Well I am with my gf for more then 10 months now. I am 24 years of age. I never had any relationship in my life. I feel in love with this girl, 10 months back. After couple of months of knowing her I found out that she had a serious past relationship which went on for 3years. She broke up only few months befor meeting me. I discovered this fact by hacking in to her yahoo account and reading her chat conversations.
Now, my problem, I was and I am still deeply in love with this girl. We had a very big fight after I discovered about her past relationship and she tried explaining that she afraid of losing me and that why she never told me about her past relationship.
These all happened about 6 months back, but one thing I have observed in myself is that i have grown too much suspicious about her. I still hack and spy on her personal computer.
Please if anyone can let me know, what am i doing is right or wrong? And how I get myself completely out of this?
Every reply will be appriciated
2007-06-15 20:30:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're going to kill her feelings for you by being dishonest and sneaky. What you're doing is also illegal.
2007-06-15 20:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to ask yourself why you are hacking into her computer and spying. You found out about the past relationship by hacking -- what made you do it in the first place? Are there other things about her that make you suspicious?
As for the ex-boyfriend -- how did you date for 10 months and never talk about her past relationships? It amazes me that you were together for that period of time and her most recent ex-boyfriend NEVER came up. Is that because you never asked about it, or did you ask and she lied?
If she lied, there's your answer... she isn't trustworthy and might be hiding something. If it really just never came up, ask her about it now and see what she says. Don't tell her you hacked into her computer, but please stop doing it -- if you feel like you have to do that type of thing to find out about her (you can't just ask her) then maybe you shouldn't be together. Without trust, the relationship is nothing.
2007-06-15 20:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by KaLei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can surely be mentally disturbing but still I would say that it was her past, before she met you. If you were to minus this knowledge from your brain and see her otherwise would you still think less of her. In other words has she done or made you feel suspicious since you both have started seeing each other. I would guess no!. I think you should talk to her and end this topic for good and STOP hacking her comp. she seems fine by what you mention, just relax and give that girl some hugs! go now!
2007-06-15 20:39:02 · answer #3 · answered by All Aces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) What you did and are still doing is 100% WRONG. You have NO RIGHT to mess with her own private messages!
2) What is it to you if she had a serious relationship BEFORE meeting you???? What's wrong with that??? It doesn't have ANYTHING to do with you!
3) This girl must realy love you my friend, 'cause otherwise she'd have dumped you right away 6 months ago when she found out you hacked into her account.
2007-06-15 20:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she was with him she was with him not you! Now she is with you and not with him! If you love her then love and trust her. the worst is you will suffer a broken heart. Dont hack in anymore and say your sorry! thats in the past let it lie there! My gf has had at least 13 or 14 past bf shes been intamite with! Ive had at least 20 or 30 in my life or more! but today shes my love and future wife! I dont care about yesterday---and neither should you! Love her and trust her ---Or leave her and chance missing out on the best thing that could have been in you life! Jelousy is for fools and controle freaks---think about it!!!!
2007-06-15 20:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by daniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really see a problem, the past is in the past. What are you fussing about? It's not a big deal. She was not with these men while she was with you. Stop going through her private things, that is an invasion of her personal space. If you are really in love with girl, you would trust her. Stop being silly.
2007-06-15 20:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could in my opinion be disenchanted too. carry out a little extra investigating until now leaping to conclusions. ascertain you recognize each and every thing and function all your information. i could merely confront him one extra time and say this (we will call him Bobby) "hiya Bobby, i'm in undemanding terms going to hold this up one final time and then i'll drop it and that i do no longer choose for to talk approximately it anymore. i'm exceptionally aggravated on the fact which you have a facebook account and your in undemanding terms chum is somebody who i in my opinion do unlike and he or she has led to issues for us interior the previous. It incredibly hurts me which you do no longer think of that could be an excellent deal because of the fact i could in no way be that disrespectful to do something that hurtful to you. So i'm letting you recognize that i do no longer like it and that i wish you won't talk together with her, yet I have faith you and that i've got faith you to do the final ingredient." Then go away it that. That leaves each and every thing in his palms on no remember if or no longer he messes up or no longer. You advised him your dropping it, yet you dont like it and which you have faith him to do the final ingredient and which would be to cutt her azz off! good success and massive HUGS from NC!
2016-10-17 10:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her past relationship, if it is truly over, should be of no concern. However, if you are "hacking and spying" on her, you should rethink your own feelings. Perhaps you are not in love at all, but merely possessive.
2007-06-15 20:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can see why you would be a little suspiscious
if i were you i would stop hacking in and just sit down and have an actual talk with your girlfriend
i think she might appreciate you trying to work things out
2007-06-15 20:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by kirby w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, you are being very wrong by spying on her on the computer. you need to stop and either trust her or break it off.
2007-06-15 20:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋