How do i become a better person?

Question

I realize that i have issues i need to work on such as: i feel like i degrade myself by saying cuss words, i tend to take things personal and snap back at whoever, and also tend to judge people too soon before i get to know them.

Answer 1

Jesus is the answer:
Romans 10
Eph 2:8-9
Acts 2:21
Matt 24-25
John 3:15-21

Answer 2

All the above are good answers and definetly giving you good direction. But you really need to seek professional help. That is not a bad thing, nor should it be insulting or embarassing. Just talking to a professional psych. or therapist will help, just for the reason that you will get consistant feedback as well as follow up on your progress. Some of your shortcomings might go deeper than you think and those professionals will be able to identify.
Age and maturity have a lot to do with it also. Not knowing how old you are,......... becoming more mature might assist in some of these areas.

Answer 3

If you want to make sure you are a better person be sure you are Christian and live as a Christian. Attend church and learn the rights and wrongs, Sunday school is really a great place to learn, they have them for all ages to grown ups.

Work on the things you have mention. Sounds like you know some of the biggest problems are and what you didn't mention, you know yourself where you need to start. You obviously feel the need.

Answer 4

Something is bothering you deeply. Someone did something to you or something. You need to go to a counselor and talk about it and realize that people you are snapping out at arent the same people who did that to you.

Also, you need to pray about it. God is the only person who can make you really feel worthwhile to yourself. You are doing bad things to yourself and others because you feel bad. You need to forgive yourself first and recongnixe the good in yourslef and then slowly work on fitting back into soecity

Answer 5

It sounds like you've taken the first step - you admitted you have a few things to work out.

Now that you have identified the areas you need work on, its a matter of finding ways to address your issues.

There are a few good suggestions given in the other answers, but a lot depends on your circumstances. If you don't have medical coverage it might be difficult for you to start seeing a therapist or counselor. If you do have a way to pay for their help, it might prove useful to you to at least go for awhile to learn about tools you can use to help yourself. Be very careful about medications. While sometimes people have chemical imbalances that require medicine, other times medication is overused when it is not needed.

Helping others - like volunteering at a soup kitchen, a local food cupboard, a local library or nursing home, etc. - will help you realize that there are people who have it a lot worse off than you do & yet are not as defensive as you seem to be. It will also help you not to judge people so abruptly & work on your personal interaction skills.

Here are some more ideas since you seem to like being on the computer:

- Start a Word or xls file (I used xls & set-up 1 file, then
labelled the tabs with the different titles.)
- First tab title: Daily Log
- List 3 words/phrases that describe each day
(ex. Sunny, Lots of paperwork, Flowers in bloom)
- Second tab title: Daily Feelings
- List 3 to 5 words describing how you felt that day
(ex. Happy, Energized, Friendly, Ready to work)
- Third tab title: Journal
- Write the things that were important to you that
occurred on that day.
(ex. Jennie was very happy when she greeted
me this morning. That got my day off to a great
start. I'm sure the sunshine helped with my mood,
too. Got through a lot of papers on my desk today.
It felt good to finally clear off that corner of my desk.
When I took a walk down to the sub shop for lunch
I noticed all the flowers in bloom in the window box.
Makes me think I should get a plant to put on that
empty spot on my desk.)
- Fouth tab title: Words for tomorrow
- List 3 to 5 words/phrases for the next day (if there
is something happening the next day you could list
that here, too, as a reminder.)
(ex. Walk at lunch, Pick up birthday card for Susan,
Practice restraint, Think of another word to use
instead of __insert wear word__ . )

Believe it or not, talking to yourself in the mirror is a GOOD thing. Start telling yourself 3 good thoughts every morning during your morning routine. You'll find yourself greeting people more genuinely as you see them each morning.

If you are a spiritual person, turn to the god of your understanding & get involved with a congregation near your home or place of work. If you're not, then find a social network associated with something you are interested in & join it. Volunteer for committees, help put on an event, do something that makes you feel good.

Once you've changed one habit (it takes 21 consecutive days of doing something to actually change a behavior) start working on another one. After you get the hang of it, spread the word to others who can use some help.

Work at it & you'll improve. Just like anything else.

Answer 6

Well, it sounds like you realize what you need to work on. So, work on those things first. Try not to swear so much, let negative comments roll right off you, and don't get snappy. These are all things you can change if you make a conscious effort. Don't criticize others or let what they think or do effect you.

Answer 7

I think that it would be a great idea for you to volunteer some of your time to a cause that you believe in. It will make you feel good about yourself and maybe help you realize that you shouldn't judge others and it will make you less self centered so maybe you won't imediately think that everything is about you.

Answer 8

your becoming 1 allready by just asking for help :0) im just the same as you with the sound of it lol im just starting to be able to listen to people more and realising that actually other people have opinions and theres not just me in the room its so awkward i used to judge people when i met them you cannot help it and its hard to get out of but you will get there ill blow you a good luck kiss and remember your not on your own :0) mwah x

Answer 9

1) try to control ur anger. Think about what you should do other than cuss. Maybe u should just keep your mouth shut if u cant think of any other way 2 express ur anger.
2) Get anger management classes.

Answer 10

Anything negative can be turned into a POSITIVE remark..

All you need to do is realise how you can manipulate it. Then whoever insults you, just tell them what it means positively and thank them... It always shuts them up lol..

For example: "your tiny" "yea, and will run rings around you, thanks for noticing"...