What's wrong with being 28 and living at home if your parents encourage it?

Question

I work full time and go to grad school. Everyone gets along with everyone else in my home and live completely independent lives, minus living expenses. Why should my parents have to pay 15k in taxes every year to live in an empty house. They don't want to move, so it works out for everyone. I will move when I have a need to move (ie. a good paying job out of state etc.). I think moving out simply for the sake of saying "Look at me I am a big boy" is silly. And bringing girls home is not a problem; why shouldn't I bring girls to meet my family? And if you are wondering about coming over for sex, it isn't an issue. None before marriage.

What are your thoughts? I encounter many people who feel this is odd but I don't.

Answer 1

its not so bad as long as your finishing school. once thats done, your time is up. If you lived on your own, and you wanted to pay the bills alone, then school would definitly suffer, so would your stress levels and you should stay clear minded to succeed in school.

Keep on workin and get a nice degree, I bet you'll be better off than most people here. Don't listen to the haters here. They are only jealous
I left home when I was 19 btw. went to school and dropped out to work nonstop to pay the bills. I'm now 30 and returning to school, but am no longer working. Me and my Girlfriend switched rolls so I could graduate and babysit our child while she works.

I would suggest getting a car paid off while your there though.
its the smart financial thing to do. also, buy food once in a while for everyone. It will help out for everyones additudes including your own. Do your own laundry and wash dishes. Jump into the yard and do some work out there too.
remember, this is your house too. treat it like you care about it.
Keep up the good work.

Answer 2

I think that if you are comfortable and happy nothing else matters. People who are your friends or girls who really like you wont care where you live. You say sex is not an issue. So then why worry? Live your life the way you want to. Get your grad degree andbe ready when you want to be. You seem like a responsible and caring person. You respect yourself and others. Im sure there is a girl out there looking for someone like you. I must admit though, it is kinda odd. I've never heard of anyone still living at home and single. But its def not bad. So dont worry. Be happy! =)

Answer 3

First off--congratulations for being thoughtful and level headed---you are going to be a success in life with such a sensible outlook. Study hard and get your education--that is the number one priority.... help around the house when you can--or at least offer. Always be considerate of each others space and rules while you are there--keep your space clean and neat. No one has the right to judge or comment on how you live. It is YOUR life and you are in control of your decisions---are these people your age??? Why is it at 28 the whole conversation is about you and your arrangements...you need to remind them to mind their own business--say it once nicely--and if they keep it up--find new friends. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I don't see a problem. If everyone is happy with the situation that's great. You are doing things to get a head and be successful. As far as being judged by friends or girlfriends, some may find it strange, but that's their problem. They should be fine with it, and if they are not, you don't need them anyway. There are many factors to consider and that's between you and those you live with, no one else. When you find the right girl, she won't mind. When you're ready, you're ready.

Answer 5

There is nothing personally wrong with it, with some good examples you have listed. However, it only wrong socially, depending on which country you live in and your religion, as with almost all western countries, it is socially expected (meaning friends, work colleagues et cetera expect you) to move out and live independantly, instead of relying on your parents.

I personally prefer my independance, but my sister still lives at home with mum, and I see no problem with that, as they help each other out for the same reasons you have also said, financially.

Answer 6

Since you are still going to school, then it is okay to an extent. Moving out is about establishing yourself as your own autonomous adult. You maybe helping out with some of the bills; but it is nothing like the reality of being own your own. it is a part of being a grown-up. By staying under your parents roof then you still are living life with a safety net. Like I said since you are going to school it is okay becuase you have school bills to pay along with helping with some of the household expenses.

Answer 7

Nothing odd at all. If this suits you why shouldnt you live the life you want. In many Asian societies (Indian for example) children live at home till they marry. Nobody sees anything wrong with it. Do what is comfortable for you. The world will always have an opinion about everything.

Answer 8

I think a lot of people move out when they are younger than 28 because they want to be independent. Living on your own, paying your own bills and making your own rules makes you an independent adult.

Answer 9

The only reason ppl find it odd is because they get the old 30 year old guy living with his mom picture in his head. After your explaination, i understand why you do still live at home (most esp. grad school ^_^) , i suggest you don't bother with the people who have issues, they don't get the situation, do what is right to you.

Answer 10

it is probably considered a little undesirable as you have not shown any signs that you can actually take care of yourself. when you do get a girl, you are likely to expect her to take care of you, since you have never learnt how - and that is pretty off-putting. it is more than just the rite of passage - it is about learning how to rely on yourself to cook, clean and do all the daily chores that are required by all other adults.

this screams laziness and dependency, and both of those are fairly unattractive qualities.

also, can you imagine when you are a parent (which is, btw, possibly less likely if you are still living at home now) having your kids still at home at that age. give your parents some freedom to enjoy themselves without a dependent!