when my fiance asked me to marry him, he had already chosen my engagement and wedding rings.
we went and "visited" the wedding band each week in the store and i showed all my friends.
when crunch time came the jeweler confided in us that that sort of wedding band is the highest repair rate out of all wedding bands as it isn't actually designed for everyday use. the diamonds keep falling out.
they repair this type of ring all the time, some are bought locally others from other states, but all of that type of ring are suspect to the diamonds fallingout.
we decided not take the risk and we chose another gorgeous ring which i love.
i told my friend (who is also engaged) all about this.
today she called me up, she has just bought the exact wedding ring.
would it bother you if your friend bought the same ring you had previously had in mind?
btw i don't want that ring, i am happy with mine. but i feel kinda like she's copied me.. & hasn't taken my advice about the diamonds ..?
2007-06-15 20:58:12 · 19 answers · asked by chilly 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
of course you want your ring to be different from everyone's, it is a very personal, and sentimental thing.
I am sorry that she has made this special experience something less than it should be.
She should change her ring to something else,that is really not nice at all, I wouldn't do that to you, she should have thought about you, but when your ring becomes sentimental, and the diamonds fall out, and you can't get more, or it breaks, and you have to get another, you will feel an empty void, and want it back. It's better this way.
At the most I can tell you, she must admire you enough to choose a ring that you like.
Chilly, I am so very excited for you, I haven't told you how much, but I am, and I want you to know that nothing is going to ruin this experience, and that this ring, over time, no matter what, is going to be a special sentimental symbol, come 5 years, you will know that this is a truly personal and special ring, this is the ring HE put on your finger,this is the ring you wore through all the hard times, through all the amazing wonderful times, and HER ring hasn't been through that.
Your ring will hold all the secrets of your love, and just like your love, it is not a superficial thing. It is a genuine band of your love, that symbolizes your eternal love for each other.
Love will go in circles, and when you find that your just going in circles, only to find yourself back in-love starting all over again, and you look at the ring that HE chose for you, you will know, that is all that matters.
2007-06-16 18:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by . 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nah. Obviously you aren't the first person to choose that wedding band since he talks about how many he has to repair. It would be diff. if you had custom designed it or something. For me that would be like getting mad because we both had a diamond solitare engagment ring. Its a really common style and fashionable right now so of course someone is going to have the same.
As far as not taking your advice. You warned her and passed on the information you were given by the jewler. It's her loss if she wants her wedding ring to spend alot of time getting repaired instead of on her finger. Some people value looks over practicality and some don't.
2007-06-16 12:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's to be bothered about? I'd take it as a compliment that she liked a ring I once liked so much that she wanted it. What about that could possibly be bothersome? It would be a little weird if she bought the same ring you ended up with, but not with a ring you ultimately rejected. Suppose you had shopped for the rings from the beginning with your fiance and had looked at 100 rings that you didn't choose. Could your friends never consider any of those rings? This is a petty thing to be worried about, in my opinion. There is so much to enjoy about being engaged--go enjoy them!
2007-06-16 12:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whooo caaaaresss? I mean, really...she liked the ring? she liked the ring. What difference does it make in the scope of your life? Honestly. You got a ring she got a ring...
Who cares if she didn't take your advice? I bought a ring that people said the diamonds would fall out of time and time again and I said "screw it, I like it anyways...."
What are we FIVE? She copied you, come ON! Seriously. I just returned from the emergency room where a friend almost died and you are worried about someone COPYING an idea you had PREVIOUSLY? Get a little perspective and move ON.
2007-06-16 04:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes Chilly, It Would Bother Me. Something As Personal As Engagement And Wedding Rings Are Just That. Personal And A Private Gift Between A Couple.
2007-06-16 04:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by thegidget2 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you should worry about it. She respected you enough to not get it while you still had it in mind, but when you told her about your new ring, she probably took it as an "All signs say go" type of message, and went ahead and got it. It would no longer matter if she got it anyway, since you both would not be sporting the same ring.
2007-06-16 04:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just think, you purchased a ring that will last you a life time.........and she purchased a ring that she might have to get the diamonds replaced in it. Sometimes the diamond itself costs more in the long run. So don't worry about it. You are happy with what you have, so don't worry that she didn't take your advice. It's her own fault....not yours.
2007-06-16 09:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ali Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me too!! I had the same problem with my wedding dress. My ex-best friend copied the dress that I wanted at first. But anyway let her have the ring, the diamonds will fall out anyway!!lol
2007-06-16 08:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Person 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
let her learn on her own .think of it this way u got the ring u wanted not the one u didn't want.u made out ahead . let her have the headache, u don't! plus u get look at a ring everyday that both picked together not just him.plus it is a sign of ur love for each other. so be happy for youself & hubby! best wishes...........plus the best part is when u get to say told u so!
2007-06-16 05:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by countrygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a problem and she didn't copy you. I'm sure she thought it was OK too because you were not going to own the ring anyway. You can't call dibs on rings you don't own or do not plan to own. I sound like I am talking about who gets to play on the swings though - calling dibs, copying, etc. Get over it.
2007-06-16 10:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋