What is wrong with being a virgin and keeping oneself pure and sacred for the one you love?

Question

Why has being a virgin or the word, "virgin", become a "four-letter" word?

Answer 1

It sounds right to me.

I guess it's considered old fashioned, but still better than those who don't.

One problem with having sex before love is that it can confuse the reason why two people are together. I have seen it many times. The evidence I can point to is those who are divorced, the rate is kind of high according to most people, yet almost all do it.

Love doesn't quit when there is disagreement. By the same token, it doesn't serve the self, which is one reason why people get into trouble. They begin to lose interest, and the one you love becomes replaced by another person or idea.

I think that is why God set it up the way He did. He put a certain etiquette or order onto things. Those that recognize that and respect it are bound to do better at keeping the marriage intact.

So you are doing fine. And you are better than I am. I say that with sincerity.

Answer 2

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. Just as there is nothing wrong with reading the Bible or feeding the homeless.

But action alone does not make soemthing right and or virtuous. It is action and intent that help to define such. In other words, if you read the Bible in order to feel superior to others, to feel 'saved' and 'special' over 'lesser' creatures, then your intent affects the act, even if no one else but God knows it.

Feeding homeless people is a virtue, but not if you do it to get headlines, or only because it would look good on your resume at a high-priced law office.

Likewise, being a virgin can be a very sacred act, since it involves an act of self-denial and a willingness to share something important with only one other, as a token of your love for them. But, if you use your virginity as a shield against being like 'other' people, and marry someone not from the heart but from the act of being virtuous, where is the virtue located?

Are you keeping yourself pure for someone else (a sacrifice) or for yourself? In other words, if your thoughts and motivations are with someone else, why do the opinions of others matter to you?

Answer 3

Nothing wrong with it. If that's what you want to do, however, I do think that adding pure and sacred to it is really just a nice man made notion. I think if we as a society looked at Virginity differently, we would not treat it wrongly. I mean, we say you LOOSE your virginity. You will never get it back. What if instead we said, Hey you have begun the first step in many sexual experiences. Sounds good to me. What if we celebrated our first sexual experience in a good way. I think in a way that would make us just as choosy with who we picked because we are celebrating a new path, but also nobody would feel guilty about having "lost it." That's what I think. I don't regret my first time.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with it at all. I didn't wait, but I wish I did. I don't see anything wrong with premarital sex, but that doesn't mean I am all that thrilled about my decision to have sex. I would have rather waited until I was fully in love. I'm not saying I wish I waited until marriage because I would still be a virgin lol but I would have waited nonetheless. Don't let others lead you into thinking that abstaining is wrong. I made my mistakes when I was younger but wound up abstaining for over 3 years and felt alot better about myself for it. And now, when I am with the man I love, it is a beautiful thing.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with it and dont you let anyone tell you there is. Hold true to what you beleive where virginity is concerned. You will not regret it.

I have 2 teenage daughters and 1 teenage son and I have taught them from the beginning to be virgins until marriage. Virginity is the only thing you have to give the one you really and truely love. You will find that if two virgins marry they are more likely to stay married and trust is not a big issue. They know in their hearts they can trust the other because of the length of time they waited for each other

God Bless you in your decision, know that there are alot of people backing you...

Stand for what you beleive.

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Answer 6

Virgin is a six-letter word. Let's count them now, V I R G I N, yes, six letters. There's nothing wrong with being virgin, damn! I ****** a girl when I was eighteen, mainly so I could say that I wasn't a virgin. Later on, I realised that the stuff I had been doing with guys had already put me in that category. I shouldn't have bothered.
The question you should be asking yourself is... Who Do You Love?

Answer 7

Nothings wrong with it. On the other hand, I don't know any virgin I would consider "pure" or "sacred". That's going a little bit too far. Is a person's worth greater or less because they've had sex or they haven't? I don't believe so.

If a woman's been raped and loses her virginity, does she become "impure"?

Answer 8

I'm Atheist so the sacred part doesn't play but if you choose to remain a virgin until you are married (I assume that is what you mean by 'the one you love') then more power to you.

You will only remain 'pure' (in this context) if you don't do anything to exchange bodily fluids.......kissing passes mono, intravenous drug use passed blood born pathogens and even receiving a transfusion will make you 'impure'.

Answer 9

through fact toddlers experience so deeply, yet have so little ability... that's is easy enhance up believing that it is the 'concept' that counts. Any grownup in spite of the undeniable fact this is conscious this is a lie. this is action & result, no longer purpose, that carry which potential interior the real international. I do define Love via purpose. That this is thinking the self pastime of yet another as though it have been your individual. yet finally purpose without action is incomprehensible. you may call such purpose organic, i might define it as ineffective.

Answer 10

Nothing wrong with it at all. Don't worry about what society thinks, do what you think is right. One should not be ashamed of being a virgin, those that stick their noses into other's sex lives should be the ones who are shamed.

I wish I had had that gift to give my husband. Sadly it was taken from me when I was a child.