well since i moved, 3 months ago, i've been very depressed. i've been having suicidal thoughts and i'm really scared. i met someone that i can trust, but i don't know if i should tell her. i'm afraid she'd tell my parents or something and i don't want that. but i want to talk to someone, someone that i trust and know, and not a doctor or counselor or psychiatrist, or anyone like that. but i really need to tell someone, and i was going to tell her, but i'm deciding whether i should or not because i really don't want her to flip out and tell someone. what should i do?
2007-06-16 05:56:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well you say you've met someone you can trust but then you don't know if you can trust her or not! So you need someone to talk to so I think you should talk to her, she is a friend and that is who you need right now tell her that you are just having the thoughts and are not going to do it but you are very depressed and need to talk about it and would she be willing to lend a shoulder for you. Then maybe she can offer you some input on some suggestions of what to do. This depends on your age and your reasons for being depressed, you need to get help from someone as it is not good to be thinking of suicide, take my word it's not good! You can contact me if you need someone to talk to! I've been there......
2007-06-16 06:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, know that depression is something that requires help, just like if your are physically ill you'd see a doctor.
Second, many people suffer from depression for many reasons. You said you recently moved, that says a lot. When we move, it is a traumatic event. We leave behind everything that is familiar and go to a place where everything is unfamiliar...and scary sometimes.
Depression is something that can rob you of your life. What to do, you first need to understand that you have to talk to someone who can help you. Your friend cannot do that, only a professional can. Go to school and see the counselor who is there to talk about just this issue. There is nothing to be afraid of, that is what they are trained to do, to help.
Next, I strongly suggest you sit down with your parents and let them know how you are feeling, honestly spell it out. They love you and want the best for you and it is VERY IMPORTANT that you tell them.
There are many other things you can do; call a suicide hotline and talk to the friendly and caring person there (totally confidential), contact a free counselor online (I know of one online Christian Counselor you can Google, I think she is through Blogsource.com), talk to an adult (teacher, family member, friend) who can help.
You must tell someone so you can get the help you need. Why be in this pain any longer? You can feel better again. Take care, if you need to talk, email me, ok?
2007-06-16 13:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi:
Yes Music, you need to talk to someone. No question about that. Who ever you talk to you must know that if they tell and who ever they tell it is due to love and concern for you.
I want you to keep this number with you always please.
1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
Call it, use it, it is 100% confidential and anonomous. Please don't do anything foolish. I have been there and it is not a pretty place to even think about going.
It's easier sometimes to talk to someone you don't know (therapist, psychiatrist) because there is no pre judgement of you. They take the facts that you tell and they help you. The key word is HELP. That is what you need and we all need help in life. Every one of us at some time or another, we all need to ask for help.
Please think about what I am saying and what every one else it saying. read it, think about, process it and ask for HELP. It's ok, really it is. Give yourself permission to ask for help and it will be easier.
There is no reason for you to feel this way and be ashamed to talk to someone and to feel alone. You are not alone. You have family and friends who love you very much and if they knew how much you were hurting, they all would be right next to you to help and support you.
Parents (I am a parent) can't help their children unless we know there is a problem. Parents are not mind readers, so if you don't tell us, we can't help. Please talk to Mom and Dad. You will feel so much better once you know you have support, guidance and help, I promise.
You take care of yourself. If you need to talk, my contact information is in my profile and you can use it any time you choose to.
Be safe and be well.
2007-06-16 14:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear music=life, you should be in a tough situation thats why you think of suicide.
I think you should talk it over with your friend and let him/her know that you want it to be a private thing between the two of you. I am certain that he/she will agree to this.
If there be anyother person you can talk to, please do. Life can be real tough and I am certain that there can always be something we can put up with that doesnt endanger our life or end it when it gets tough.
I have gone through tough times in life and it has been amazing that when I was giving up there was someone sent by God whom I can talk to, when I look back I see that there is always a way out for us in all situations though some of our circumstances will never change.
Am certain and pray that God help you.
2007-06-16 13:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by enc e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell her! Tell her you just need to talk to her & not to tell anyone else!But if you really think you might hurt yourself you have to tell someone who can help you, that would be a lot better then killing yourself. If it's that bad then someone finding out & trying to help you wouldn't be so bad, would it? You have a long life ahead of you & things will change so much in the years ahead, you don't want to miss out on any of it! Good Luck!!!
2007-06-16 13:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sherrie L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone! If its your best friend or parents, they will help you! Trust me even if they make you talk to a therapist, isn't it better than how your feeling now?! Dont keep to yourself, it will only make it worse, but make sure you can trust this person, you dont want to tell the world.
Good Luck
2007-06-16 13:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by dhk414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone..please..What is going on with you probably has nothing to do with your sanity, tho it may play on it. What u probably have is a seratonin problem..the feel good stuff that soothes us. I tell ya, I take antidepressents and I can't imagine how I lived without them They did send me to a shrink to rule out any trauma which couldve caused. so, what? Tell your parents, your friend, a pastor, a teacher, the counselor. You will be glad u did. God bless.ooooo
2007-06-16 13:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by zen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a pretty heavy weight to drop on a friend. She isn't trained to help you in the way you need help. Your parents love you, and I'll bet if you tell them how you are feeling, they will find a professional to talk to. That's what you need right now, a professional.
2007-06-16 13:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her let her Know how you feel and Get it all out in the open ..... once you and her have Talked Let her know how Much better you feel and If the Talk has helped Be sure you let her know that you are no longer feeling like you want to hurt Yourself.
2007-06-16 13:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by Pogo Addict 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to talk to someone and tell them how u been feeling and wut u been thinking. ask them to have an open mind and tell them u just need someone to listen. if shes the one u wanna tell tell her but, if she says anything to anyone shes only doing it cuz she cares. but, if u dont wanna tell her then u could talk to someone online like a support group u could also call the suicide hotline at 1-800-suicide. u can email me or im me.
2007-06-16 19:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by blackoceanview 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋