on YA from american women married to muslims, especially moroccans. We've decided it would be best for us to be married in Morocco. I'm curious did you have a moroccan wedding, an american wedding or a mixture. I'm not talking about the legal part of it, but the celebration part of it. Details are appreciated and might give me some good ideas. Thanks in advance for your answers.
2007-06-16
08:23:02
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I've done a lot of research on Moroccan weddings and have to admit the little girl in me loves the idea of all the beautiful clothing changes, but I definitely want one of them to be a traditional american wedding gown.
2007-06-16
09:37:20 ·
update #1
Since looking at the sites and speaking to my fiance, I have discovered how expensive moroccan weddings are and realize neither of us can afford such an elaborate wedding. So would it be considered rude to just do the legal part and then celebrate only with his parents, siblings, their spouses and his best friend?
2007-06-16
11:04:11 ·
update #2
I was married in Morocco with a traditional wedding, but on a smaller scale. It was completely arranged in less than a week. Two women were brought in to cook the food in the upstairs kitchen, a woman was hired to do my henna, another for my hair and make up and another to help with my dress and jewelry changes. A videographer was brought in and my dresses and jewelry were rented, along with my husband's sister's dress. My husband's mother took care of my husband's clothing, my shoes, etc... She was amazing at all she did, actually. We took care of the music ourselves with equipment and CDs family members had and we had a friend take our pictures.
The night before the wedding my henna was done on my hands and feet. The morning of my wedding, I showered and took the dried off henna off, ate and began to prepare for the celebration. The woman came to do my hair and make up (which looked AMAZING, not slutty!), and soon after, the woman arrived with my dresses. Honestly so much happened from that time on, I don't remember it all! I do remember that the food smelled amazing as it cooked (but we were so busy, neither my husband nor I actually ate any!). While my hair and make up was being done, things were set up downstairs- chairs, candies, flowers, music, etc... I didn't actually witness any of that though.
When the wedding finally started, there were 30-40 people in our house, the music was sooooooo loud. The women made a noise with their mouthes as we came down the stairs and were presented to everybody, and they did this each time I changed my dress. I wore 4 dresses. The first one was my husband's sister's dress and it was made especially for her wedding. It was absolutely beautiful. The next 2 were rented and were amazing, and the last one was made especially for me. I did not want to do the platform thing where they lift you in the air and dance around with you because I am afraid of falling. We had lots of pictures taken and danced a lot, and I met so many new people. While I was in my first dress my husband and I shared dates and milk, a Moroccan tradition, and exchanged our rings which had been on display for everybody to see. About halfway through we stopped everything and did our Act of Marriage with 2 Adouls who were brought in. We established all of the necessary information and the dowry, signed a book and prayed. We then returned to the celebration.
Moroccan weddings are like any wedding... You can add or remove any part you choose. If you want to wear 7 dresses or 1 dress, you can. You can wear traditional Moroccan tukshitas, western dresses, Berber, Indian... anything you choose. You can serve whatever food you like and have as many or as few people as you wish. Some things are traditional and people expect and enjoy that, but when 2 people of different cultures unite, they expect some things to be a bit different. Follow your heart and do what you and your husband want.
If you want to see pics from my wedding, email me (there is a link on my profile) and I will send you the information for the website where my pics are located. It may give you an idea of what to expect, or things you may or may not want to do.
2007-06-17 01:56:09
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answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7
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I didn't get married there, but all the American women I know well that did get married there had a 100% Moroccan wedding. I'd love to see what everyone else has to say.
Traditional Moroccan weddings are nice, you get to change dresses a bunch of times...I can go into details...but I will wait to see what everyone else writes.
EDIT: Usually a lot of women will wear one 'American style' dress.
EDIT2: I did a mini-Moroccan style wedding here...but only with family(in-laws) (so it was REALLY small) but I didn't know anyone here...I had just moved...
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EDIT3: Yes, I suppose they can take many months but my in-laws seem to pull it together in a couple of weeks or so...BUT they live in a village (a rather large village --we would consider it the size of a town here). If they hear wedding music they just walk towards the house that is playing it and go in LOL that's how well they all know each other LOL It would depend on where you want to have it and the situation of the family.
I say go for it and have a small one! I did, and it was fun...there was a total of 5 adults and a couple of kids...real small but more fun in a way because it's just family...and we got to eat and dance and stuff--it was sweet. I still had my dresses too! :) I have a brother in law that is very religious and they did not have a party...they just got together as a family and ate. When you both are in America together you can have another little party for your family--have your family and friends bring food etc. After finding my husband and getting married I think PPL OVERDO weddings (in many countries) anyway. TOO much money for one day... as if it is the last day of happiness or something....it's kinda sad....
2007-06-16 09:29:54
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answered by Sassafrass 6
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I also am married to a Moroccan but actually refused a wedding here. My mother in law went way overboard on my sister in laws wedding and I knew it would drive me insane it I did it also. Plus I am just not in to all the hoopla for myself but they can be fun. I think most women would love them. I think they are nicer than American weddings.
Like Fez said, most women use an American style wedding dress for one of their changes.
Depending on how large of a party you have will make a difference in the planning. Most I have been to surely took months to get together. There is a lot of little details in a Moroccan wedding that are traditional and would be a little shameful to not do or offer. The gifts, candies, cakes, food, dresses, jewelry. The gifts the groom needs to provide for the bride.
Weddings are sometimes in a persons home or one party in the brides family home and one in the grooms. Larger weddings are held in rented accommodations. I have been to weddings where the brides family hosts the nikkah with a large party and then a couple months later they have a large walima hosted by the groom (or vice verse).
You can rent dresses or have them made. Like Fez mentioned you can hire a planner to help, she usually brings the bride/groom chairs if needed, extra jewelry if needed, the maids and maidens etc.
What city are you thinking of doing this in? If you really want to get into the nitty gritty details email me.
2007-06-16 10:37:49
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answered by ~~∞§arah T∞©~~ 6
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I think you already know the answer to this. You said yourself that you should let her go. I agree with that sentiment. You are aware of how dangerous it is to get into any type of relationship with somebody who would cheat on the current mate, right? Well, statistics show those who cheat, wind up leaving for the one the cheated with, have a high incidence of doing this again. You will find yourself the one cheated on. Now, with that said, there are so many other issues here too, so many red flags you heart wants to ignore, but your head refuses to allow. Why would any woman "marry with her head and not her heart"? That sounds awfully premeditated using behavior. If she didn't feel passion, or a "connection" with her husband, then what exactly did he possess that she married him for while "using her head"? That sounds scary to me. I all honestly it sounds like she simply want an affair. You have no idea of how many affairs she may have had while married to this poor husband of hers. How sad he somehow was manipulated into marrying a woman who feels no passion or a connection with him! She is robbing him of a real opportunity for a love that will be as true towards him as his is towards her. It is dead wrong to marry a man who loves you because he may offer security, and take what you can from him and not offer him love in return. That is not only dead wrong, it is selfish and cruel and cold blooded. If that is what you want, go for it. You would probably be doing her poor husband a favor taking her off of his hands. He may hurt for a while, but he would recover and wind up thanking you for saving him years more of misery, and lost chances at a real loving long term marriage. Good luck and much success in life, truly. I don't wish you harm, only to wake up and see this woman for the cold blooded user and cheater she really is.
2016-05-17 10:10:59
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answered by ? 3
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