cremation...?

Question

my husband and i are both going to be cremated and sprinkled in the nc appalacians.

would it be weird to wait until we're both dead and then have someone put our ashes in a jar together, shake it all up, and then sprinkle us together? (as opposed to sprinkling us separately as we die)

Answer 1

That actually sounds pretty romantic. I would rather be cremated myself upon death, just in case there is ever a problem with a zombie invasion.

Answer 2

Dear Crystalinnectar,

Weird is very subjective, but i would think that while a person is alive if they want to have input as to what happens at their funeral, that those who they put in charge of it should do their best to honor those wishes. i personally think it's rather cute.

i guess that's one thing to keep in mind. Both you and your husband must be in agreement that you can bear having the other person's ashes there between the time that one passes away and the other passes away.

i guess you should also consider the feelings of your children (if you have any) and get their reaction and input to it- especially since they will likely be the ones who have to follow the plan. (You may want to establish before hand how it's done- so if you have multiple children there will be no confusion or debate).

i'm 33 years old, and i've discussed some of these things with my mom who is 59 years old.

My view is actually that the funeral is more for the people who are alive to remember and pay last respects to the departed- and so i think about those people's feelings. Like i told my mom about the life insurance policy my work provides so that they can pay for my funeral and told her i wanted to be buried in a casket because i think it would be too painful to have my mom or other loved ones see my body being burnt... it's an individual and also family decision to make- and i think that what's most important is that there is unity.

Hope that helps. Kindly,

Nickster

Answer 3

Sounds like a good plan!

I am British and my better half is an American Citizen. We want our ashes sprinkled in the Uinta mountains in Wyoming. To me that feels more like home than the UK does.

Answer 4

I certainly recommend that you wait until after your deaths to be cremated... (I assume it's a pretty hot oven.) but then, your idea sounds rather romantic. I don't see a thing wrong with it. You might even make the nightly news.

Personally, I'm undecided about my own disposal. Cremation seems reasonable - it's space saving, but burial at sea sounds kool, too - becoming fish food could be my last altruistic contribution to the world.

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Answer 5

Not at all. I think that is very romantic.

My husband and I are both being cremated - his ashes will be buried in his family plot in England and mine will be scattered over the ocean in Bar Harbor, Maine.

Answer 6

It's an interesting idea, but does it really matter where and when and with what other ashes "yours" are sprinkled? There's nothing karmic or spiritual about this - once you're dead, you won't care anymore.

Answer 7

I say nothing is weird. Do whatever puts your mind at peace.

Me, I don't care what happens to me. But if pressed, I want a Viking Funeral! I think it would be great if all my friends were drunk and watched my body sail out to sea on a flaming boat.

But that's just me.

Answer 8

No, that actually sounds really cool, you must love each other alot.

Answer 9

Aw, that sounds so romantic ^_^

that's not weird at all, that's beautiful!

Answer 10

I believe it is better to do it this way rather than before yoyr death.