2007-06-16 05:05:01 · 17 answers · asked by dolores m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Personally, I've been that child. Not entirely fun. I acted with respect, due to the fact he was my mother's husband for as long as I could withstand but eventually my stepdad ended up going to the hospital for some broken ribs. He didn't try starting any trouble after that. Then eventually my mom saw what I saw in him and divorced his a**. Children should always come first, do what's best for them. Talk to your husband about it.
2007-06-16 05:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by MrAnonyMuss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, any one can be a dad, but not everyone can be a father. That requires something special, like caring for everyone, no matter who they are or what the circumstances are.
Unfortunately some men never consider some one Else's children as their own, It's just a fact of life.
2007-06-17 02:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lee P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been there but from my point of view--there are still questions in my mind. Is there a father alive? What role does he play? Are your receiving child support?? Lots of mothers are very protective of their children--they want complete control of their children--final word--so if the step- parent says the wrong thing--then there is trouble--friction between all. I know if my children had a step-parent, I would wanted the final word in discipline. Just me. So give him some credit for allowing you "your" children. Just my opinion.
2007-06-16 05:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in a small way you can't blame him. If we lived in the natural world he would have eaten them already (haha just kidding).
No, but evolutionary wise, men are not drawn to other people's children, especially when you have to deal with an ex-husband I assume? He probably feels like he doesn't belong and is something of an outsider in your already established family.
The thing here is not to push him but to ask him what he feels comfortable with and what he doesn't. Maybe he doesn't like children but deals with yours because he loves you. If thats the case all you can ask is that he respects your children, but he doesn't have to love them or even like them, as long as he is pleasant.
Maybe something more is going on. Are they nice to him? Do they ostrasize him? Try to get both sides here and do things that make everyone comfortable. Don't try to force him to like them, that will only create hostility on both sides.
2007-06-16 05:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by MindDoctor16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how could you expect him to treat someone elses children as his own, thats something difficult for men to do,
men have a hard enough time developing a meaninful bond with their own children, what more someone elses children
he probably looks at the kids and sees the other guy, give him some time geeze
2007-06-16 05:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not have to 'consider' them his own children, because they are NOT his own children. However, he certainly should be treating them fairly and with kindness. If he’s not, then you have a problem.
2007-06-16 05:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...they AREN'T his children. You have all the control over them so of course he's going to treat them differently than if he was their father.
2007-06-16 05:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i dont know what to say but that if you notice that he is treating your children differently, the truth is your children could be noticing as well if they are old enough. i think you need to think about who is your first priority.
2007-06-16 05:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by bluebutterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say, but he is a jerk.
my husband is not the father of my 17 yr old daughter and he has been in her life since she was 5 yrs old. we have 2 boys together and he has never treated her differently
2007-06-16 05:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Charmed One♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that's okay, your children don't consider him man enough to be their father.
2007-06-16 05:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋