But im still hurt from my past relationship, my ego is damaged, self esteem damaged. I know i wont get a women interested in me until these are repaired, it's going to take time. Why wont a woman love me when I'm down. I see it all the time, man gets weak, woman leave or not interested.
2007-06-15 20:06:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, the good news for you is that you recognize that you're damaged -- most people would rather deny this. Now take the next step and get some help and work through this. It doesn't always have to be this way for you. I think you're really brave for recognizing this.
I think you're right about most women not finding "weak" men attractive. If you find yourself bursting into tears when you get in any confrontation, well, you might be "weak," and there's not much you can do to change how the world sees you (at least til after you work through your issues). But I really doubt you're like that.
Don't confuse vulnerable and self-reflective with "weak." Women absolutely CAN be attracted to vulnerable and self-reflective men, so long as you don't wear it on your sleeve. I dated a guy once who (despite being a successful attorney) CONSTANTLY kvetched about how he was going to get fired, how dumb he was, how skinny he was, how bad his self-esteem was, and on and on. After a certain point, I started to believe him! His bruised ego became a self-fulfilling prophecy and his constantly depressed state became the centerpiece of our short relationship. (To put it in crude colloquial terms, yes, women get turned off by whiny p*ssies.) I'm not saying that you should turn into a guy who is all bravado and devil-may-care, but just be conscious of whether you are broadcasting your insecurities to the world.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-06-15 20:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I feel you. Been there before, a couple of times. No worries, we all get weak. Just stick to your homeboys for a while, hang out, deal with the pain, go into it, get through it. You will. If you really get horny, get an escort, or a sensual massage - whatever. Just don't expect a woman to step up and make it all better. That's a ton of pressure for a stranger.
2007-06-15 20:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to date a man who obviously has some hang-ups because of his ex...that's a turn off. If I was on a date with you and you were all down and out...I would immediately think that your sad because you want back with your girlfriend, and I'm wasting my time.
Hide your insecurities from girls, don't talk about your ex or how hurt you are over it, act like your completely over it.
Fake it till you make it.....you can do it!
2007-06-15 20:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh so not true...there are a lot of girls with a motherly/nurse complex who like to heal guys like they're sick puppies...but if you're still hung up on your ex you've ot a different problem entirely. As long as youre over her it's fine if you've still got some internal damage
2007-06-15 20:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by tonzalove23 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey listen, you could be hurting as much as you want, once you do not lose your self confidence you can attract any woman.
2007-06-15 20:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
evaluate that no longer all females are indignant with the aid of this, and not all adult adult males take it in stride. that's what *defines* sexual harassment - if somebody (even a third social gathering who sees or hears it!) is indignant with the aid of it. i do no longer think of it has something to do with the intercourse of any of the events in contact, this is greater a query of flavor, ethics, or acceptance of habit.
2016-12-13 04:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody loves happy and fun people. And right now, you don't sound fun or happy.
2007-06-15 20:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋