i'm 21 years old and i still dont have a bf and i dont know why?

Answer 1

Don't be in such a hurry to have a relationship. They are hard work you know. You could use your time alone to learn how to communicate effectively with men and how to forgive in bad situations because of all the relationship skills you need in this world, those two are the most important. However, while you are waiting don't be or appear to be over anxious, desperate, or eager. Men spot this and they figure it's a signal that they'll be able to "get in and get out" quickly without a commitment. Stand your ground on your needs/requirements for a suitable mate and don't settle for less. I hope this helps.

Answer 2

There's a time limit now? If you don't find The One by 21, you never will? Maybe you don't have a bf because he hasn't shown up yet--he's in college, in the military, in another state.
When the time is right, he will appear and you will be out there, dating others, attending events, working and playing, and living life to the fullest, won't you? As long as you're breathing and moving, it will happen. (I married at 22, 27 and 46 so it does happen!)

Answer 3

How do you normally interact with people in social environments? Are you putting yourself in situations in which is it easy to meet people? Are you approachable and making yourself appear open to relationships?

Both men and women can detect insecurity and neediness a mile away, and this may deter them from approaching you, even if it's so subtle that they don't know they're picking up on it. While this is an important part of you they need to meet (if those words apply to you), you may want to "shut it off," if you can, temporarily.

Do you act settled in front of other people? If so, open up a bit more. Sometimes it can be difficult, but others gravitate toward the person who is not shy about chit-chatting with the stranger next to them.

Is any stress in your life reflected in your attitude when you go out? Are you generally socially uncomfortable? Is your body language that of a person who is open, available, friendly and courteous, or is it that of a person who is uneasy? These are questions you need to ask yourself because if you don't take the time to evaluate yourself and improve your self-image (if applicable), it will be more difficult to find a person who sees through all of that and engages in dating activity.

Also, you can call the shots. It sounds as if you're waiting for a man to approach you. While this is more "traditional," you're living in the 21st century. It is perfectly acceptable for you to approach a prospective boyfriend and express interest in varying ways, including asking for his phone number, asking him out, making arrangements to see each other again, etc.

Answer 4

Hi loving_person,

I am 23 and I jsut met someone for the first time in my life a couple weeks ago who is really something. Sometimes it just takes time to meet someone.

Personal appearence also helps, as that will brign you more attention from guys. Keep in mind how you dress and don't drink or do drugs, that will scare people off.

Answer 5

don't be too worried about it. Just do your thing, find a good hobbie, if you haven't. Dosomething positive for yourself..After I broke up w/ my boyfriend of 3 yrs when I was 21 I decided to join the gym to keep busy and do something positive. It will work out for yourself, be independent.

Answer 6

Why is getting a boyfriend your ultimate goal in life, what, you have your life planned out?? At 18 get a boyfriend, at 21 get married at 25 have kids, preferably twins so I don't have to go through it again.......

Answer 7

Sit by yourself in the library or the cafeteria or restaurant. Be by yourself in the grocery store or at the mall. Smile at the cute guys when they go by. Look at them up and down from crotch to eyes. Lick your lips. Touch your lips with your finger. Put your finger in your mouth a long way and then pull it out slowly with your lips tight around it, while you look them up and down.

Dress sexy and classy.

You will soon have all the dates you can handle.

Answer 8

RELAX and enjoy the rest of your life. it WILL happen if you put yourself out there, use your brain and keep your heart open. there's no set age on meeting someone. being single has plenty of advantages too! I have no one and doing fine. ( some people work better alone but your too young to be this set. just give yourself time and space. keep socializing and stay away from badboys) peace!



Vin

Answer 9

ok no prob this is ssssooooo easy if u do it in a fast way ..........

1. ask ur friend to ask out someone u like
2. if he says yes then talk and stuff like that if he turns out to be a reall *** then dump him

but dont ask out a guy at the mall -they cheat ugh i hate that

you can try to attract attention (like laughing or something like that not the sick wayyyy) and lots of guys notice u belive me

Answer 10

Go for a makeover, then go out with your girlfriends preferably to a nice bar where guys are not cheap. flirt with cute guys that look your way