be jealous becuase I shared a tent with another guy? He's dissapointed that I didn't respect him? But I am of the belief that men and women can have many types of relationships. I didn't hide it from him, and I don't feel that I did anything wrong. The guy was a stranger, who I sort of became friends with, but within the realms of a mutual people to people relationship. How do I tell him to calm down, and trust me? I think it's because he's been hurt before. This is really screwing up our relationship. Please comment...
2007-06-16 06:48:06 · 5 answers · asked by little lump in my throat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes this is something that would make a person jealous. I would just say sorry you won't do it again and dont make a big deal about how he feels. ITs not just you he has to trust, but the other guy too. I mean think about the reverse, if it was him in a tent with some chic who was better looking than you for example. ???
2007-06-16 06:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had to have seen that one coming though, didn't you? I mean if he's your guy he's not going to have a sense of humor about that unless you had an understanding beforehand that your relationship wasn't going to be mutually exclusive. He could share your belief in theory that "men and women can have many types of relationships" without necessarily being down with the idea of your sharing a tent with another man. That's an implied intimacy that's understandably going to drive him nuts. Even if he believes nothing happened (which is a big stretch to any male imagination) he's still going to feel disrespected and take that as a slap in the face. I get that you're living in concert with your own convictions (honestly in fact, since you didn't try to hide it or be sneaky about anything)....that's great. But you have to understand that that's not a belief you both share. He quite clearly feels a different way about it. Sometimes understanding that has to make you choose differently. For instance, a guy may think it's perfectly okay to attend a strip club knowing nothing is going to happen...he's not even open to having anything happen, but his girlfriend views that as disrespectful and hurtful to her. Should he go anyway? He has every right to, and he knows his true intentions are honorable. But he also knows that action will cause her pain, so should he go (standing on principle) or should he consider his girlfriend?
If he values the relationship he won't, if it's more important to him that he prove a point, he will. This is the equivalent impact your actions have had on him. Good luck to you.
2007-06-16 14:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah this is a really common yet complicated situation. as much as you want to consider his feelings in everything you do, you shouldn't let his insecurities get in the way of your life. if he cant trust you you're better off laying down the law or giving him the boot...or you can always just use more consideration in the things you do so that you dont risk hurting his ego. whichever works.
2007-06-16 13:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by unlikexne1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, u are wrong
gl
2007-06-16 13:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by kc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you used protection this time....
READ HER OTHER QUESTIONS PEOPLE!!!
2007-06-16 17:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋