i was talking to this guy that i really , really, really like and we were sitting nex to each other. we smiled a bit and then he put his hand on my knee/lap. it felt nice , warm and affectionate...only to wake up in my bed and find that i had just had a dream!!!
i know it sounds like nothing, but it meant soo much. it felt to loving!
its happed a few times before and ive never felt more depressed! empty, lonely! its like somone pulled my heart out and put it in a blender!
what am i gona do? i really like him and know he really likes me back! hes obvious about it, as in all the signs are there...staring, talking my things by accident, constant eye contact, lingering smiles, always saying hi..but both of us are too shy to say anything more!
i cant be with him coz my inidan culture and mum wont let me date!
im soo alone. 21 and never had a BF!
2007-06-16 07:41:24 · 17 answers · asked by girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No ONE or culture has the right to determine who you can see, no disrespect but if this man feels right then act on it and see what happens. LOVE is a gift and it might not happen for you again.Contact him tell privately and tell him to meet you somewhere away from everybody you both know and go from there. Good Luck
2007-06-16 07:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that dream symbolizes that you are really into him, that's your consience giving you what you always have trouble doing, Now if you say that he talks to you and you talk to him I don't think it will be a problem asking him out, I mean you already found confidence on him and him on you so just tell him! ask to go with you somewhere don't just wonder what if, just do it beore it's too late and finds another lady, About the age you are 21 therefore you are supposed to be free, 18 is the age to break up from your parents, at 21 you should do as you please BUT if you really have respect for your parents then I suggest to keep listening to her.
2007-06-16 07:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by Vicz101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the Indian culture is strict especially if your mom has an arranged marriage in mind for you. You will most likely have to sneak around to be with him, if you can get over your shyness and think you can handle that then try it. Remember though if your mom finds out, that's it. 21 or not she will not accept him and that could mean serious problems for you, so be careful. If you think your mom might be open minded then talk to her first and hear what she's thinks about you liking this guy.
2007-06-16 07:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea,it does happen when you are really obsessed with someone & all you do is think about that person day & night & that's why you end up doing sexual things with that person in your dream.if your mom wont allow you to date,it 's ok & let it be,if you two are meant to be,you'll come together some day.liking someone so hard doesnt mean that you break your cultural & family obligations.get over him soon or you'll face a whole lot of problems.if your mom's conservative,get a new hobby & stop thinking about him.i know it's difficult but no love is so great as to go against your family.
Good Luck
2007-06-16 08:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by glamdoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is truly making you unhappy to a great extent, then you may want to consider going with a slightly more liberal approach to your culture. That said, tradition has great importance, so weigh that very very carefully in comparison to your potential for happiness in your current situation.
As for this instance, I would say it is less about him and more about you. Yes, you are clearly attracted to him, but it would be my guess that you are more attracted to what he symbolizes. That is, freedom from the constrictions you have placed upon yourself (We can always ignore the words of our parents until they begin to echo in our thoughts) and the happy you imagine you will gain from that.
I do not know what the possibility is from a financial perspective. If you are in America than I can have a pretty firm grasp on things, but other countries' attitudes towards women in the workplace vary widely. If you are somewhere where you HAVE to stay with your parents, then none of this really applies, and you have to kind of deal with it. Is it possible that you two could be friends without violating cultural taboos?
2007-06-16 07:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Exosus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, because of your Indian culture, you can't date him?
I don't know whether it's because of race.. age.. or I don't know how that works. But if you can't, I mean.. there's nothing you can do. Just try to forget about it and live life. Unless you want to go against the culture and your mom. People do it all time, I know a Jewish man married an Indian woman. I'm sorry, I don't know what to say to this, but I guess those are your two choices.
2007-06-16 07:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Chekie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really 21 you mom doesn't have a saying in if you can date or not I think your old enough to make that decision on your own. And your culture has nothing to do with who you date.
2007-06-16 07:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by John 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to talk to your mom first. tell her that youre old enough to make your own decisions and you need to do what makes you happy and not her. going behind her back isn't going to help anything. she might suprise you and agree. if she doesn't then you can still go with the guy, or you can forget him, though it sounds like you guys might have something special. it just depends if you want to be respected by your mom more, or if you want to be with this guy. if she lets you, then you should ask him out, go for it. don't sit around waiting for him, because he might never get a clue. hope this helps. good luck . :)
2007-06-16 07:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by ladyboo(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your talking to one. not all girls are sexy pimps. guys judge girls too much on what they see on MTV and in certain other places.... moving into schools now as well. girls can still be good. for example.... i am an A+ student, and i think i am nice, as far as i can tell. i am also pretty, i supose. there are many gross women out there but at the same time, men too. for every mean girl, there is always 10 girls more that are nice. you may just be hanging with the wrong people.
2016-05-17 09:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
K I understand your cuture, but your mom wont let you date!!! you are what 21 and your mom wont let you date, that's really silly how are you supposed to learn about relationships if you can't ever be in one. Sweety you need to realise that it's your life no one elses and you are the only one that has to live it
2007-06-16 07:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by coco late 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋