I want to have sex!!!!!?

Question

Hi my name is kelsey and i am 14 and ready to have sex me and my boyfriend have been waiting for 5 years and every time we see eachother its on my period. So i want to see if i can do it and will it scure up my body i need help fast....... i need answers fast befor i mess things up i really want to and always wanted to..

I am a scard that he will dump me if we dont because i am still a vergian and say no all the time ..

I want to but i need help befor i do...


Your Friend

Kelsey (A.K.A SCARD)

Answer 1

Dear friend, please don't let that jerk take the most precious gitf that you'll ever posess. I understand if you think that you've both waited long enough, but you know what hun, it's with time that we really get to know the people we're with... and obviously you're with a sexed-up freak you probably won't be with that much longer. Please try to understand that having sex at any age, with any male would not make him love or respect you any more nor would it save a dying relationship, you'll only be post-poning the funeral. Also if you think that he'll dump you after 5 yrs because he can't get no sex and tell him by all means to go, cause what you have is something very special and rare kinda like diamonds but even better and shouldn't be just thrown away to keep the attention of some idiot, cause that'll make you the real idiot and loser. I know you wouldn't throw away a peice of diamond if you had one, would you???

As for your question, sex during your menses wouldn't screw-up your body, but it is pretty dirty because it's the wastes of your body being expelled, not the cleanest of stuff to roll around in.

Be samrt, make decisions you'll be proud of and good luck.

Answer 2

well all i can do is tell you that if you want to have sex, then do it, but you and your boyfirend NEED to take care when doing it. 1st, make sure that he wears a condom. 2nd use a water based lubericant. that way, it wont hurt alot.
But you are only 14 and you have been waiting since you were 9-10 years old!!!???!!! wow kids really are having it younger these days!!! If i were you, i WOULDN"T do it and i would wait till i was a bit older so that you can take things like birth control and the morning after pill just in-case the condom failed. I think that you should wait until you have found the right one to lose your virginity to. You are only 14 you have your whole teenage years ahead of you. If your boyfriend will dump you for NOT doing it, then he is worth dumping. a boy like that is not worth dating. that and the first couple of times that you do it, it wont be as awesome as you may think it is. it is really uncomfortable and unplesant. DONT do it IF your boyfriend is pressuring you!!! it is NOT worth it. And just because you have your period doesnt mean that you can't have sex. you can, but most women prefer not to. There is a special "cup" that you can buy and you can insert it into your vagina like a tampon. But that is a decision that is completly up to you. just like the decision to have sex or not.
talk to your good friends that have done it (which if they all are your age, i hope that they are smart and havent lost it yet. im not judging you, but i would think about this a bit more) and ask them about their experiences. the more that you understand about what goes on the first time from people who have been there, the more likely you are going to make the best decision that is right for you.

Answer 3

First of all...you are way, way too young to even being thinking about having sex let alone actually having it! You have been waiting since you were 9? Where are your parents and his parents?
Girl...you can be dumped if you have sex as well as if you say no. You can also destroy your life by having sex so young. There are even older girls out there that wish that they had waited for the right guy to come along and that they had not ruined thier lives by becoming pregnant or getting a disease. Your best bet is to concentrate on your schooling, and enjoying school functions, etc...rather than having sex.

Answer 4

It seems as though you are pressured into being intimate with him. If I were you I would reconsider this deeply and think about whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with him because you are still very young. In addition, your virginity is something very important so you don't want to just give it away to someone you're not even sure about being with forever.

What if down the line you find someone else that you may like and that it was him that you would have rather given up your virginity to? If your boyfriend loves you, he will wait and not pressure you because this is a huge decision. Hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 5

your gonna get a lot of people telling you to wait and dont let the guy make you do something you dont want to do. Though I agree with that, when your 14 your really dont give a rats Behind about anybody elses opinion, except the guy you want Fcuk. Something ive never understood.

Anyway, why do you want to have sex with this guy?
If he dumps you right after you have sex, how will you feel?
Does that feeling seem worse than how your going to feel if he dumps you because you wont have sex?
What happens if you get pregnant? how are you going to handle the situation without the guy? -because the guy usually isnt in the picture when you get pregnant.

My point, think about it, if you really want to have sex, just masturbate, watch a little dirty movie. and wait. This guy does not seem like he deserves you.

Answer 6

if he dumps u cause u won't do it... then don't... he don't love u then...
but if u feel like u really want to... then do it....
it will be bad for ur body....
you not supppose to have sex until ur body has completely developed and ur v is still growing...
you could damage it and stop its growth...
but ya know if u want to risk ur health for some guy who will dump u if u don't and still will dump u even afterwards...
then by all means...
give ur virginity away like candy...
use a condom....
he might have an std...
i wonder how old this boy of urs is...
(also if u have been waiting 5 years.... then u have some serious problems...)
WHAT KIND OF KID WANTS SEX AT AGE 9????
well, i'm guessing ur boyfriend is much older...
probably a perv...
CONDOM! SAVE URSELF FROM STDS!

Answer 7

hmmmm 14 and want to have sex.
Even though you feel as though your ready 14 is pretty young.
Think through it again and if you still want to do it go about it safely.
If yuo think he will dump you if you dont do it take the oppurtunity to dump him first, hes not worth it.
But just remember once your virginity is gone you can never get it back.
Sorry for putting more doubts in your head but you need to put serious thought into a matter such as this.
Good luck with your desicion :)

Answer 8

Hey man, you dont want to remmeber your first time like that, and besides you're too young to be going all the way. Wait a few more years. You shouldn't feel pressured into it either just because he says he's going to leave, thats the oldest trick in the book! And he's going to dump you right after anyways, so I say NO.

Answer 9

You're too young. You are asking questions that show that you do not have enough knowledge about what you are getting into. If your boyfriend dumps you for not sleeping with him, then he's really not the kind of guy you want to be with in the first place.

Answer 10

Hey Kelsey if a guy really likes you he will respect you. When a guy likes you he won't force you into having sex. The way I see it is after he gets it, he'll still want to leave you. You don't want to do something and then later regret it. Think about it and if you do have sex make sure to use a condom or protection.