same here with your will of knowing about Islam. If you try your best to know, then even if you don't know much, it won't harm you, but bring you sawab because you tried your best to know. Sorry if I didn't really answer your question, but this is something you should always keep in mind, and always do everything you do, only to please Allah.

Answer 2

Walaikum As-salam sis!

I'm sorry to have spoken here, since you asked for response from Muslim Women Only. Hope you will accept this incursion.

I just wanted to support the views expressed here by the other three above respondents 'ayisha b', 'sunshine' and 'aminah'.

You are quite right that even in Bangladesh which is termed as a moderate Muslim populated country with over 150 million people, 88% are Muslim, we have hardly a few mosques where women can go and perform prayers, in a separate enclosure; that has been allowed in our religion. It is also true as 'ayisha b' above informed here that for women it is better to pray at home.

About seeking knowledge of Islam, I think in these days of Internet and websites, you can find them in so many places that we envy the present generation since we couldn't get such vast source of information during our days of growing up and had a lot of questions in mind about our religion.

Btw, I have been to Iran during Shah (King)'s time and also saw initial 4 months of Ayatollah Khomeini’s regime. There women can easily go to mosque and pray, unlike Pakistan, Bangladesh and middle eastern countries with Muslim majority population.

Hope you could find your answers to questions on-line, if the clerics in area are not forthcoming, and quench the thirst of Islamic knowledge in absence of which your heart was aching for such a long time.

Khuda Hafez!

Answer 3

Your husband can not keep you from entering a mosque. You have as much right to worship in a mosque as a Muslim man does. However it is better for women if they worship in their home. See if there is a group of sisters in your community or mosque who teach you more about Islam and your duties and rights in Islam. If your husband prevents this then you need to go to the mosque and tell the Imam what is going on between you and your husband and get professional advice. Walaykumsalaam.

Answer 4

Sis, I can help you... I've been through the same situation, I'll send you some websites, and Insha' Allah that'll help you.

As for the women who treat others badly, I'd like to remind YOU that God does not see any difference in people, so your responsibility is to treat people equally.

Remeber that some times people can be a burden on the religion, so follow the teachings, not the followers.

Peace.

Answer 5

Wa alaikum salaam, Sister!

It sounds as though some people are not acting very Islamically where you are at. I'm sorry to hear it.

I am currently registered for online classes (free of charge) at www.studying-islam.org .

May Allah bless you on your journey for knowledge!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

well i am also newly converted, my husband help me a lot. Regarding your knowledge, if you want to we can chat anytime.let me know if you are interested.

Answer 8

alekm alslam dear sir,
god bless u and wellcome 2 islam.
im sorry 4 u i will pray things get better soon enshallah.
Signs of weak Iman and how to increase it





A very nice article contributed by brother AbuBanan.


Signs of weak Faith:

Committing sins and not feeling any guilt.

Having a hard heart and no desire to read the Quran.

Feeling too lazy to do good deeds, e.g. being late for salat

Neglecting the Sunnah.

Having mood swings, for instance being upset about petty things and bothered and irritated most of the time.

Not feeling anything when hearing verses from the Quran, for example when Allah warns us of punishments and His promise of glad tidings.

Finding difficulty in remembering Allah and making dhikr.

Not feeling bad when things are done against the Shariah.

Desiring status and wealth.

Being mean and miserly, i.e. not wanting to part with wealth.

Ordering others to do good deeds when not practising them ourselves.

Feeling pleased when things are not progressing for others.

Being concerned with whether something is haram or halal only; and not avoiding makroo (not recommended) things.

Making fun of people who do simple good deeds, like cleaning the mosque.

Not feeling concerned about the situation of Muslims.

Not feeling the responsibility to do something to promote Islam.

Liking to argue just for the sake of arguing without any proof.

Becoming engrossed and very involved with dunya, worldly things, i.e. feeling bad only when losing something in terms of material wealth.

Becoming engrossed and obsessive about ourselves.

Okay, how to increase our faith then ?

Recite and ponder on the meanings of the Quran. Tranquility then descends and our hearts become soft. To get optimum benefit, remind yourself that Allah is speaking to you. People are described in different categories in the Quran; think of which one you find yourself in.
Realize the greatness of Allah. Everything is under His control. There are signs in everything we see that points us to His greatness. Everything happens according to His permission. Allah keeps track and looks after everything, even a black ant on a black rock on a black moonless night.
Make an effort to gain knowledge, for at least the basic things in daily life e.g. how to make wudu properly. Know the meanings behind Allah's names and attributes. People who have taqwa are those who have knowledge.
Attend gatherings where Allah is remembered. In such gatherings we are surrounded by angels.
We have to increase our good deeds. One good deed leads to another good deed. Allah will make the way easy for someone who gives charity and also make it easy for him or her to do good deeds. Good deeds must be done continuously, not in spurts.
We must fear the miserable end to our lives; the remembrance of death is the destroyer of pleasures.
Remember the different levels of akhirah, for instance when we are put in our graves, when we are judged, whether we will be in paradise or hell.
Make dua, realize that we need Allah. Be humble. Don't covet material things in this life.
Our love for Subhana Wa Ta'Ala must be shown in actions. We must hope Allah will accept our prayers, and be in constant fear that we do wrong. At night before going to sleep, we must think about what good we did during that day.
Realize the effects of sins and disobedience- one's faith is increased with good deeds and our faith is decreased by bad deeds. Everything that happens is because Allah wanted it. When calamity befalls us- it is also from Allah. It is a direct result of our disobedience to Allah.
Contributed by: Abu Banan

Answer 9

Walaykum Salaam, sister there is a book that you must get, it is called Supporting the Rights of the Believing Woman here is the site, it cost 15.00 let me know if you are unable to purchase it I may can get you a copy free of charge.

http://www.tarbiyyahbookstore.com/store/product.php?productid=309&cat=0

Supporting the Rights of the Believing Women #309
Pages: 208 including glossary

Retail Cost: $15.00 US

From the introduction of Imaam Muqbil:

Verily in the author are gathered some praiseworthy traits: these include abstaining from worldly pleasures, exemplary character, spreading beneficial knowledge, and not wasting her time. She spends her time by herself in the women’s library, substitute teaching for Umm ‘Abdillaah Al-Waadi’iyyah when she is absent, and effective lecturing.

Verily, the Islaamic community is in great need of righteous women who can care for their Muslim sisters so that the corrupted and corrupting callers do not lead them astray. The wives of the Prophet (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ سَلَّمَ) as well as the female companions played a major role in spreading the prophetic traditions.

In conclusion, I advise the author and her sisters to make a great effort in spreading beneficial knowledge from the Noble Qur’aan, the prophetic traditions, and the ‘Arabic Language, to become knowledgeable in Allaah’s religion, to place an importance on spreading that knowledge by writing and inviting to Allaah and teaching the ignorant women. If Allaah guides one woman by your hand, it is better for you then a red camel.

May Allaah firmly establish us all on what he loves and pleases Him.

My husband gave me this book 1 month after we were married.

Also spubs.com has a lot of useful information. I got this from the site it is a hadeeth from Sahih Muslim.

The Hadeeth of the Eleven Women
Source: Saheeh Muslim
Article ID : MRG030001 [9661]

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Muslim narrated the following hadith:

Isnad: Suleiman bin 'abd alRahman and 'Ali bin Hujr » 'Ibsai bin Bunus » Hisham bin 'Urwa » 'Abd Allah bin 'Urwah » 'Urwah

Narrated 'Aisha:

Eleven women sat (at a place) and promised and contracted that they would not conceal anything of the news of their husbands.

The first one said, "My husband is like the meat of a lean weak camel which is kept on the top of a mountain which is neither easy to climb, nor is the meat fat, so that one might put up with the trouble of fetching it."

The second one said, "I shall not relate my husband's news, for I fear that I may not be able to finish his story, for if I describe him, I will mention all his defects and bad traits."

The third one said, "My husband is a tall man; if I describe him (and he hears of that) he will divorce me, and if I keep quiet, he will neither divorce me nor treat me as a wife."

The fourth one said, "My husband is a moderate person like the night of Tihama which is neither hot nor cold. I am neither afraid of him, nor am I discontented with him."

The fifth one said, "My husband, when entering (the house) is a leopard, and when going out, is a lion. He does not ask about whatever is in the house."

The sixth one said, "If my husband eats. he eats too much (leaving the dishes empty), and if he drinks he leaves nothing, and if he sleeps he sleeps alone (away from me) covered in garments and does not stretch his hands here and there so as to know how I fare (get along)."

The seventh one said, "My husband is a wrong-doer or weak and foolish. All the defects are present in him. He may injure your head or your body or may do both."

The eighth one said, "My husband is soft to touch like a rabbit and smells like a Zarnab (a kind of good smelling grass)."

The ninth one said, "My husband is a tall generous man wearing a long strap for carrying his sword. His ashes are abundant and his house is near to the people who would easily consult him."

The tenth one said, "My husband is Malik, and what is Malik? Malik is greater than whatever I say about him. (He is beyond and above all praises which can come to my mind). Most of his camels are kept at home (ready to be slaughtered for the guests) and only a few are taken to the pastures. When the camels hear the sound of the lute (or the tambourine) they realize that they are going to be slaughtered for the guests."

The eleventh one said, "My husband is Abu Zar and what is Abu Zar (i.e., what should I say about him)? He has given me many ornaments and my ears are heavily loaded with them and my arms have become fat (i.e., I have become fat). And he has pleased me, and I have become so happy that I feel proud of myself. He found me with my family who were mere owners of sheep and living in poverty, and brought me to a respected family having horses and camels and threshing and purifying grain . Whatever I say, he does not rebuke or insult me. When I sleep, I sleep till late in the morning, and when I drink water (or milk), I drink my fill. The mother of Abu Zar and what may one say in praise of the mother of Abu Zar? Her saddle bags were always full of provision and her house was spacious. As for the son of Abu Zar, what may one say of the son of Abu Zar? His bed is as narrow as an unsheathed sword and an arm of a kid (of four months) satisfies his hunger. As for the daughter of Abu Zar, she is obedient to her father and to her mother. She has a fat well-built body and that arouses the jealousy of her husband's other wife. As for the (maid) slave girl of Abu Zar, what may one say of the (maid) slavegirl of Abu Zar? She does not uncover our secrets but keeps them, and does not waste our provisions and does not leave the rubbish scattered everywhere in our house." The eleventh lady added, "One day it so happened that Abu Zar went out at the time when the milk was being milked from the animals, and he saw a woman who had two sons like two leopards playing with her two breasts. (On seeing her) he divorced me and married her. Thereafter I married a noble man who used to ride a fast tireless horse and keep a spear in his hand. He gave me many things, and also a pair of every kind of livestock and said, 'Eat (of this), O Um Zar, and give provision to your relatives." She added, "Yet, all those things which my second husband gave me could not fill the smallest utensil of Abu Zar's." 'Aisha then said: Allah's Apostle said to me, "I am to you as Abu Zar was to his wife Um Zar."