Ladies only, Give me some tips for getting a date when out at local pubs and such, its been a long time, Years

Question

This guy is ready to date again, maybe more with the right gal. i'm 42 never married Single White male, in very good shape and have been told nicely handsome also
Only been on about 10 dates in my life, get bit nervous, and have been taking care of my elderly parents the last 8 years , while working hard at job 10 hours a day until the last 4, Now just taking care of dear mother who is diadnosed as blind, she will be 86 his july, but you would think she is 70. i take great care of and for her, but i need someone for myself, and hopefully someday not for dating. Any thoughtful sugestions would be great. i'm ready to try the dating sceen again. I was almost married before she broke it off after 2 years. Lost my job on a Friday, and lost her on Saturday, She ws cheating on me for a couple weeks and decided to tell me 3 weeks before we were to get married. So i have felt broken down for last 10 years, and am very causious now. i'm the nicest man you will meet.

Answer 1

Honestly, it sounds like you're looking for a person to take your pain away and take you into fantasy land.

It's clear that your burdon is heavy. My best buddy (26 years old) is a single mom (10 year old) working 50 hours a week, taking care of her Mom (who's had 2 lung transplants), and was taking care of her grand-mother (who died 1.5 years ago). Her fiance did that same thing to her 1/2 year ago. I love her so dearly ... but I can see right through her and recognize that she needs to heal. She doesn't need a man so much as she needs her soul mended. I've told her this, and she agree's. We talk about men who can mend her soul ... but reality is that this is her big journey that I've been called to share it with her (being her buddy).

I will recomend to you what I recomend to her always ... build your foundation of friends (men & women) ... survive this ... breath ... and don't set goals for dating but surround yourself with people (all ranges: old, young, rich, poor, sick, healthy) who are full of hope, faith, and love.