In scary situaion ...need advice?

Question

This guy I met who happens to be (twenty years old times my senior) worked on my car about three years ago.He grew to like me romantically, and we ultimately, became friends.He became aggressive, and started sending me money, and doing other nice things for me, like helping me with my car without charging me, giving me advice, he even rented a room out to me, and he said I do not owe him anything except my body which equals sex.I've told him several times that I am attracted to him in that way, but will always be there for him as a friend, because I do care about him a great deal, but I do not want him in that way, but he tells me he's not leaving, he's not going nowhere, the thing that I'm worried about is that I gave him money to buy a car for me, I paid for it in cash, paid for the parts, and the paint job, that hasn't been done, I paid for this car almost nine months ago to start the body job, but he keeps bs me, telling me it will be done on a certain date, and then when that day

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19 seconds ago
comes he tell me something different, it;s getting to be very frustrating, so he told me he's going to sell the car,and I went into a fury, and over a month ago, he said that he would pay a paint shop to do the job, but everytime, I call him about it. he just gives me the same ol song, ...oh next week, and it just keep proloning it, I don;t know what to do? And do you think he's playing games

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14 minutes ago
I also want to add that I've told him from the get go that i am not intrested in having a sexual relationship with him period, but all he says is.."I'm not giving up" I won't slack off" I even told him I was a lesbian..just so he would get ...I do care about him, and I just want to be his friend what's wrong with that?

Answer 1

1) Move out
2) Get an attorney (or let the money go)
3) See 1

He expected payments in sex from the get go. What were you thinking? Your repairs will never 'get done' until he 'gets some'. Move out and get an attorney. Perhaps a restraining order on him.

Answer 2

Take a crash course in scary movies. I've done such a thing. I got so scared of watching something that I finally decided to watch The Exorcist. Now I don't recommend this because that is the scariest movie ever made if you are religious, but it is a technique that helped me... Also, what helps me is to watch the movie, not in a theater, but at home. Wait for it to come out on DVD. I feel much more comfortable and relaxed watching a scary movie at home rather in the theater. Don't be pressured to go see movies in theaters although this might not be the case (pressure). I watch scary movies at home sometimes because I can laugh at them to make myself not scared. Or maybe, you shouldn't go see scary movies. If you don't like them and they freak you out you should take a break for a while and wait until you can handle it. I know 21 year olds who are worse than you so don't be ashamed. Sometimes being absolutely terrified of scary movies never passes. You are who you are I guess.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with you being friends with him but on the other hand he is playing games with you to see if you would go to bed with him behind a car paint job or the things he have been doing for you..You are smart not to have sex with him. He should have respect for that all you want Tobe is friends with him. just ask for you car back and take it some where else.

Answer 4

first of all don't take any more gifts from him money, free rent, car and etc....as soon as possible move out of his place...if he said that he is not giving up then that is what he means and if he is alot older than u there is no telling what he might do...as far as the car goes he can only sell it if he bought it for u and if this is the case let him have it and get away from him...if u bought it get a male figure who is in your life to speak with him and try to get it resolved for u peacefully...u talking to him is getting u nowhere...yr safety is the most important thing...take care of yourself first and work everything else out later....good luck and my thoughts and prayers are with u.....

Answer 5

Your story makes me incredibly sad because I had feelings for someone significantly younger than myself,too and I wonder if I frightened her the way this guy frightens you? I don't think I approached her the way this guy approached you, but only she can tell me for sure. Your story made me feel creepy, but I'm glad you chose to share it. Thank you.
I'm not the one who needs to try to answer this question though.

Answer 6

you need to sue him in court for either the car, or your money back. You amy also want to consider getting a restraining order after court so he leaves you alone completely.

Answer 7

Hun get the cops he is stalking you and threatening you .

Also get out of the room he is giving you and ignore his calls