I've been seeing a man for about three months. He's a single dad with two teenage kids. I was thinking about buying him a small token for Father's Day.
I think it would mean a lot to him because so far in the relationship he's the one that wants commitment and a serious relationship. He even wants me to meet his kids but I told him that I'm not ready for that.
What do you think?
2007-06-16 05:00:54 · 19 answers · asked by Red 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
First of all, all these people who are saying you shouldn't give him a Father's Day gift because that would mean you think he's YOUR dad are ignorant.
It is perfectly acceptable to give ANY father a Father's Day gift -- they even make Father's Day cards specifically designed to give to men who are not your dad. Last year I gave one of my friends a Father's Day gift (because it was his first Father's Day as a dad :) ) and he was all smiles about it.
Having cleared that up, I know why you are struggling with this. The 3-month mark is a tricky time -- it happens to be where I am at with my bf too. I think giving him a gift would be very sweet of you, tho. And I really don't think it's too soon -- especially since you say he is the one hoping to be serious.
There were already some great suggestions above, and I also agree that it may be time to meet the kids soon. I think no later than 6 months would be your best bet.
Best of luck!
2007-06-16 05:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sure, buy him something. A tie, a shirt, BBQ euipment, a keychain, a bottle of wine, gift card for a car detailing, oil change, even take him out for a meal or a movie, or an ice cream. An away from the kids Father's day present might be appreciated!
And go to Hallmark and pick out just the right card!
2007-06-16 05:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the answer from Mark H
I don't think this is the best occasion to give him a gift, not just yet
Apart from the fact that he is not your dad, he has 2 children who will give him a Fathers' Day gift
If you want to give him a prsent, go ahead and buy him one, no need to wait for Fathers' Day :)
A nice Hallmark card with something you know he wants or needs, what a nice way to show your love and appreciation for who he is!
All the best!
2007-06-16 05:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you been married before also? Do you have children?
Do you realize that kids want one mother and one father and no extras? Do the children live with him or his ex-wife?
Those 2 teenage kids can make this relationship very difficult. Especially since all teenagers do not want extra parents. Most of the time they don't even want the biological parents. It is a difficult time when your children are teenagers.
It is super difficult if the mother and father are separated. Kids know how to play on this card. They also will not listen to the extras so don't even think that you can correct them.
Look what I'm worried about and all you are worried about is a token Father's Day gift. My Oh My!!!
2007-06-16 05:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
If you wish to continue in the relationship...
this may be a good opportunity to get him something small, and somehow incorporate the occasion as a way to meet his kids.
In a relationship, after three months, it's probably time to meet the kids.
2007-06-16 05:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its a great idea! But it really depends on how you feel about this guy. If you really like him and want to keep dating him, then get him a nice present. If you wanna get rid of him, don't get him anything. Sometimes the smallest thoughtful gesture makes the most special one. But overall, the better the present, the more you show how much you care.
2007-06-16 05:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by Kitz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please do not give him a token. That's insulting.
The absolute best gift I can think of will cost you nothing except a few words sincerely penned on your best stationary.
"In [month] you asked me to meet your children. I was not ready then, not sure of what I wanted. Today, Father's Day 2007, I still am not certain of what I want, but I do want you to know I am now ready to meet your children! Happy Father's Day!"
2007-06-16 05:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a good idea to give him a little something if he's already a father. Just something small and casual but it would be a really nice gesture, and he'd appreciate your thoughtfulness.
2007-06-16 05:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. He is not your pops. How do you know getting a father's day present from a girl friend would 'mean a lot to him'.
I think better to leave it to his children to provide the gifts. They are teenagers and may resent this from you. They have not met you.
2007-06-16 05:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh, what some formal portrait of the two certainly one of you, like maybe bypass to a portrait studio and get some pictures of the two certainly one of you. they have desktops recently and you may see the pictures in boost and then order the pictures you like. It does not might desire to be a marvel present, in simple terms something own. i think of since this may be a definite year, i might do something own, such as you probably did for mothers day. basically a effective meal out, and laughter and maybe bypass out later for ice cream or something.
2016-10-09 08:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋