How can I learn to love my body?

Question

I heard someone say that in order for others to love you, you have to first love yourself.
I thought about that and it's true.
I know I'm pretty, and that I have a good figure...but when I look in the mirror...that's not exactly what I see.

I've tried that whole 'look in the mirror and say "I'm absolutely gorgeous' thing lol...it doesn't really work lol..but it's sorta funny.

So what else can I do to become more comfortable with myself, and raise my confidence?

I'm going to a new school next year..and I need the confidence...I don't want to be shy anymore..so......

Thanks =]

Answer 1

I have a simple answer that is kind of corny. Add it to the things you are already doing. When I start feeling bad about my body when I look in the mirror, I take a step or two back and look again. We have a tendency to look too closely and see all the flaws. When you are shopping or at a restaurant, you don't look at people within 5 or 10 feet. People see you at that same distance so you need to look at yourself from that distance to see what others see. Maybe I over explained it, but it helps to take a few steps back to see what you really look like.
Also, remember that you are going to judge your body harsher than any one, and no one is perfect. And don't try to compare yourself to a certain image because there is no perfect image of what people are suppose to look like. Realize that no matter how you look, people will always think you are beautiful. :)

Answer 2

You are absolutely right in your way of thinking and you just need a little bit more confidence to start accepting and loving your body as you should!

One thing that I find helps (in addition to looking in the mirror and saying to yourself that you are gorgeous) is to do lots of sports.
Things like going to the gym, jogging, doing sit ups, anything that you enjoy.
Exercise makes you more aware of your own muscles and posture on a subconscious level and makes you feel more comfortable and confident in your own body!
Try doing the above for a week or two - you will be amazed by how different you will feel!

Answer 3

Stop comparing yourself to other people and see you as the beautiful, unique individual that you are. The problem is in your head, heart and spirit not your form. Get God in your life.

Good luck.

P.S.: I hope that you mean you're going to a new college next year and that you're not a kid. If you are, you are way too young to see yourself as anything but beautiful. My goodness give yourself a chance to live without killing your own spirit first. Tell an adult how you feel, maybe a school counselor if you don't think telling your parents will help you and make sure you give them the details of what you've already tried to do to help your self-esteem, but to no avail.

Answer 4

Time and patience, with both you'll realise that you're attractive and funny and begin to wonder why you were so caught up on what peoples views of you are. There's no quick fix, but it certainly sounds like youre on the right path. As a helper, you could always try my method, and try not to take yourself or other people too seriously, and that way you will grow to enjoy life more.

I hope some of this helps, take care


jinx

Answer 5

Sounds to me like u r trying to hard I am 14 and never really loved my body until just recently. U shouldn't compare yourself to others or pick out the things u don't like about urself u should just look at yourself in the mirror or make a list of everything u like about you and u will see how amazing u really r.

Answer 6

Just accept yourself for who you are. No one is perfect, they may act like it, but if you look close enough you'll find a flaw.

They say Even the most beautiful rose, has thorns. So realize that you are not perfect, but neither is anyone else. The most beautiful person is the one that is not concerned about their own perfection, but enjoys life and are a pleasure to be with. You can be one of those people. good luck

Answer 7

costly maybe this is effective to take heed to this music via Christina Aguilera. And try this meditation once you seem into the mirror. Say this on your very own words, I honestly have been furnish an entire physique via the universe might I commerce my physique areas with wealth. i think of you're suitable and a self optimistic in you will make your elegance finished.

Answer 8

hey,
when you are talking to someone, look straight into his/her eyes for a split second if you're shy and say in your mind "I KNOW YOU THINK I HAVE THE COOLEST BODY IN TOWN AND YOU ADMIRE IT". i promise it'll make you smile and feel cool afterwards.
The mirror stuff don't work anymore cos the mind does not accept compliments from itself but loves them if they come from others. so trick it.
Have a great life.

Answer 9

well.......i think you should not care about what other people think of u. that's why most people are shy....they're too afraid to explore and only think about having fun! try that!.......and, if your not believing your self when you say that your gorgeous...that's your problem.......that you need 2 fix.