he hurt me, and made me when i didnt want to, im just so scared. He is so controlling, i dont know who to reach outside, im kept with him, because he makes me stay in the house when he is out. i dont know what to do, please help me
2007-06-15 19:34:47 · 35 answers · asked by Stephy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
call the police and tell everyone you trust and get the hell out of there
2007-06-15 19:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of that house NOW! Seriously! I just recently meet someone and she has basically said the same thing as you. It will only get worse and worse. He will be abusive. You need to just move out when he goes to work and disappear. This man could kill you. I've heard it happen before. The woman I know. Got stabbed! She didn't even report it! Because she had the captive mentality of falling in love with your captive. And didn't want him to get into trouble! WAKE UP this is your life. There are so many other guys out there that would treat you right.
If you need to see an example of this the only movie coming to mind is "007, The World is not Enough" Sophie Marceau ... Elektra is the character you want to observe.
You are basically being brainwashed into loving this guy. Get HELP NOW!
2007-06-15 19:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jackel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I can seriously sympathise with you... having gone through almost the same experience as you. It is best that you talk to close friends/family members that you can trust and confide in. If not, the best solution I can possibly think of is talk to your boyrfriend. If he truly loves you, he shouldn't have done what he did, and he'll listen to what you have to say. Communication is key in this case, be it with the person who did wrong to you, or other people you're close to. Since he is your boyfriend, and not just some random stranger on the street, it should be easier to tell him what's on your mind. I'm not entirely sure what your relationship with him is, as I'm a third party looking in, but judging from your question, I sense that you're desperate and have no where to turn to. I'm sure there are helplines in your area that can aid you further, so it'll be a good idea checking them out. In any case, close friends/relatives are a good source of not only comfort, but help in times of need. Hope everything turns out well, and that you can get through this trying time. :)
God bless.
2007-06-15 19:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by wani-ology 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He raped you. Go to the emergency room and ask to have a rape kit done. He is an asshole and you need to be able to protect yourself from him.
How does he make you stay in when he is out? Does he lock you in the house? You need to call the police. Call 911 if you have to and let them help you get the F&#@ out of there.
2007-06-15 19:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by joanby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live with him, the best thing you could do is try to find a way out now. Don't leave without a plan. You don't need to feel like that, or even be in that type of situation. Call National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-SAFE, or (800) 799-7233.
2007-06-15 19:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Frenchi' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww Stephy, you need to try and take control and get away from him and tell the police. I know it must be really hard. But all woman are strong and independent. You need to stand up for yourself sweety. Because whatever he would try to do next to you, he would just bring it to himself. What he did he knows he did a bad thing. And now he doesn't want to regret it like he should. I know it must be hard, and I can understand if you still feel for him. But you can't let him take control over you like that. If you want to reach me my email is laura@ghabel.com
And I know you will get through with this, no matter how hard it is.
2007-06-15 19:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by Pixie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember seeing this on a t.v. show. Teenage girl broke out of the house through the window with little belongings and just ran and ran from the house until she knew she was at least ten miles away from the house. The boyfriend abused her and raped her too. But the consequences of running away was that she had nowhere to go and her boyfriend didn't allow her to have friends or to see her relatives.
2007-06-15 19:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please get out of there NOW. This man is not good for you.
Is there a phone? Call the local police for help. If you don't want to do that, then find the number for a women's support group/shelter and ask them for help getting out. Don't wait. This sort of things tends to get worse, the longer they are let go. You can't wait until he beats you, or something worse.
I pray you will find the strength to protect yourself, and leave.
2007-06-15 19:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
911
2007-06-15 19:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by PRiNC3SS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
National Sexual Assault Hotline • 1.800.656.HOPE • Free. Confidential. 24/7.
Does he lock you in the house? You obviously have access to the Internet. You don't work? You need to get out of this relationship ASAP. If you don't have family, friends, or someone you can stay with until you can be on your own. Go to a shelter somewhere. If he did this to you one time...what is going to happen to you next time.
2007-06-15 19:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if your serious and u dont do nything ure gunna end up like one of those people telling there escape story on oprah u need to tell sumone anyone a frend family member how long have u 2 been together
2007-06-15 19:46:19 · answer #11 · answered by jellybean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋