I told a girl how I felt about her a few days ago. Up until last week, one of my mates was joking around with her and said that we should just sleep together and she admitted that she really likes me alot, but knew that I wasn't the type of guy to which sex meant nothing. She sent me a message saying that I'm the most "wonderful guy" she's ever met but that she can't break up with her on/off boyfriend. I was taking the rejection well until I found out that everyone knew she'd been back with him for weeks. Now I feel like an absolute idiot but the signals are still there and the things she says to others and me led me to believe she was available and attracted to me. Do you think she enjoys leading me on? I think she is a genuinely nice person but doesn't know what she wants or is scared to act on her true feelings. Why would she get back with him yet continue to express her interest in me? I'm completely lost and blind to how her mind might be working. Any ideas?
2007-06-16 07:51:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes she loves the trill of leading you on. Don't focus your attention on her any more. Find yourself a real woman who will truly appreciate you.
2007-06-16 07:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's happening is that she is in a comfort zone with her on/off boyfriend, and when people break up, they often get back together because it's most comfortable for them. It's no more fulfilling or pleasant or closer than before - in fact, nothing's changed. But they slip back into it, anyway, because then they don't have to go through the decidedly uncomfortable process of breaking up for good, meeting someone else, getting to know them.
You say she's nice, but it sounds like she's playing head games with your heart and emotions, and that's NOT nice. I would say ignore her. Any interest she shows in you, treat with obvious skepticism. If you respond, keep your responses non-committal. If she's truly interested, she'll keep after you, and you can gradually warm up a little. But if she is just playing games, she'll quit after no longer getting a reaction from you, and you may not be happy about it, but you'll be well rid of her, believe me.
2007-06-16 08:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bill F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is kind of a way of flirting. Like she knows you like her and she likes you but eventually things probably will get really bad between her and her "on/off boyfriend" I wouldnt worry about it if I were you! Go on with your normal life and what is meant to be will work out perfectly!
2007-06-16 07:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is simply torn. She doesn't know what she wants, so she finds herself giving mixed signals to both you and the boyfriend. I would say wait. Don't be cold, but don't chase her either. Wait for her to make up her mind conclusively and then see what happens.
2007-06-16 07:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by Exosus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is torn, But it looks like she's made up her mind on who she wants to be with, I think she lied to you, so not to hurt you, I'm sorry, it kinda sucks,
2007-06-16 08:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by tootnuts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She manipulating you (like almost all women) & you're there for her convenience. Do yourself a favor drop her & get another girl.
2007-06-16 07:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋