i want to have one with him so should i tell him? so we can try something new? will he be annoyed that i pretend i do have them? or will he accept the challenge....?!
2007-06-15 21:02:18 · 14 answers · asked by sophie k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
many girls arent able to orgasm at all, but you may be able to try something else to see if it is just relaxing or finding the right position. I have been with a girl that couldnt ever do it with past guys, but was able to when we had sex so it might be the position or speed. But you need to tell guys after you sleep with them that that is just how you are and dont feel bad about it. Sometimes, you just need to practice by yourself to try and please yourself that way so you'll know your body better. Good Luck :)
2007-06-15 21:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by jasonolivo2181 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NEVER, EVER FAKE AN ORGASM!
EVER!
I KNOW how tempting it is, I KNOW how under pressure you can feel but really, you musn't. For so many reasons.
From a purely selfish point of view, it's a stupid thing to do cos he thinks he's doing something right, and he isn't, and so he keeps doing it and you get stuck in a rut.
Guys do orgasm more easily than girls. I orgasm about once for every 4 times my bf does - but it doesn't bother either of us. We don't have sex for the orgasm.
Also, it's gonna be a big ego blow. He thought he could get his gf off every single time, and now it turns out he never has? He's going to feel really imasculated. And possibly annoyed. If he takes it well it is probably good, if not it could push you apart. But you should definitely tell him. And in future - just don't. It's not worth it.
2007-06-15 22:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lyra B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, Hopefully your English is not very good and you're not typing like that because you're twelve. But anyway, faking is never a good idea. You need to get in the rhythm a bit more and not think about the orgasm so much, it should come naturally and not because you forced it.
Dont tell him you have been faking it, just stop faking it and say something like 'oh you're not romantic enough lately' and hopefully he will become a bit more attentive to your needs from then on..
2007-06-15 21:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by bruvvamoff 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you love him and that lately your orgasms haven't been the mind blowing kind and that you want to get yourself worked up more so you can go over the top so to speak( with his help of course) try some more foreplay and perhaps some toys_ he will probably be flattered and turned on by your love and trust in him to try new things! Good luck Hun!
2007-06-15 21:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by daniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should tell him. How else is he to know that you are not getting the necessary pleasures out of lovemaking.
If you never wish to have any improvement, and if you always wish to lie and fake it with him, then by all means do not tell him. But, please note, any lover worth their salt, would like to know how to improve your experience.
Telling him that he can improve your feelings can be as easy as taking his hand in yours and guiding it to your favorite pleasure zones. Then manipulating his hand, in the manner and with the pressure which suits your body and your desires. He should thank you for 'teaching' him what you like, and he to make you go wild with desires.
Too often men do not know what spots are pleasurable to a woman, and what pressure or lack thereof is necessary. Too often, men have no idea even where the G-Spot is. It can be fun showing us these things. Please do.
2007-06-15 21:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by MasterMmmm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U mean u attain orgasm and he thinks u pretend it or u really pretend it. well if u r really having it than just ask him to put his finger in there to get it proved. and if u r pretending it than plz dont, try to get urself involve in foreplay and try new postions in which u both feel comfortable or read something erotic. good luck.
2007-06-15 21:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by kumar v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how well you've been with him If its a long time and hes never made you come. that'll be quite a shock. if its not long then tell him. Or you could say it hasn't be in a while.
2007-06-15 21:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him you haven't or he'd feel horrible with himself. Just tell him that you'd like to try something different and tell him what you'd like to try so you can.
2007-06-15 21:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is personal and do not have commanity in it with others .
because it is purely gods gift givien to every person on the earth.
if you are strong make him strong by praying to god and by giving good food and rest.
because males takes max toil in every thing.
2007-06-15 21:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by purushotham a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont tell him it will make him feel bad just get him to try more things in the future to make sure you do.
2007-06-15 21:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by lindsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋