I have a niece that is 16 and she is constantly getting into trouble. The thing with her is, she is whatever the situation is at the time. Another thing with her is, if people aren't focused on her, she starts in with her drama. Most of the time it's trouble she starts, so focus will be back on her. Not long ago she done something (I won't go into that) that hurt my feelings. Well, she e-mailed me the other day and asked for forgiveness. She also said that she has turned her problems over to God. Now, the thing is, I don't know whether I can believe that or not. If she has turned her problems over to God, then God Bless her. You also need to know is she's done this before when attention wasn't being focused on her. She lies just about all the time, so it's a little hard to believe her now.
What can I do to help her or to find out if she's sincere? It's really bad when you don't know if you can believe a word that comes out of her mouth. Please give me some advice.
2007-06-15 19:53:09 · 18 answers · asked by tracy211968 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Dr know it all...I'll just let you know I did forgive her and I also told her that God knows what's in her heart.
2007-06-15 21:03:59 · update #1
All you can do is share the truth and help her what you can.
She is the only one that can truly repent to Jesus.
Pray for her.
2007-06-16 07:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by robert p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By their fruit you will know. Just watch her and observe. Is she reading and does she understand scripture? Are their any changes in her for the better? I mean changes that would lead you to believe she is truly with God? It could be that she is just seeking attention for some unknown reason and that is why she was rude to you. At age 16 they are going through so many changes. Teenagers can be just weird at times and normal the next minute. Try and remember yourself at that age. What were you like and what kinds of thoughts went through your mind? Keep praying for her, as God really does hear us. Well, I hope I have helped you some. God Bless
2007-06-16 03:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dakota Lynn Takes Gun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems your niece is not receiving some type of affection from someone very important to her in her life, so she causes problems to get the attention she is craving. After all, any attention is better than no attention at all.
She has to grow up. She has to make her mistakes and learn from them, just as all of us do.
What are the "Life Lessons" that she will learn from these experiences? What are the "Life Lessons" you are learning from her experiences. God shows us lessons not just from our own experiences, but from everyone we come in contact with everywhere.
It seems she is trying...give her the benefit of a doubt without judging her. Too many set their selves up as judge when God has that job. Let God handle the situation by putting it in His hands.
2007-06-16 03:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is remove that gigantic plank in your own eye, so you will be better able to remove the splinter in your niece's eye. Since she's asked for forgiveness, then you should forgive her. Anything less would be un-Christian. Whether or not you can believe her, is really not your problem. Jesus will separate the wheat from the goats, or something. Just be a loving aunt. Hell, she emailed you about it, that should stand for something.
2007-06-16 03:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dr Know It All 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She asked your forgiveness. Forgive her.
However, do not let her treat you like a doormat.
Sometimes it is not only ok but sane to tell someone you can no longer be their friend, etc. That does not make you less of a Christian.
A different example: a rapist converts in jail and asks his victim's forgiveness. I would ask her to forgive him (by God's grace, it might be in words only). I would never ask her to have a light snack, lunch or dinner with the former rapist.
2007-06-16 02:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your niece is in a lot of pain. Why don't you try to help her find the source? She acts the way she does for a reason. It's possible she's been abused, and acting out is the only way she knows to deal with her feelings.
2007-06-16 03:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by YY4Me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me as if she is using God as an excuse to get attention. All you can do is sit back and pray for her spiritual growth. Maybe soon she will have an epiphany and see the light.
2007-06-16 02:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by llselva4 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why don't you try talking to her... she needs attention right? tell her you're not going to trust her anymore and if she wants your trust back she has to earn it. by earning it she has to do the opposite thing she's doing right now. teens like me, get mad at you parents sometimes if you don't pay any attention to us. it just makes us think you're never there. try talking, compromising, and deals with each other. sorry if it doesn't help...
2007-06-16 03:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by my name 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive that thou shalt be forgiven -Luke 6:47.
This is the best advice I can give you.
2007-06-16 04:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by great gig in the sky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient. She will eventually grow up. Sounds like your sibling spoiled her rotten. Ignore her and act as if she is insignificant to your own serenity and happiness. Reality is good for a child.
2007-06-16 03:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by Truth7 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋