(17)i recently got engaged to, my now fiance, who is about to turn 19 and is currently in the air force, i just graduated high school and now attending college, we have been together for going on 4 yrs., my family is happy with it, he was living with me and my family for about a yr, because his father kicked him out for not going to church every week?!?! but he hasnt really told his family idk why, i have been dying to tell them, ...do you think they'll freak?
2007-06-15 16:50:58 · 16 answers · asked by LoLa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If his dad kicked him out about not going to church, he'll be furious to learn about your engagement.
2007-06-15 16:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by * 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
They will freak. But if a family will kick out a son for not going to church they have their priorities wrong anyway.
Congrats on the engagement!
2007-06-15 17:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think that your both too young and just because in join the air force and not a reason to get married. you both need time to enjoy life as teenagers you going to college there alone is a new world for you it not like been in high school. guy at 19 are mature for that kind of responsibility getting married is lot of responsibility work to live in your own apartment the bills that goes with that did you both really look at all of that? Don't think that living with your parent is the right thing to do because it not. so really think about this is he only getting married to prove a point with his father? I think there's a lot more problem between him and his father that he hasn't told you about and it sound like he would rather run from his problem then deal with them with his family now is that the kind of guy you want to married someone who runs from problem instead of facing them
2007-06-15 17:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
CONGRATS!!! I'm sure they will flip at first but after a while maybe they will come to their senses!!!! I got engaged when I was 17 also!!! My husband was 22. Funny thing is... he is also in the Air Force!!!!! Small world I guess!!!!! I am now 19 and we got married 3 weeks ago!!!!
2007-06-15 16:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by Charley M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he got thrown out for not going to church every week, yes, I think it's safe to say his family isn't going to be happy about this. Let him tell them or wait until you can tell them together. Don't do it by yourself.
He probably isn't ready to tell them because he is afraid of how they'll react. Give him a bit of time, but encourage him to be honest with them.
2007-06-15 16:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they'll give you the whole,"your too young to get married" speech. i would suggest waiting for the actual wedding until you are a little older, but that's up to you. if his dad kicked him out (for not going to church, of all things) would he really care what his dad thought? (i would, i'm just asking if he would). and besides that, he's 19, therefore a legal adult and doesn't need his family's approval before getting married. it does make things easier if you get everyones blessing, though.
good luck and congrats.
2007-06-18 12:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ask your self what you do when you consider which you look to hold close around with this lady besides. Do you smoke pot, drink etc? that's merely too undesirable this boys mothers and dads are sturdy friends at the same time with your mothers and dads with the aid of fact whilst he gets caught along with her your mothers and dads are going to be very indignant with you. / you rather have not got many recommendations right here. one million you should discuss with the 19 twelve months previous boy. in case you do no longer do drugs etc and he would not the two then you definately might desire to assert for his very own sturdy he desires to stay faraway from this lady or face obtainable drug fees and detention center time. 2. you may desire to bathe your palms of the full difficulty and don't have something to do with the two considered one of them. this is confusing to do earlier each thing yet in the long-term this is going to help the two considered one of you in case you the two distance your selves. you do no longer want to get caught up in her issues. or his whilst he gets caught.
2016-12-13 04:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm seems that you are going threw a similar situation as me... I am 18 and "getting" engaged to a 21 year old... we havent been together as long as you guys however we are having some of the same problems... Brian my boyfriend is scared to ask my dad if he can marry me... but even worse is we are affraid to tell his parents due to the fact that they kicked him out of his house when we first started dating because he was dating me and not whom they wanted him to date... My advice is to tell them and if they freak oh well... who cares... its not like they wont get over it...ultimately he is there kid and they will eventualy get over it and support him... let me know how it goes!!!
2007-06-15 17:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your engagement ! This is a trust issue let him tell his parents in his own way,be happy!
2007-06-15 19:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by peppersham 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they will flip out so i wouldnt be in such a hurry to tell them let him handle his parents his own way.he dose know them best after all and this way if they flip out it can no way come back on you for wanting to push him into telling them..im glad to hear your family are happy ..GOOD LUCK. you where able to tell your family the way you wanted to i hope let him be able to tell them his own way.i hope he tells them at least before you say your vows.but give him all the time he needs
2007-06-15 17:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by dlrswalsh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋