can i marry a black man if im white?

Question

i mean is it gunna b hard to marry sumone that might have parents agenst it and wat bout my parents . . . i dont know what i have to do to like b able to marry a black man . . . but i love him.

Answer 1

Yes you can get married as all the laws against interracial marriages were removed from the books or struck down in the last century. However, you need to be very aware that you are right to assume his family and yours might have some issues with it. That will depend a lot on the age of the folks involved, whether or not they experienced overt racism at some point in their life (primarily for the Black family members but not totally), where they grew up and whether or not they see you as someone who can help their son through the issues you will face as a interracial couple or just cause more of them. Most of my family had no issue with my brother's marriage but more than a few of them did which is why they weren't invited to the ceremony.

Answer 2

Yes, you can marry any color man you wish. There are no laws against it.

What you need to decide is not whether you can, but whether you're ready to do so. If your parents disapprove, that's going to put a strain on your marriage because they may try to make you choose between him and them.

If your parents disapprove of your choice of partner - for whatever reason - you have to know firmly in your heart that this is the person for you no matter what, because you're not going to get support from home. Can you handle that? Is your love that strong? Do you love this man with all your heart and soul?

If the answer to those questions is yes, the grab the man of your dreams! If it's no, then let go and keep looking for your Mr. Right.

Couples marry across racial lines every single day, and lead happy lives together. Society in general has come to understand that skin color is just that - color. No big deal. In fact, my husband and I are one of at least three interracial couples on our block! Most of the time, I don't even think about it. A few people in our lives have expressed slight surprise when they discover we're not the same skin color, but nobody's ever given us any grief over it.

But society in general not caring much isn't the same as parental support. Would I have married him if my parents had disapproved? I honestly don't know. All my parents cared about was whether he was a good man and whether he'd make me happy. Beyond that, they figured it was all packaging, and packaging isn't that important.

Do your parents know your guy? Or are they judging him purely on his skin color? Is there some other reason they disapprove? If they don't know him, see if you can arrange a meeting so they can get to know one another. Make it public so everyone has to be on their best behavior. See if your parents will try to accept him.

If they still won't, then you have to decide. Only you can know if your love is strong enough to face the family firestorm.

Choose wisely. This is the rest of your life you're talking about. Sometimes that's worth taking a leap of faith, but only if you have the faith. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

Yes you can. This is not 1800 or even 1950 for that matter. Do you love that man enough to give yourself to him wholeheartedly and for the rest of your life for better or worse, richer or poor, in sickness in health until death do you part? Then marry the man. Is he a good man with a strong moral fiber and sense of family? Marry the man. God doesn't see color honey so why should it matter. Your parents will be angry if they are ignorant but they love you and when they see that this man loves you and has your best interest at hand they will love him too. When those grand babies come they will love them. It will take prayer and lots of it but if this man is truly meant for you then you will both be okay. Good luck to you both and may you have a long happy and blessed life together. If your family doesn't come around then that is their loss.

Answer 4

Why couldn't you? Times have changed, well at least for some people they have. If either one of your parents have a problem then theyre gonna have to deal with it. This is your's and your beau's decision if you wanna get married. Do you know how your parents feel about you guys dating? Maybe you both should sit down and talk with your parents and see how they feel, but in the end it's ultimately your decision. Good Luck and Best Wishes to you both!

Answer 5

I know a couple (the man is black and the woman is white) and they were married for 13 years. His mother hated the fact that he married a "white girl". They had to deal with the fact that his mother disapproved, but for the most part this was her issue, not theirs. If you are old enough and you both want to be married, then do it. Also, keep in mind that there are other people (even today!) that will disapprove and some of them will annoy you if you let them.

Answer 6

This is a hard question, and one you should talk to your boyfriend about. Jumping into marriage is hard enough without the complications of race or even heritage. Your lucky enough that Americans in general are more exepting of interracial marriges,but you and your boyfriends families are not 'everyone' are they? These are the people who have raised you,loved you and taught you. by doing something they themselves would not do makes you feel like your letting them down. Ask yourself these questions. Can you still be happy if both of your families alienate you? if either of you are in a 'tight knit' family,this would be hard.
Are you mature enough to look past bigotry in society and have people be comfronational about you without showing your temper?
if you have children together, will you teach your children to be proud of your combined heritages? and to love your families even if they ask like they are for another century? (because they are you know)
would you be willing to move away from both so you and your children will not have to endure the 'drama' from famliy?
If your serious about this,please try asking others that have had the same problems. conciling would be good,wether at church or another professional.
I do think your making a good start by asking this question,too many people go and get married without thinking of what thier lives will be like. sometimes,no matter how good,kind,and wonderfull you think a person is, some people will never see it. they say love is blind, and i think they are right. but remember,it is you that will be living your life,not your family. support each other,stay strong,and good luck.

Answer 7

No, you can't!
Do you know why? Coz you're judging him for his color and obviously it's not true love or else you would do all that you possibly can to make this happen!

Sorry to say this, but it's clear that you have (at least some) racist feelings towards black people or else you wouldn't have asked this question. Thus I don't recommend you to marry him because it is clear that you cannot stand up for your marriage because you don't believe in it 100%.

But generally speaking, if I were to answer your question, yes - what is wrong with marriage between black and white people?

This is the 21st centuray girl - no one thinks of color and race any more - or at least no one should do so!!!

Answer 8

r u serious?! im also in a bi-racial relationship but color doesn't matter if ur truley in love an both good 2 eatchother than race, or anything shouldn't come in 2 play.. if ur famliy has a problem with it tell them that ur truley in love an if they dont want whats best 4 u than they need 2 be quiet about your choice an let u live ur life

Answer 9

If you are of legal age, you can marry anybody you want to. If you are worried about what the parents will think, why not spend some time with them and let them get to know him and his parents get to know you. I think knowing a little about each of you will help the parents feel better about your relationship.

Answer 10

You can marry. But later on you should not regret it, because familiarity breeds contempt. Also you would be marrying somebody of a different race. So you have to think twice. Your children will be of mixed race and will have difficulty to be accepted by the community.