My baby is due in February next year and although I am happy I just cannot let myself get excited and it is tearing me and my partner apart. Let me explain:
I have two kids from a previous R-ship and they were both taken into care due to my on off R-ship with their daddy, the fact that i had agoraphobia and couldnt really leave the house due to this illness. The dad was on drugs and had been inside for violence and put me in hospital before. Even though i left him and tried my best to get my kids back, they were eventually adopted off to a lovely couple. i am still having contact with my kids as its an open adoption and my ex is not allowed any contact whatsoever! Anyway over the past 2 years since this happened, i have a new partner and am alot better with my agoraphobia as i can do things now that i couldnot before, such as walk out my flat, go shopping alone and this kind of thing! i dont want to lose this baby cuz of what happened with my other 2 kids. my lifes changed 4 better
2007-06-16 05:03:37 · 7 answers · asked by blonderosey 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
Since me and my violent ex broke up, i have gained so much confidence and allowed myself to trust people again. I have a lovely flat, my new bf works full time. I have good friends and family who are not bad people. They are good people who have not been in trouble with police or drugs! I dont have any contact with my ex partner. All the things social services had against me before such as my on off rship with my ex, being involved with wrong crowd, being vulnerable and violence. All these dont stand anymore as Im in a loving stable Rship with my new partner.
Because i am not with my ex, I am getting over my illness and things are going well for me! I just dont want them to take this baby just because they already took my first two away! What can I do? Serious answers only please. Thanks!!! xx
2007-06-16 05:11:18 · update #1
There shouldn't be a problem with you keeping your baby this time. If your life has changed for the better then there is noway anyone can say that you are a bad mother or will be to this child. I have known similar situations like this before to happen to people that I know and they went on to have more children that they are currently raising.
Only how a child can be taken is if the child is being abused and neglected, but since you have a wonderful relationship with your partner and the support of your family and friends then you have nothing to worry about.
Get excited and enjoy your baby. Good Luck!
2007-06-16 05:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did social services become involved last time? I don't think there is any desire to remove your children due to past circumstances, and if they become involved again this time would look at all the progress you have made. Also, the violence in the past relationship probably had as much to do with it as your agoraphobia so if your current rship is not violent that will also look better for your child staying with you.
2007-06-16 05:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by ladybmw1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have a Caseworker, right? Talk to him/her! Ask if there is a parenting class you can take or counseling you can go through to prove that you are able to care for this baby appropriately. Better to get it out in the open.
Better, yet, enroll in these yourself! Then they will not be able to take your baby. A successful certificate in a parenting class, and a clean bill of health from a therapist? Looks very good! Make sure you have lots of verifiable support, too, for when you get stressed out. A relative who is appropriate, or a stable neighbor who is a great mom, etc. Make sure you REALLY are able to do this, from the inside of you, out!
Good luck!!
2007-06-16 08:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Still Me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to Social Services. What was going on in your life before isn't the same as what is going on now and there would be no reason to consider you unfit at this time. But, you are in England and what they do there is probably not the same as they do here.
2007-06-16 06:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by TotalRecipeHound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you look after your baby properly and there is no voilence in the house, i cant see why it would be taken into care, you might find that social services keep a close watch on you though, their policy nowadays is to do everything they can to keep children with their families, even if it means lessons on parenting skills etc, good luck
2007-06-16 05:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by SUE G online 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the state will check out your new bf.does he have a job and can he support you or just the baby.My brother gf lost her 5 kids to the state.when she had a baby by him they gave him coustody.
2007-06-16 06:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry hun. as long as the situation u r in now is much better, u will be able to keep your baby. good luck and GOD BLESS U AND YOUR FAMILY!!! :)
2007-06-16 06:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by babiilove101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋