Do peope generally feel that if you don't agree with them you are judging or being intolerant?

Question

that should be "People".........fast typer..lol

Answer 1

It appears that way in this forum, but add "persecuting" to the list. lol

Answer 2

I would tolerate people who hold different opinions than me, unless they were really disgusting or if the person acted out badly. For example, I wouldn't tolerate a man who believes he has a right to beat or rape a woman, though I would tolerate a man who thinks women should be housewives. It's best to kill people with kindness. If I act like a rational normal person, the other might take my opinions more seriously. People who rant and rave at anyone who seems intolerant will only look like as bad a loony as the person they don't like.

Answer 3

Both for me. I'm always amazed when I give my asked for opinion and then catch alot of crap for having answered the question. Not just in here, but anywhere. I never judge anyone. To judge is to render a sentence against someone after impartially hearing their case. I'm not a judge, but I am extrememly capable of recognizing the BS that some people try and blow past me. I just catch them in the act, and they get all pissy with me and send me nasty e-mails like the one I got earlier this morning for answering a question (agenda) about tobacco and smoking.
As for being intolerant, guilty as charged. All this talk of acceptance and "open-mindedness" is enough to make you wonder if some people are so open-minded their freaking brain fell out. It's ok up to a very small and guarded degree. To tolerate and accept EVERYTHING is to value NOTHING. Are there no standards anymore for personal integrity or speaking up for what you believe in, regardless what the herd says? Why is it you're considered "open-minded" when you're agreeing with the herd, but suddenly "closed-minded" when you're not? Can anyone please explain this to me?

Answer 4

I can't speak for other "people", only myself. I don't consider someone judgemental and intolerant simply because they hold an opinion contrary to mine. However, if they call people with other beliefs names, or attempt to assign sinister to motives to people who believe differently, or generally attempt to demonize groups of people who don't think as they do, then yes, I think they are being judgmental.

If they advocate violence against people with differing opinions, or advocate second class citizenship, or restrictive laws against groups of people based on their ideologies, then yes, I believe that is being intolerant.

Saying, "I disagree and here is why," isn't being intolerant.

Saying," You are wrong, and there should be a law against thinking the way you do" (or someone should kick your butt for thinking that, or you are a %$^%%^$ for that) etc. is

I see this sort of rhetoric coming from all sides.

Answer 5

I think it started when it became impolite in US general society to avoid discussion about religion or politics.

So only people who agree with each other get along these days.

Boring.

I like a good, rousing discussion, sometimes I learn something, sometimes I even change my mind on an issue if I get can see someone else's thinking about it.

Answer 6

People who feel this way are usually on the defensive. or in denial. Sound judgment is healthy if its true. Its not being intolerant by speaking the truth.
Joe.

Answer 7

In my experience those people seem to be the minority. Most people, in my opinion, appreciate constructive criticism.

However it does appear to depend on the issue, usually more people seem to take offense when it is in regard to their freedoms, liberties, or rights to do something regardless of the consequences of their actions. Example - Some smokers seem to take offense when you point out the Surgeon General's warning to them.

Answer 8

It can work that way sometimes, but I think it depends a little bit on how you disagree. Telling people that you don't see something the same way as they do is a little different from telling them that their point of view is ridiculous.

Answer 9

The basis of civil society is the respectful exchange and debate of ideas -- Democracy. Everyone has a point of view; so it is up to you to communicate that you respectfully disagree.

Answer 10

Yeah, people generally feel that way. And yeah, a lot of Christians are that way. (Not all, just a large part of them.) But I personally like discussing opposite issues with my friends, I just find it fun to have a good intelligent debate.

Answer 11

yes, very few understand it is ok to have different thoughts.

But then again alot of times when people do disagree they become intolerant and judging, so there is a flip side.