My bf and I are both 16 almost 17 and have been together for 2 yrs. I am on the pill and we use condoms but I want a baby with him so bad. I know they are a lot of work because i have twin neices and a nephew but i still want one. I would love to have a baby that we made together. It would be so special.
2007-06-15 18:43:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
what you REALLY desire is unconditional love.
that is what your heart is really seeking.
To really LOVE a child, is to give that child a good life full of attention and time and material posssions.
You can't GIVE all of that to a child when you are still so young.
It IS special that you want a child with your boyfriend. but get married honey. and wait until you both have a way to raise and support the child correctly.
do the RIGHT thing.
wait.
What you REALLY are seeking.. is that feeling of love
2007-06-15 18:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It IS special - God made it to be a special thing between a husband and a wife.
You think you want a baby, but don't do it! Graduate from high school, go to college, get a job, get married - THEN have a baby. You don't want your baby growing up on welfare just because of your own personal selfish desires.
Think about your baby. You're going to want to give your baby everything you can give him or her and you won't be able to EVER if you have the baby at such a young age.
**Ask if you can take care of all of the finances of your neice and nephew for just a week... and stay there with them for that entire week (change ALL the diapers, get up at all hours in the night AND do your homework)... see how you feel after that.
2007-06-16 04:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by pumped up! whoo hoo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's great that you have been dating for 2 years and sleeping together. I'm proud of you both for using protection. Babies are wonderful and VERY special. However, you are TOO young to be parents. You both need to finish high school, and try your best to go on to college. Then, after you both are married, with career jobs, you both can have that SPECIAL baby and it'll mean SO much more, because you both have invested the time into your relationship and careers. Children require around the clock care. It's fun to babysit, but when it is your child, it's a whole other story. If you both plan to live with your parents, that will put a strain on your relationship, and you both will fight because of the sleep deprivation, and you will find out really fast that you can't just pick up and do what you want, when you want. That baby comes first and foremost. So, If you are ready to support that baby that you want so badly, and you can provide, food, shelter, transportation, health insurance, clothing, daycare, medication, baby formula, diapers, wipes, bottles, burp cloths, a crib, bedding, strollers, car seats, playpens, and SO much more, go for it. Just don't look to welfare to support you. Try supporting that baby on your own, without government help, and you'll see why so many people will tell you to wait ... your young, and your life is full of promise, invest in yourself first. Love is great, and if it is true, it will wait
2007-06-16 03:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by momof3anglz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely not a good idea to have a baby. You may think you understand how much work they are because you have nieces and nephews but you can't even know the half of it! Not to sound mean but 17 year olds do not need babies. Enjoy being a teenager and finish out school. Once you have a baby, that is it, your life is no longer your life. You will live and breathe for that baby. There are no breaks or time outs. Trust me, at 16 almost 17, you don't want a baby. The idea of a baby may sound great and that is wonderful but you will make a great mother once you are older. Please, trust me. It's great to want children but make sure you an adult and not a child yourself. Live life and have fun childfree for now.
2007-06-16 01:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read the first line - Teen and THINK I want a baby...
either you want a baby or you don't.. what if you get pregnant, are you still going to think you want one? What about at 2am when you've tried everything you can possibly think of, and your baby is still up and crying, what are you going to think then? Or when you and your teen boyfriend can't afford diapers this week, or formula - what will you think then?
At 16 and 17 you just aren't mentally ready. You may think you are - and you can argue with me until you are blue in the face - but you just aren't... I'm 21 - my fiance is 24... I don't think we were even ready for our son. I don't think at any age you can be ready, honestly... but at 16/17 you don't have the knowledge and tools to take care of a child that way. Do you two live on your own, pay your own bills? Can you support yourself? Who will support this baby if you have one?
Of course having a baby together would be special... it would also be more special when you can afford to take care of it, and provide for it the way it deserves. That is really special.
You need to think about this a little more - you are just TOO young. Slow down, and enjoy your life as a teenager. Get your educations, get married - enjoy each other...
2007-06-16 01:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tabby 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just imagine this...my mom got married to my dad when she was 16 and got pregnant for the first time at 17. she is not 40 and just finishing a degree from college so that she can make more money to help support her 2 kids still living at home, and have nice things in life. Babies are little miracles and you're going to want to be able to give it everything you can.....you can't do that if you are still in high school. Get done with that first, and then see where life takes you!!
2007-06-16 02:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by laceyalexisb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies are super expensive. A baby might make you happy for a while, but that joy will turn into sadness when you realize you have no money to pay for diapers, food, or anything you or the baby may need. Its not just the work thats hard on new parents, its the money involved. Make sure both of you have good jobs before having a baby. And by good, I dont mean working at a restaurant making a little over minimum wage. Making that amount of money may pay for rent or car insurance, but it will definitely not pay for everything a baby needs.
2007-06-16 01:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please think long and hard b4 you make any life long decisions about having a baby, I like you wanted a baby as a teenager. The difference is that i didn't talk to anybody about the hurdles i would go thru. I did have a baby at 15 years old and have been thru almost everything you can think of to raise my child.. I never finished High school and have worked at times for Lil of no money in order to take care of her. She is now 15 years old and i don't regret having her but trust me i have missed out on a lot of my life. I had dreams for myself that i was never able to fulfill because i was so busy working to support my child on my own. Her father and i had been together for 2 years b4 i had her and separated when she was 10 months. Please finish your education and get a good position b4 you have any children of your own. Live your life and enjoy life b4 you bring another life into this world. Good luck!
2007-06-16 02:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by stacy m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have no clue how hard having children is going to be!!! Your entire life changes. Just because you have neices and nephews does not give you the "true" picture of parenthood! First of all....the kids aren't yours...therefore, you're not responsible for their well being and them becoming good people! Second of all.......you see them maybe a few hours during the day.....not 24/7!!! Third of all........you do not have the parental duties of getting up every 2-4 hours for feedings, changing dirty diapers, and staying up all nite when the child is not feeling well! And, you are not old enough to take of yourself....how are you going to take care of a child!? They are very expensive!!! If you truely want children....than please wait until you are old enough and take of yourself so that you can truely enjoy being a parent!!!
2007-06-16 01:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you may know that you want a child with this guy and that it would be special, but this child would be even more special if you waited until you two were married and could support the child. I hope i helped answer your question. Good Luck in coming to a conclusion.
With love
AbBiE <3
2007-06-16 13:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋